Do you check when DD have a boy over?

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Anonymous wrote:We have cameras in our basement. I could check on them if I wanted to without ever actually going down there. But I haven’t felt the need to yet. We also have a lot of kids who definitely go down there with their friends to hang out while they're down there.

Sorry but cameras in your basement while having teens is CREEPY. Sounds like a pedo is hoping for some footage.

I honestly can’t stand how gross parents are.

[Anonymous]

I check on my son when his girlfriend is over. They are 16. We don’t have a basement so it’s easier to do a walk through. They have to stay on the main level (no bedrooms). Boy moms should be just as concerned as girl moms in my opinion. I’m not sure what his girlfriend’s mom does but she’s pretty strict so I assume the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weren’t you a teenager?

As a former boy who went over to other people’s DD’s houses I strongly advise you to check. We were never up to anything too BAD, but the less likely a parent visit was the raunchier it got (and it was often a DD leading the way!).

You’re not going to stop it if they want to do it and if you do too much wandering through you will drive them somewhere else, but it’s not a bad idea to slow the pace down with periodic checks.

Sure it was.

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We wouldn’t allow this in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Our teenage boy does not have girls over. He goes out, but I don’t see a need for a girl to be in our house, in his room. Go out and do something…. He feels the same so it works for us. If he goes over a girls house, so be it. Their house, their rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our teenage boy does not have girls over. He goes out, but I don’t see a need for a girl to be in our house, in his room. Go out and do something…. He feels the same so it works for us. If he goes over a girls house, so be it. Their house, their rules.

He feels the same because he's a player lol - doesn't want to commit to one girl anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Weren’t you a teenager?

As a former boy who went over to other people’s DD’s houses I strongly advise you to check. We were never up to anything too BAD, but the less likely a parent visit was the raunchier it got (and it was often a DD leading the way!).

You’re not going to stop it if they want to do it and if you do too much wandering through you will drive them somewhere else, but it’s not a bad idea to slow the pace down with periodic checks.

Sure it was.

My father had thrown my older sisters boyfriends out (literally physically on at least one occasion) - didn’t phase her much but made me extremely wary of misbehavior around dads… so yeah, I was usually the one listening for footsteps.

[Anonymous]

You all having cameras around your teens really gives me pause on allowing my teens to go over other houses. It’s not them potentially having sex (they will find a way like we all did) but that parents have it and can watch it on video. Videoing minors in sexual acts is a felony.

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I would enlist a younger sibling to chaperone and I’d chaperone the rest of the time. We’d do something together or I’d just do something nearby. That’s just a bad situation.

[Anonymous]

No need to even have members of the opposite sex over for one on one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my DD first started having a boyfriend over, at 15 1/2, I'd make pop visits to the basement. "Oh hi, don't mind me I just need to get something from the freezer" visits.

Now that she's 17 I really leave them alone. Condoms are always in supply in the basement bathroom.

This is kind of how it goes. At a certain point, do you really want to catch them? No, you don't. If you have to go down there and you suspect they are fooling around. You make a lot of noise. We never allowed my now college DD in her bedroom with BF, door to basement stayed open, but I didn't check in on them after they'd been dating 1 year plus and were 17-18. She was on BC, I knew they were sexually active. I didn't invite him to family vactions, no sleepovers, but lots of "watching movies" that I didn't police. Start stricter to set expectations that it's not a free for all. Then as time goes on, you adjust.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have cameras in our basement. I could check on them if I wanted to without ever actually going down there. But I haven’t felt the need to yet. We also have a lot of kids who definitely go down there with their friends to hang out while they're down there.

Sorry but cameras in your basement while having teens is CREEPY. Sounds like a pedo is hoping for some footage.

I honestly can’t stand how gross parents are.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have cameras in our basement. I could check on them if I wanted to without ever actually going down there. But I haven’t felt the need to yet. We also have a lot of kids who definitely go down there with their friends to hang out while they're down there.

Sorry but cameras in your basement while having teens is CREEPY. Sounds like a pedo is hoping for some footage.

I honestly can’t stand how gross parents are.

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And if you don't have them for catching teens in the act, what DO you have them for? It's one thing to have a camera on the basement door for security whcih serves the double purpose of making sure DD is sneaking dudes in, but why would you need a camera for the tv couch?

[Anonymous]

Our basement doesn’t have a door — I go down once or twice I no the evening to offer snacks and to put something away or whatever. They know clothes stay on. I’ve been wondering whether I should enforce the one foot on the ground rule but it seems pointless.

I don’t know the gf’s parents but I was thinking about texting them and asking if they have any rules they’d like me to folllw. My son goes over there a lot and seems to have a good relationship with the parents — goes out to eat with them, invited to family events. They spend more time there because her parents don’t like her taking public transportation by herself and they don’t drive yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our basement doesn’t have a door — I go down once or twice I no the evening to offer snacks and to put something away or whatever. They know clothes stay on. I’ve been wondering whether I should enforce the one foot on the ground rule but it seems pointless.

I don’t know the gf’s parents but I was thinking about texting them and asking if they have any rules they’d like me to folllw. My son goes over there a lot and seems to have a good relationship with the parents — goes out to eat with them, invited to family events. They spend more time there because her parents don’t like her taking public transportation by herself and they don’t drive yet.

I had sex with clothes on plenty of time as a teen.