Positive pregnancy test at 44

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just had #5 at 44.

Congratulations! I kind of wish we had had a couple more. We shut it down after 5 in our early thirties. Seven sounds ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is unexpected and due to irregular perimenopause cycles. So many mixed feelings. I love babies. But I'm so old. However I have plenty of money. I know the risk of miscarriage is very high at my age. I've had them before. I don't want to be miserable until a potential miscarriage, waiting for the inevitable.

*But I do want to enjoy being pregnant a while, instead of taking a pill right away*

Is there any way I can suspend disbelief, just like when I was a kid at Christmas, and live in the moment for a few days or weeks? I want to be briefly happy about this, yet not too down when I lose the pregnancy.

Try to just enjoy it all. I know you'll take your vitamins and your liver capsules (proper jaw development) drink your water and smile at the sun.

Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

My friend had her third baby at 43. She was shocked for months. And then, the cutest baby came with no issues. There are many more people in their late 30s and early 40s still having babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is unexpected and due to irregular perimenopause cycles. So many mixed feelings. I love babies. But I'm so old. However I have plenty of money. I know the risk of miscarriage is very high at my age. I've had them before. I don't want to be miserable until a potential miscarriage, waiting for the inevitable.

*But I do want to enjoy being pregnant a while, instead of taking a pill right away*

Is there any way I can suspend disbelief, just like when I was a kid at Christmas, and live in the moment for a few days or weeks? I want to be briefly happy about this, yet not too down when I lose the pregnancy.

Just because you are over 40 doesn’t mean you’ll miscarry. Why do you think this way? So many women are having babies over 40. And I know of people in their 20s that have had miscarriages.

[Anonymous]

In the same boat, at 43. Trying to stay positive and let things happen as they are meant to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG not another one!!!!!!!


Why don't women in their 40s understand biology?????

Because when you've been ovulating on day 11 of your cycle like clockwork for years, and never gotten pregnant outside of your fertile window of 4 days prior and 1 day past... it comes as a shock when you do get pregnant and figure out that the only way this could possibly have worked was if you ovulated on day 17 or something.

Stop shaming. It happens to many women. It could happen to you, and if it didn't, it might have been just chance.

How do you know when day 11 is when periods are irregular?

[Anonymous]

OP here.

Well, I miscarried.

I know I have a higher than normal risk of miscarriage due to coagulation issues and endometriosis. Plus age, and that poor embryo didn't stand a chance.

PP, most people having successful pregnancies in their 40s go through IVF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, I miscarried.

I know I have a higher than normal risk of miscarriage due to coagulation issues and endometriosis. Plus age, and that poor embryo didn't stand a chance.

PP, most people having successful pregnancies in their 40s go through IVF.

I'm sorry, OP. I hope you have an easy recovery and have the space to be gentle with yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, I miscarried.

I know I have a higher than normal risk of miscarriage due to coagulation issues and endometriosis. Plus age, and that poor embryo didn't stand a chance.

PP, most people having successful pregnancies in their 40s go through IVF.

I’m really sorry. We know you’re strong and you’ll be fine — but give yourself a little time to grieve and be sad if that’s how you feel. Internet stranger here just shed a tear for you. 🤗

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, I miscarried.

I know I have a higher than normal risk of miscarriage due to coagulation issues and endometriosis. Plus age, and that poor embryo didn't stand a chance.

PP, most people having successful pregnancies in their 40s go through IVF.

I am so sorry OP. Give yourself grace and time to grieve.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations and try to enjoy the moment and who knows hopefully it goes well! I am 42 and divorced and dating someone new who never had kids… I fantasize about this a lot but haven’t pulled the trigger regarding stopping birth control.

My friend just had a baby (IVF, donor egg) at 43 after many failed attempts and I am over the moon for her. Ignore the people saying you are too old… who does that, especially if it’s a surprise pregnancy?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, I miscarried.

I know I have a higher than normal risk of miscarriage due to coagulation issues and endometriosis. Plus age, and that poor embryo didn't stand a chance.

PP, most people having successful pregnancies in their 40s go through IVF.

Sorry op. Big hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations and try to enjoy the moment and who knows hopefully it goes well! I am 42 and divorced and dating someone new who never had kids… I fantasize about this a lot but haven’t pulled the trigger regarding stopping birth control.

My friend just had a baby (IVF, donor egg) at 43 after many failed attempts and I am over the moon for her. Ignore the people saying you are too old… who does that, especially if it’s a surprise pregnancy?!

Dude you're nuts. No one casually has kids with a stranger. Bad idea

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, I miscarried.

I know I have a higher than normal risk of miscarriage due to coagulation issues and endometriosis. Plus age, and that poor embryo didn't stand a chance.

PP, most people having successful pregnancies in their 40s go through IVF.

Fun fact, IVF doesn't even work either. I had 2 kids and miscarried 6. IVF didn't stop the miscarriages.

[Anonymous]

My college roommate is 50 with 5 and 3 year olds. No miscarriages or RE intervention, just pure good luck. Hope it works out for you as well!