How do you politely stop a recurring favor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being rude. This person is family

Meh. The dog isn’t family. This isn’t a niece or nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being rude. This person is family

So family can just make whatever demands they want without consideration of how inconvenient it is on other people?

You're the rude one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being rude. This person is family

So?

[Anonymous]

Hi Larla, I am happy to help out on a one-time occasional visit but I'm sorry I cannot do this on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being rude. This person is family

So family can just make whatever demands they want without consideration of how inconvenient it is on other people?

You're the rude one.

They can ask, she can say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t lie or make it situational.

Why do grown adults have such a hard time just expressing the truth??!!

Bc so many other grown adults can not hear people tell them no.

Then try modeling adult behavior… maybe it will catch on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being rude. This person is family

Meh. The dog isn’t family. This isn’t a niece or nephew.

+1. A pet is not "family."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t lie or make it situational.

Why do grown adults have such a hard time just expressing the truth??!!

Bc so many other grown adults can not hear people tell them no.

Bc so many other grown adults don't enforce that "NO" is a complete sentence. You're wishy washy and feel like you have to fabricate some scenario and excuse to overcome or you'd soooo want to do it. Just say "No. I can't do that.", "No, that doesn't work for my schedule"., "No, I can't accommodate that.", "No, I'm sorry I won't be able to help you".

I don't understand why it is so hard for adults to actually say what they mean. Stand up for yourselves people. CRISE.

[Anonymous]

I’m always here for emergencies but I’m not available for regular pet sitting.

[Anonymous]

No good deed goes unpunished. Soon they are going to ask you to chip in to cover the pets medical bills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t lie or make it situational.

Why do grown adults have such a hard time just expressing the truth??!!

Some grown adults are simple and think that setting healthy boundaries or saying they can't do someone a favor is "mean".

And? Who cares? If someone thinks I'm mean because I don't do them a favor that doesn't bother me at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Hey Abby, just wanted to let you know I've gotten really busy in the last couple weeks and things will be hectic going forward, so you may want to make alternate arrangements for Fido and Scratchers. See you at the July 4th Family BBQ!"

Someone always has a suggestion like this to such situations and I think it's ridiculous, especially tagging at the end with "see you at the BBq!" or "btw your roses are gorgeous this year!" Way overdone.

[Anonymous]

“Larla, I’m afraid this sporadic check-in has become much too regular for what my schedule allows. A reliable pet sitter would give you the stability you need. Friday will have to be my last day dropping by. I’ll ask some friends if they know anyone you can contact.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Hey Abby, just wanted to let you know I've gotten really busy in the last couple weeks and things will be hectic going forward, so you may want to make alternate arrangements for Fido and Scratchers. See you at the July 4th Family BBQ!"

Someone always has a suggestion like this to such situations and I think it's ridiculous, especially tagging at the end with "see you at the BBq!" or "btw your roses are gorgeous this year!" Way overdone.

Then YOU make what YOU think would be a good suggestion and OP can pick whatever they feel would best fit the situation.