Genuinely asking both parties: where do you want friends/family relationships to go from here?

[Anonymous]

My H is a conservative Republican cop, I’m a middle of the road Democrat.

My H cut off all Trump supporters in 2016.

I cut off rabid racism, bigots, etc… which became clear under Trumps 1st term since they became emboldened.

I still have a few Trump former voting friends.

Two didn’t vote this year.
Two I’m done with but one is a neighbor so I’ll be neighborly.
My Trumpy brother didn’t vote
My Trumpy SIL is a religious zealot and I rarely see her anyway since my brother died.

I have a few friends with Trumpy husbands and I get together with them but not their H’s.

I have found by shedding myself of selfish, bigoted, anti-gay, religious zealots, and generally ignorant people I have opened myself up to make new friends and take on new hobbies.

It’s actually been amazing. I found that maybe I was in a rut just hanging out with some old friends that I’ve had since childhood and it’s been really refreshing to me to meet amazing intelligent thoughtful women.

I had to cut off most of my husband’s family during the me two movement because they continue to invite a rapist to holidays.

I love my new full positive healthy life. We tell our kids to pick their friends wisely and I’m proud of myself for modeling that for them even though it’s hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have written off the other side. Truly I want nothing to do with these morons who vote against their own interest and those of others

Yup.
Its a question of morals, not political differences.

So you see two Americas. You see permanent division? Is that what you want, and what you will work for?

And torched family/friend/neighbor ties. Harder to create new ones with age. The maxim to refrain from discussing politics or religion at work or at family events was a good one. It predated social media and identity politics intensifying during COVID isolation.

I’m in my 50s and I haven’t found it hard at all to find new friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want everyone to stop worshipping any and all politicians and thinking they’re actually going to solve anything for anyone. I just want to talk about the weather, what’s for dinner, funny shows on TV.

Such privilege.

Just ignore the gays being beaten at Salisbury University.

[Anonymous]

I want to talk about a million things besides politics with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want everyone to stop worshipping any and all politicians and thinking they’re actually going to solve anything for anyone. I just want to talk about the weather, what’s for dinner, funny shows on TV.

Such privilege.

Just ignore the gays being beaten at Salisbury University.

I’m absolutely horrified by that. But horrible people exist and do horrible things regardless of who is president.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want everyone to stop worshipping any and all politicians and thinking they’re actually going to solve anything for anyone. I just want to talk about the weather, what’s for dinner, funny shows on TV.

Such privilege.

Just ignore the gays being beaten at Salisbury University.

That’s awful. But do you blame the fact that Jews and Asians have been beaten up on campuses in the past four years on the Biden administration? Do you blame the daily rape and beating of women on Joe Biden?

[Anonymous]

I cut most of those people off during Trump's first term. I had to face the fact that they lacked empathy and struggled to understand what facts were. They were mostly distant relatives and friends.

[Anonymous]

What I want is simple. I want to not discuss politics nonstop at family get togethers. We voted for Trump. Everyone else in the family voted for Harris. My parents and one of my siblings can only discuss their hatred for Trump now. That’s the only topic of conversation.

I didn’t grow up in a house where politics was the main conversation, ever. There are a lot of grandkids involved. My kids don’t want to go there now since all they do is yell about Trump 24/7. There are millions of other things we can talk about as a family. As the kids about their lives. Come to one of their sports events. I want them to think about life other than Trump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want everyone to stop worshipping any and all politicians and thinking they’re actually going to solve anything for anyone. I just want to talk about the weather, what’s for dinner, funny shows on TV.

Such privilege.

Just ignore the gays being beaten at Salisbury University.

Whoosh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want everyone to stop worshipping any and all politicians and thinking they’re actually going to solve anything for anyone. I just want to talk about the weather, what’s for dinner, funny shows on TV.

Such privilege.

Just ignore the gays being beaten at Salisbury University.

Whoosh.

That’s terrible but this thread was asking what to do about family and friends. I have a child who doesn’t want to visit grandma and grandpa because they just yell about Trump. I would like Grandpa and Grandma, my parents, to put a hold on the Trump talk in front of the grandkids and show interest in them. That’s what they can do.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, but Trump and his supporters are the quintessential gaslighting abusive husband. You're the crazy one for being miserable, feeling profoundly disrespected and wanting all of it to stop.

I have an abusive husband. I recognize the similarities.

I will never make nice with Trump supporters. I will be courteous if I meet them in a professional setting, that's all. I will never accept them into my private life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I want is simple. I want to not discuss politics nonstop at family get togethers. We voted for Trump. Everyone else in the family voted for Harris. My parents and one of my siblings can only discuss their hatred for Trump now. That’s the only topic of conversation.

I didn’t grow up in a house where politics was the main conversation, ever. There are a lot of grandkids involved. My kids don’t want to go there now since all they do is yell about Trump 24/7. There are millions of other things we can talk about as a family. As the kids about their lives. Come to one of their sports events. I want them to think about life other than Trump.

I feel a similar way, but in my family, they are all Trumpers and all they want to talk about is how amazing he is and how “insane” Harris and Biden are 24/7. Every conversation, no matter how far away from politics, can be twisted into either Savior Trump or Awful Biden/Harris. It’s pathetic. They don’t even want to talk about their grandkids without turning it, somehow, into politics. They seem to have nothing else that interests them or fills their day.

I want my relatives to think about life other than Trump, too, but in my family’s case, it’s him as Dear Leader, not him as Pure Evil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry OP, but Trump and his supporters are the quintessential gaslighting abusive husband. You're the crazy one for being miserable, feeling profoundly disrespected and wanting all of it to stop.

I have an abusive husband. I recognize the similarities.

I will never make nice with Trump supporters. I will be courteous if I meet them in a professional setting, that's all. I will never accept them into my private life.

OP here. I more than get where you are coming from, but you (and others) seem to be completely failing to answer the Jed Bartlett Question: What’s Next?

What’s Next? You actively just want there to be two Americas, and for things to go on as they are, which would mean defeat after defeat in the midterms and beyond?

What’s Next? Doubt you’ll answer, but I think it’s an important question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have written off the other side. Truly I want nothing to do with these morons who vote against their own interest and those of others

Yup.
It’s a question of morals, not political differences.

OK, so…then what? You want the majority of the country to be “immoral and unreachable,” and you want your party to keep losing again and again, because without any connection or healing of division or understanding, this is going to be it going forward? What do you want? Where do you want to go from here?

I’m tired of being in the only party that keeps looking for connection and healing. At least for now, I’m writing people off.

Yup. The hatred and immorality won. Why should only one side keep caring about everyone?

[Anonymous]

Other than my husband, I don’t know who my family voted for. Please tell me why it is so difficult to stop talking about politics.