People who bring their dogs everywhere

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I have to pick up my kid and I don’t have time to run home and crate my dog first. Be empathetic. Did this actually harm you in any material way?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is not something I used to think anything about one way or another if the dog was well behaved and didn't cause issues.

Now I have a kid who is just terrified of dogs. We're working through it and it's gotten much better in the last year, but she's still stressed around dogs and we have to manage it if we go to a friend's house with dogs or are anywhere that dogs are unleashed.

So now I get really frustrated when people bring dogs to schools and ignore "no dogs" signs and "dogs must be leashed" signs. It's one thing at a park where we have the choice to leave, but my kid should be able to be at or around her school without having to stress about dogs. That's why dogs aren't allowed, actually -- it saves everyone the trouble of having to worry about child safety around dogs.

Today I will go pick up my DD after school and I 100% guarantee there will be at least 5 people with dogs at pickup (they are explicitly not allowed) and at least one of those dogs will be unleashed. And if I say anything, I'm the jerk.

I'm pretty tired of it.

You have to live in the world as it is rather than how you wish. I can't take my dog to certain locations at certain times. I have to deal.

Lean on the principal for school pick up or drop off but know that it might be easier for her to over her fear. You can only control yourself

My daughter getting over her fear and people violating these rules to bring their dogs wherever are actually separate issues. Of course my daughter needs to get over her fear, it's something we work on all the time like we would any phobia. We want to adopt a dog so it's important to us that we deal with this. But that's a private family matter.

That's totally independent of whether these people should be bringing dogs to a place filled with kids where dogs are explicitly not allowed. Everyone thinks THEIR dog is the exception but dogs are animals and even a very well behaved dog might be startled or triggered by something random in an environment like that and good bite a kid or knock one over. That's why you aren't supposed to bring dogs. And even the people who DO bring dogs would be upset if people who had ill-behaved dogs brought them, right. So they just shouldn't bring dogs.

I've complained about this at PTA meetings and to the administration. They'll reiterate the dog rule via email and then people will continue to bring their dogs, plus now some people think I hate dogs (I don't). Some dog people are just entitle a$$holes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I have to pick up my kid and I don’t have time to run home and crate my dog first. Be empathetic. Did this actually harm you in any material way?

Kind of. My colleague recently brought her dog to work for the first time because her husband was out of town, and she didn't want to leave the dog alone. The dog was noisy, distracting, and shed in our office. I can't even believe it happened. I don't want to be the whistle-blower, but I am really annoyed.

[Anonymous]

We went to a hotel that allowed dogs, and everyone had their dogs out in the hotel breakfast room. It was nuts.

[Anonymous]

Oh, and I was woken up by a dog barking in the next room at 7am. Never going to one of those places again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think people like this don't really view dogs as living things. Those poor dogs are often so miserable.

That makes zero sense. I would think the opposite

They treat these dogs like toys or accessories. Your dog doesn't want to be in Giant with shiny floors where it can't run. It wants to be outside running in grass where it can smell things and not have to pee on the floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I have to pick up my kid and I don’t have time to run home and crate my dog first. Be empathetic. Did this actually harm you in any material way?

Work on your time management skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went to a hotel that allowed dogs, and everyone had their dogs out in the hotel breakfast room. It was nuts.

As someone who regularly brings my dogs to hotels (where they are allowed), this is infuriating! Of course your dog isn't welcome at breakfast. I am always grateful when we travel with our dogs that certain hotels allow them. In exchange, I try to be as considerate and unobtrusive as possible to avoid making anyone uncomfortable. Entitled dog owners who don't follow the rules ruin things for the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

My pet peeve is dogs at the supermarket. It seems like people in my neighborhood have just decided to incorporate stopping at the store for eggs or milk as part of their morning dog walk and it BLOWS MY MIND.

[Anonymous]

I was at Harris Teeter last week and a woman had a dog with her. We were next to the salad buffet. So gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I have to pick up my kid and I don’t have time to run home and crate my dog first. Be empathetic. Did this actually harm you in any material way?

I am plenty empathetic. It didn't harm me but there were a couple of kids at the meeting who are scared of dogs and one who is allergic. The janitors at the school saw it and were annoyed and said something to me after. It doesn't reflect great on the group, which relies on the goodwill of the school to continue to meet there.

[Anonymous]

I think this is happening because somewhere along th way people stopped enforcing the rules. Dont even get me started on the off leash dogs. I can't use an ideal running trail because of these rule breakers. And no one will do anything about it even though it would be lucrative to hire someone to ticket them. Just because you don't see that you're harming anyone doesn't mean you're not. I shouldn't have to avoid running or taking my kids to certain trails so I don't get jumped on by your dog...and if you are thinking oh my dog never jumps on people while off leash, this is still an issue because seeing them off leash will trigger a stress response regardless. I think people became especially inconsiderate about their dogs during the pandemic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My puppy is crated when we’re not home, and sometimes we have busy evenings after school with kids’ activities. I stay home with her as much as possible. When there’s no way to get around being gone all evening, I take her with us- usually to the outdoor practices/games where we can stay off to the side, away from everyone. She needs exposure to different environments and people to become a more chill dog as she matures. Sometimes I’ll walk her while the kids are in their activity. I don’t take her inside stores, to the busier athletic fields, or when it’s super hot outside.

Op here. This doesn't bother me - it's when it's specifically not allowed that is an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is happening because somewhere along th way people stopped enforcing the rules. Dont even get me started on the off leash dogs. I can't use an ideal running trail because of these rule breakers. And no one will do anything about it even though it would be lucrative to hire someone to ticket them. Just because you don't see that you're harming anyone doesn't mean you're not. I shouldn't have to avoid running or taking my kids to certain trails so I don't get jumped on by your dog...and if you are thinking oh my dog never jumps on people while off leash, this is still an issue because seeing them off leash will trigger a stress response regardless. I think people became especially inconsiderate about their dogs during the pandemic.

yes!! This weekend we were at a trail at our elementary school teaching my kids to ride their bikes and an off leash dog came running and barking and nipped at my son on his scooter. He missed, thankfully, but this lady was all flustered because "he doesn't like wheeled vehicles" and said he always flips out when he sees kids on bikes. Then leash him!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I used to think anything about one way or another if the dog was well behaved and didn't cause issues.

Now I have a kid who is just terrified of dogs. We're working through it and it's gotten much better in the last year, but she's still stressed around dogs and we have to manage it if we go to a friend's house with dogs or are anywhere that dogs are unleashed.

So now I get really frustrated when people bring dogs to schools and ignore "no dogs" signs and "dogs must be leashed" signs. It's one thing at a park where we have the choice to leave, but my kid should be able to be at or around her school without having to stress about dogs. That's why dogs aren't allowed, actually -- it saves everyone the trouble of having to worry about child safety around dogs.

Today I will go pick up my DD after school and I 100% guarantee there will be at least 5 people with dogs at pickup (they are explicitly not allowed) and at least one of those dogs will be unleashed. And if I say anything, I'm the jerk.

I'm pretty tired of it.

You have to live in the world as it is rather than how you wish. I can't take my dog to certain locations at certain times. I have to deal.

Lean on the principal for school pick up or drop off but know that it might be easier for her to over her fear. You can only control yourself

My daughter getting over her fear and people violating these rules to bring their dogs wherever are actually separate issues. Of course my daughter needs to get over her fear, it's something we work on all the time like we would any phobia. We want to adopt a dog so it's important to us that we deal with this. But that's a private family matter.

That's totally independent of whether these people should be bringing dogs to a place filled with kids where dogs are explicitly not allowed. Everyone thinks THEIR dog is the exception but dogs are animals and even a very well behaved dog might be startled or triggered by something random in an environment like that and good bite a kid or knock one over. That's why you aren't supposed to bring dogs. And even the people who DO bring dogs would be upset if people who had ill-behaved dogs brought them, right. So they just shouldn't bring dogs.

I've complained about this at PTA meetings and to the administration. They'll reiterate the dog rule via email and then people will continue to bring their dogs, plus now some people think I hate dogs (I don't). Some dog people are just entitle a$$holes.

I hope your daughter is able to work through this - it seems like the entitled/inconsiderate dog owners are a growing lobby. I have some trauma regarding dogs (bite requiring stitiches as a child + another bite later on requiring rabies shots, both from other's pets) and I also have a child with severe allergies. I realize I'm more and more in the minority of someone who wants the rules to be respected on these things. I don't hate dogs and don't mind them on a patio if they are leashed or whatever. I'm uncomfortable with strange large off leash dogs, no matter how friendly they appear. But your dog's anxiety is more important than mine I guess.