Finally starting to feel stable in my marriage after H's affair absolutely destroyed me. Now I have a crush. FML.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you vacation discovery wife?

It seems so. As I remember, she feeds off of online engagement and interaction of her trials and tribulations.

[Anonymous]

It seems so. As I remember, she feeds off of online engagement and interaction of her trials and tribulations.

Wow. This was beyond unnecessary and you should check yourself.

OP, I remember you from your discovery thread and have always been impressed with your emotional intelligence, self-awareness and how articulate you are. In this case, I think sharing your thoughts/emotions with DH might take the shine off your feelings and would be a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Have fun and enjoy your work trip. Don’t tell your husband any thing no matter what happens. Don’t leave a digital trail if something does happen.

Definitely ignore this advice from someone who clearly lacks integrity.

[Anonymous]

Crushes are pretty normal. Just don't do a one on one happy hour or dinner or drinks after dinner.

[Anonymous]

You don’t even know if your crush will evaporate in person..

Don’t mention it (except maybe to your therapist).

You said things are good with him now. Don’t disrupt everything again. You are still healing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It seems so. As I remember, she feeds off of online engagement and interaction of her trials and tribulations.

Wow. This was beyond unnecessary and you should check yourself.

OP, I remember you from your discovery thread and have always been impressed with your emotional intelligence, self-awareness and how articulate you are. In this case, I think sharing your thoughts/emotions with DH might take the shine off your feelings and would be a good idea.

I’ve sort of had the opposite observations of Vacation Discovery Wife. There were a few months here where she was constantly posting about infidelity, like compulsively. And she seemed so desperate to convince herself that her husband was doing “everything” a wayward spouse should do even if it didn’t ring true. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Those kids have idiots for parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you vacation discovery wife?

It seems so. As I remember, she feeds off of online engagement and interaction of her trials and tribulations.

NP what does “feeds off of” even mean? This is an online community (such as it is). She is participating in it.

Op, welcome to being human. You will get through this.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think this is vacation discovery wife. The ages of the children don't match and that other post is quite recent.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy flirting but if you’re going to have an affair, don’t do it with a coworker.