Which custody arrangement would you prioritize?

[Anonymous]

Weekends get split equally.
Child goes to bed earlier so is able to wake up
Earlier when at parent Bs house.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP - you are going to need to try harder to come up with reasons kid should be deprived of time with Dad. This commute sounds 100% reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think Parent A should establish a bedtime that allows the child to wake up at a time that allows them to travel from either house.

Then I would vote for every Thursday, and every other Friday and Saturday night.

Or every Thursday/Friday.

Either way weekends are shared equally.

That’s absurd and kid get no time with parent.

What I am saying is if kid needs 11 hours of sleep, and needs to wake up at 7:00 a.m. on Parent B days, then Parent A needs to put them to bed at 8:00, so that their biological clock is set to work at both houses. Yes, maybe it's annoying to have to wake up at 7:00, but you do what's right for your kid, which means facilitating things going smoothly at Parent B's house so that connection is strengthened.

If Parent B has agreed to 2 nights a week, then having 2 weekday, and 2 weekend nights over every 2 week period is what makes sense. That way parent B gets to know about things like HW, and meets the teacher, etc . . . and also has a chance to do fun weekend things. Whether that's Th/F/S one week and just Th the next, or Th/F nights (until late Saturday) every week, probably depends on both how it's written, and on activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child’s parents have roughly 75/25 custody.

Child attends school near Parent A with 75 custody, spends about 2 days a week with Parent B

Parent A and Parent B live about a half hour away from each other

As it stands now, Child will often spend two weekdays with Parent B, which means Child misses out on at least a half-hour of sleep two days a week that they would get at Parent A’s house, in order to drive to and make it to school on time

Parent A isn’t willing to allow Child to exclusively spend Friday and Saturday nights during the school year with Parent B because they feel they will then miss out on all of the fun things that happen on the weekend that are harder to do at the end of a school day during the week

What should be prioritized? The routine of Child waking up in close proximity to school on weekdays during the school year? Or, prioritizing Parent A having quality time with Child during the weekend at the expense of this routine?

So, you want to take away all overnights over 30 minutes of sleep?

[Anonymous]

Put the kid to bed 30min earlier?