I’m the 49F who just posted and I have teens. My first thought when the 20-somethings say something to me at work is this kid is x years older than mine!!! But I am a naturally stodgy person but I don’t want to be that way. So I listen to them with open ears and mind. I try and remember myself when I was less jaded too. |
I manage teams of 20somethings on rotating projects and they tease me as the old man, but also ask me to hang out with them, which I'm not interested in doing.
It's not a midlife crisis. |
OP wishes she had friends...young or old... |
+2 You sound jealous and uptight op |
OP, you honestly do not see a difference here? Why is this so triggering for you? Why not just ask him if he wants to go and plan for it? |
And . . . why don't you do this? |
DP: I wouldn’t tell him how to manage his relationships with his colleagues. He can be an adult and raise the issue if he wants to go.
But it’s not weird either. My staff is 27-30 and I’m 38. We get drinks every couple of months. It’s not “being bros” it’s taking an interest in people’s lives. |
Lol I am 48 and I think I am the oldest at my tech company. I don't know about women but we men do get along very well regardless of age. We don't gossip we just drink talk sports politics women stupid shit and go home. |
OP they are all adults. What do you think will happen at a night out? |
agree. although if his coworkers were primarily female that would be okay too |
Whatever he needs to do to keep his job |
No, that is not a midlife crisis.
And he should feel free to spend a reasonable amount of time out with new friends from work. Socializing with people you enjoy and building work relationships is not a "waste." |
This is not weird at all. It's normal. Mid 20s can be friends with adults of any age.
No issue with him going out with coworkers. OP: You are the werid one in this scenario. (mid 40s woman here) |
So your husband is their superior/boss? Sounds like they're just sycophantically kissing his *ss; office brown nosing. Is your husband rich? Flashy car? Are you an abnormally attractive wife? Is he a scratch golfer? You live in a multi-million custom mansion? Those are things "bros" would possibly be actually jealous of. |
Not a midlife crisis, |