Weekend activities w shared custody

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a reason for the current custody schedule? As a PP said it will be easier to just alternate full weekends.

It’s the schedule and it’s not changing for now. May be something to consider for the future but not changing this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a reason for the current custody schedule? As a PP said it will be easier to just alternate full weekends.

It’s the schedule and it’s not changing for now. May be something to consider for the future but not changing this year.

Well adjust your attitude. You do what needs to be done for the kid--regardless of what the schedule is. If X falls on Sunday, then do it. Quit complaining.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a reason for the current custody schedule? As a PP said it will be easier to just alternate full weekends.

It’s the schedule and it’s not changing for now. May be something to consider for the future but not changing this year.

Well adjust your attitude. You do what needs to be done for the kid--regardless of what the schedule is. If X falls on Sunday, then do it. Quit complaining.

Ok well - I was asking here whether people think activities on Sundays actually are “what needs to be done.” Because we could try to cram them in during the week too. Thanks for being so helpful though!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

You are not making any sense. Sign your kid up for stuff they want to do. You and dad deal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

What do you mean scheduling 'your' sundays? Scheduling what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

You are not making any sense. Sign your kid up for stuff they want to do. You and dad deal.

How am I not making sense? My particular kid doesn’t have a burning desire for these activities (mainly tutoring and some 1:1 lessons). If he DID really want to be on a team with weekend practices obviously I would accommodate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

What do you mean scheduling 'your' sundays? Scheduling what?

Scheduling tutoring and lessons. Like I wrote in my OP.