Offer/Tryouts Etiquette

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

BS. Just because you accept an offer because a club's tryout is early doesn't mean anything. A kid should always look out for themselves first. Clubs have zero loyalty to kids. All you lose is the security deposit. If clubs wanted things to be fair, schedule all tryouts within 10 days and all offers are valid until 48 hours after the final club tryout.

Well, if the new club knows you continued to try out, they'd be pissed. The other teams finding out you tried out after accepting an offer, pissed. It isn't about loyalty. If you have accepted an offer, don't go to another tryout. If you haven't, do what you like. But would never go after accepting an offer. Makes zero sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

BS. Just because you accept an offer because a club's tryout is early doesn't mean anything. A kid should always look out for themselves first. Clubs have zero loyalty to kids. All you lose is the security deposit. If clubs wanted things to be fair, schedule all tryouts within 10 days and all offers are valid until 48 hours after the final club tryout.

Well, if the new club knows you continued to try out, they'd be pissed. The other teams finding out you tried out after accepting an offer, pissed. It isn't about loyalty. If you have accepted an offer, don't go to another tryout. If you haven't, do what you like. But would never go after accepting an offer. Makes zero sense.

maybe we have different experiences, but why would anybody be pissed. It's kids playing soccer with other kids in different settings. Coaches understand this. I think parents are projecting here.

[Anonymous]

A youth club that cares about you trying out elsewhere is like an employer who punishes you for interviewing with a different organization. Incredibly insecure and not the right people with whom you should surround yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

BS. Just because you accept an offer because a club's tryout is early doesn't mean anything. A kid should always look out for themselves first. Clubs have zero loyalty to kids. All you lose is the security deposit. If clubs wanted things to be fair, schedule all tryouts within 10 days and all offers are valid until 48 hours after the final club tryout.

Well, if the new club knows you continued to try out, they'd be pissed. The other teams finding out you tried out after accepting an offer, pissed. It isn't about loyalty. If you have accepted an offer, don't go to another tryout. If you haven't, do what you like. But would never go after accepting an offer. Makes zero sense.

maybe we have different experiences, but why would anybody be pissed. It's kids playing soccer with other kids in different settings. Coaches understand this. I think parents are projecting here.

If you are certain you don't want an offer, its shoddy to go to the tryouts. Your kid is taking time and attention away from kids who want to play there, and it is difficult to form a roster when half the kids at tryouts you offer spots to were never i terested. Its a crap thing to do to the kids who might have made the team in the first place but for your kid just having fun

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

BS. Just because you accept an offer because a club's tryout is early doesn't mean anything. A kid should always look out for themselves first. Clubs have zero loyalty to kids. All you lose is the security deposit. If clubs wanted things to be fair, schedule all tryouts within 10 days and all offers are valid until 48 hours after the final club tryout.

OP clearly said they got an offer from their top choice...if you get that offer why would you try out somewhere else? quit projecting your insecurities on others.

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Anonymous wrote:I signed my DS up for a few tryouts at different clubs. Today we received an offer from our top choice. Should we let clubs that we have registered with that we iwll not attend? Is there a way to do so? Or is it not necessary in that they won't even notice/care, given the large number of kids attending tryouts?

Similar situation for my son. We are still going to other trainings/tryouts because it's always good to be seen and build relationships. Things can change and the soccer community is small.

If you have accepted with your offer, i wouldn't go to the other tryouts. That is wasting their time, not "building relationships"

BS. Just because you accept an offer because a club's tryout is early doesn't mean anything. A kid should always look out for themselves first. Clubs have zero loyalty to kids. All you lose is the security deposit. If clubs wanted things to be fair, schedule all tryouts within 10 days and all offers are valid until 48 hours after the final club tryout.

Well, if the new club knows you continued to try out, they'd be pissed. The other teams finding out you tried out after accepting an offer, pissed. It isn't about loyalty. If you have accepted an offer, don't go to another tryout. If you haven't, do what you like. But would never go after accepting an offer. Makes zero sense.

maybe we have different experiences, but why would anybody be pissed. It's kids playing soccer with other kids in different settings. Coaches understand this. I think parents are projecting here.

If you are certain you don't want an offer, its shoddy to go to the tryouts. Your kid is taking time and attention away from kids who want to play there, and it is difficult to form a roster when half the kids at tryouts you offer spots to were never i terested. Its a crap thing to do to the kids who might have made the team in the first place but for your kid just having fun

To be clear, I don't mean just attending random tryouts, but if you are interested in the club/coach now, or in the future, it makes perfect sense. Even if you've already accepted an offer but were contemplating the tgryout club before hand. in addition to putting yourself in front of those coaches, you're getting a feel for the organization. I understand it's a stressful time, but I think some of these responses are over the top. It's not a crap thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Etiquette 101 in session 😄

[Anonymous]

People here are too funny. Stop being so darn paranoid. Tryout as many clubs/teams as you want. The more the better…..more experience, more exposure to different coaches and their coaching style, free practices, and compare themselves against other players.

If the coach(es) that you accepted finds out, tell them you already made up your mind and accepted but since tryouts are free, it’s a free additional practice.

Life is too hard already…..being paranoid makes it harder.

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As the parent of a kid who didn't get an offer from the first choice team and is continuing to try out, this is so rude. The kids are all fighting for attention and it wastes everyone's time and attention if you know your kid doesn't really want the offer.

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My kid already received two offers and she's still going to Great Falls and Arlington.

See ya there.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid already received two offers and she's still going to Great Falls and Arlington.

See ya there.

Congrats to your kid!

For the offer, how much time do they give you before you have to make a decision and order a deposit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the parent of a kid who didn't get an offer from the first choice team and is continuing to try out, this is so rude. The kids are all fighting for attention and it wastes everyone's time and attention if you know your kid doesn't really want the offer.

Some of these parents have such huge egos and just want to collect offers they aren't interested in for their kids.

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Any advice other than 1) once you accept an offer, stop attending other clubs tryouts and 2) you should contact them if you attended at least one tryout to let the coach know you are no longer trying out, is just making life more difficult for the coach trying to put together a team.

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Anonymous wrote:As the parent of a kid who didn't get an offer from the first choice team and is continuing to try out, this is so rude. The kids are all fighting for attention and it wastes everyone's time and attention if you know your kid doesn't really want the offer.

Some of these parents have such huge egos and just want to collect offers they aren't interested in for their kids.

Yep

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid already received two offers and she's still going to Great Falls and Arlington.

See ya there.

Congrats to your kid!

For the offer, how much time do they give you before you have to make a decision and order a deposit?

Wondering this too. We are being pressed to give a decision but still have tryouts for two other clubs in progress or coming up. Kid has a preference for a different club but worries about turning down a sure bet when nothing else is set in stone. Have already asked for a little more time, don’t think we will be given any more…