When do you know your 2nd kid as well as your first?

[Anonymous]

I had never thought about it this way OP but I agree with you. Love both kids but sort of "get" the older one a little more and understand him better. But I can't really compare that to how I felt when he was the age of his younger DD.

[Anonymous]

I am the opposite. My oldest is extroverted and always wants to be with friends. She is extremely talkative but never gets very deep. My youngest is introverted and wants to stick with me. He has big feelings that he shares and I feel like I've really learned to anticipate his perspective on things. I honestly feel like I am better at parenting him that my oldest. I do feel insecure about that!

[Anonymous]

My kids are 6, 4, and 1 and I am confused by this question. There has never been a time that I didn't feel like I knew all of them equally well? Maybe that's still to come when they're older, but I'm not sure why it would be a birth order thing?

[Anonymous]

This might sound awful but if we are talking about understanding their likes, inner thoughts, etc there is less to know about the second for a while because they can’t communicate as well. If you are comparing a three year old to a five year old, the youngest is less knowable. I have always felt equally bonded to them but I do get feeling like you have more info on the older one for lack of a better way to put it. Mine are now 5 and 7 and that gap has largely closed.