How to maintain required contact with manipulative ex-wife

[Anonymous]

Why is the OP post in third person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like "he" deserves it.

Indeed. OP, how old is the girl for whom you left your wife?

70% of marriages are ended by the woman. Just saying. Odds are she left the marriage.

Lol

[Anonymous]

You mean she left the sham marriage with the neglectful adulterer.

[Anonymous]

"Why is there "required" contact with an ex-wife if there are no kids?"

Well, presumably the good people of Virginia like the way the Commonwealth handles divorces, where the spouse who got up every day and went to work has to maintain the living standard of the one who sat around smoking pot and getting her nails done. Heaven forbid that she should have to go get a job to support herself after she leaves him! Personally, I think it's insane that it works this way, but that's how it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They divorced after years of BS by DW, during which time she would take off for months/years at a time without explanation. The distance never stopped her from charging up a storm on the credit cards and expecting him to pay them off since she never had a job while married. We've always assumed she was with other guys when she'd disappear for so long, but he never demanded that she recount her whereabouts when she'd show back up. Men can be really stupid sometimes. None of us can stand her. Sorry to burst your bubble, but women can be just as bad as men when it comes to taking advantage of others.

Ok so why are they still in contact at all? He can block her and never respond to her. What reason could there be?

Sounds like you are a naive new girlfriend believing every implausible thing he wants you to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are thirsty for revenge. They just can't let it go. If your husband leaves you for another woman just file for divorce and move on. Geez

Better yet do what Hillary Clinton did and never ever file for divorce and just do your thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They divorced after years of BS by DW, during which time she would take off for months/years at a time without explanation. The distance never stopped her from charging up a storm on the credit cards and expecting him to pay them off since she never had a job while married. We've always assumed she was with other guys when she'd disappear for so long, but he never demanded that she recount her whereabouts when she'd show back up. Men can be really stupid sometimes. None of us can stand her. Sorry to burst your bubble, but women can be just as bad as men when it comes to taking advantage of others.

Who is “we” who’s been around for all these years.?.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why is there "required" contact with an ex-wife if there are no kids?"

Well, presumably the good people of Virginia like the way the Commonwealth handles divorces, where the spouse who got up every day and went to work has to maintain the living standard of the one who sat around smoking pot and getting her nails done. Heaven forbid that she should have to go get a job to support herself after she leaves him! Personally, I think it's insane that it works this way, but that's how it is.

Why does paying alimony mean they need to be in contact?

[Anonymous]

No required contact if no children. He should block her. If she files a complaint against him I suppose she’d need to have evidence.

He can ask for a non harassment clause to be added to the agreement. Or just sue her for harassment if it gets to be too much, like she shows up at his house if he blocks.

He sounds kind of drama focused though.

[Anonymous]

Alimony does not require that he stay in contact.

Spare us your drama and have him block her already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They divorced after years of BS by DW, during which time she would take off for months/years at a time without explanation. The distance never stopped her from charging up a storm on the credit cards and expecting him to pay them off since she never had a job while married. We've always assumed she was with other guys when she'd disappear for so long, but he never demanded that she recount her whereabouts when she'd show back up. Men can be really stupid sometimes. None of us can stand her. Sorry to burst your bubble, but women can be just as bad as men when it comes to taking advantage of others.

Who are addressing here, unprompted?

Stop trolling.

[Anonymous]

If your boyfriend hasn't blocked his ex, it means he actually wants to stay in contact. The alimony transfers don't need personal contact.

So take it up with your boyfriend, OP and stop being so gullible.

[Anonymous]

Something is not making sense here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something is not making sense here.

And it's OP with her trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've heard of apps for co-parenting that document all the communications between the divorced people, but would that work for people without kids? Please share any links to these if you have them. Having her contact his lawyer won't work because she'll run up a huge legal bill for him by calling them every week. He just needs something that puts her on alert that their lawyers and the judge will be able to see all of their communications, which would hopefully inhibit her from harassing him. Ideally, this would be something he could check weekly or monthly so that he isn't forced to endure her random nasty grams or "poor me" diatribes at all hours of the day and night.

No kids.

wtf

Are you his new girlfriend or his elderly mother?

Bingo. OP is naive GF or helicopter mom or the DCUM troll.