this is very wise and smart. esp the bolded. when i see people provoking envy i fall for it every time. which is ridiculous |
OP, you need to have accomplished more |
I just want to note that while becoming more successful or accomplishing more might reduce or eliminate the envy you have in specific instances, this is not actually a good way to "kill envy" because there will always be someone who has something you want. Always. Even ultra successful people can identify things they want and can't have.
You can only kill envy by becoming more at peace with yourself, so that even when you see that someone has something you want, it doesn't make you feel less than for not having it. You might see a job you want or some material good you want to be able to afford, and you might work to get those things, but you don't feel like there is anything lacking in *you* when you don't have it. Only that it's something you want in your life. In order to to truly kill envy, you need to fully accept yourself and have confidence in your ability to get the things you want and need. Envy is a form of fear (that you will never have what you want, perhaps because you don't deserve it). |
wow this is amazingly insightful. I am c level and have achieved a ton in life but I still have envy of a lot. i dont think success kills envy. |
This is very insightful. We grew up wealthy but neglected in other ways. My sister is a very envious person. She tries to make up for it by spending tons of money on stuff that doesn't make her happy. It makes me sad to see her do this. She has a lot of great qualities and she undermines herself with the envy and seeking material goods to soothe herself. I wish she could see that she's fabulous in so many ways and doesn't need to be so jealous or acquire so much expensive stuff. I rarely feel envy. When I do, it motivates me to go get whatever I feel is missing. I have my own messed up ways of coping, but envy isn't it. |
PP you replied to. Sadly, we have plenty of horrible disease in the family. I cannot express to you how money brings me peace of mind in that context, for potential long-term care (hence the trust fund). Also not sure what you mean by "interesting". I find my life plenty interesting, thanks. |
Well its definitely more interesting now that you shared those details. I'm sorry about the illness. We have a lot of that too. Thank god for insurance, is our motto. |
Do something worthwhile with your life, and develop skills to take meaningful action against the people you are envious of. |
That’s a weird take - do you mean that those who inspire envy deserve retribution? |
I don't feel much envy and given those choices I'd lean more to #2, envy is an abhorrent trait. Having said that I have plenty of other traits that are awful and frustrating (some you probably don't have too much of because you consider it far too terrible and unhealthy to indulge). We have so many factors that mold us and I think we just end up finding some things beyond distasteful while others are struggles we view as more understandable parts of human nature |
LOL hilarious! |