OP here. She doesn’t know I read her texts. I only do it occasionally! |
I don't think there is any way without her DD figuring it out. I feel like OP is not raising a dummy. And if she finds out... You think she is distant now? Just wait and see how bad it can get. |
That’s worse to do and she doesn’t know. Better make sure she doesn’t find out or even more will be closed off to you. |
This is worse and I suspect you are the cause for her backing away. I was around 17 when I realized how controlling, manipulative, and anxious my mom is. I pulled far away and now that I'm in my 30s, we have an okay relationship. But we aren't close. |
Why are you reading her text? What privacy does she have? |
I am not OP, but I get OP. We should all understand where she’s coming from. I mean, let’s not forget what she found; there is a boy involved now! A boy her daughter didn’t even tell her about. Don’t you think that is a huge reason to be concerned?!? |
I remember someone posting here once that when they figured out their mom was reading their journal, they started filling it will all kinds of stuff to bother the mom until the mom admitted it. |
This mist be some time travel from the past. |
Good lord, I would never expect my kid to tell me about a boy she had a crush on! Nor did I tell my mom that stuff. She met boyfriends yes but crushes? |
But, the OP already explained all of this. Go back and read her opening post. She says there here DD and her used be extremely close and she would tell OP everything. She also explained how if she fails a test, she won’t tell OP anymore, but she also won’t tell OP if she does well. This makes OP sad. She doesnt want her daughter to think she can’t talk to her. Why not continue reading the texts if it helps OP feel close to her DD ? (plus: there is a boy! ) |
Like a voyeur |
She’s 17, and has a crush on a boy. How is this newsworthy? Like did she like girls before? What is there to even tell? Doesn’t sound like they are dating. |
It’s hard when the relationship changes. OP is used to her DD talking about all kinds of stuff with her not that long ago. When DD pulls away as part of normal growing up, it leaves a gap or hole. Some parents find that hole sadder than others.
OP, is she your only child? |