You are a sweet MIL. Amazon has some nice teas and tea sets for fast delivery. |
Williams Sonoma tea and cookies (you choose) |
A friend's wealthy and gainfully employed but miser MIL sent her some expired makeup from some discount website wrapped in Sephora box. I doubt she is going to get many visitors in nursing home. |
Fauchon tea
https://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/p/fauchon-tea-gift-box-prod159641575?utm_source=google_shopping&ecid=BGCS_GP_CV_NC_PR_NONE&gad_source=1&gclsrc=ds May I join the waitlist to be an adopted DIL, you sound so fun and sweet! |
Add a check to this gift and you are good to go! |
If she's a reader, then I would buy a book of the month subscription.
https://www.bookofthemonth.com/6/the-best-new-books/hardcovers |
Honestly, I’d love a check from my MIL with a heartfelt note telling me she sees my family efforts, appreciates me, and wants me to treat myself.
Beats the flannel pajamas she always gives - despite the fact I’m obviously menopausal and might self combust in anything like that! |
Candles and soap are trash. Flowers are beautiful and sends the message that her MIL cares. Plus it has the added benefit that it doesn’t create clutter. When the flowers die, you throw them out. Candles and soda go in the junk pile at the bottom of the closet to be dealt with “later.” |
Telling your DIL that your son is lucky to have them is the best gift ever. |
Just don't do expired make up from resale store. |
I would much rather enjoy beautiful flowers than get more crap/stuff. I don’t care how nice the tea towels, mugs, chocolates, candles, lotion, perfume, or book is, I DON’T WANT MORE CRAP IN MY HOUSE. |
I’m a huge bookworm, but generally don’t like it when others buy books for me. I’m sure the book described above is probably great. It would almost certainly have more literary merit than my typical fare, but I would probably never read it. For me, I’d like an Amazon gift card so that I could add it to my Kindle book and splurge on books I really want. I might also appreciate a flowering tea (I haven’t tried these yet, but I love the idea). If you decide to go with flowers, don’t get an arrangement with lilies. They stink, are messy, and white lilies in particular are associated with funerals. |
With this amount an Amazon gift card (preferably sent via email) is best imho.
A check for $75 is just a pain to cash. A woman who is a mother figure in my life sends me the standard “$50 inside a car” gift almost every time, I appreciate it very much. But again, I am not rich and she has known me since I was a teen and $50 is probably still the same amount as it was in the 90s. Your DIL might be a bit offended. So yeah an Amazon gift card is best. |
Know your recipient. Some women love candles and soap. I have a friend that shops frequently at Bath and Body Works. I never step in the place but I buy special soaps there for her. My nanny likes a few high end soy candles so I buy her favorites. I never burn candles unless it is a birthday or Hanukkah. |
Cash can get stolen in the mail. Same for gift cards. Do a digital gift card instead. |