Makes me sick women are basically set back 100 years. |
I’m not a lawyer, but I am not aware of a state in which an interim one doesn’t expire after a week. You don’t have all the information, PP. |
Way too invested in this, OP. |
Also, PP, the dynamic you are describing is classic domestic violence dynamic. Ask anyone who works on domestic violence cases.
Just stay out of it. |
Very true. Repeated frivolous court dates can put jobs in jeopardy. Financial disclosures are filed and court ordered vendor appointments can be ordered until most wealth is gone, and they are not optional. High conflict, and it only takes 1, is how Family Court lawyers and vendors rake it in. |
Not really. The reason abuse is so prevalent is because there's no support for victims. Everyone is so afraid of "getting involved." She has no family here. So many of us are transplants. Can you imagine being alone while dealing with an abusive spouse who took your kids away? |
What type of videos? Did you see these videos? Police was not concerned and she still lives with him. It is 2024. No one is a prisoner. It is her choice to stay with him and go around the neighborhood telling everyone how abusive he is. |
Classic victim blaming, but I expect nothing less from DCUM. Here's the thing about DV: the most dangerous time is when you try to leave. |
When the Police “ did nothing” did they tell her to get a protective order herself or file charges herself?
I know VA and MD have different laws but in MD unless they witness it happening or see obvious signs of injury you need to be the one to file charges not the Police. |
Different poster here. An interim order typically lasts "until the next court date". When I had a temporary order (in another state), it was extended "to the next court date" many times. I think a year after all was said and done. The next court date would come, no evidence would be presented, there was discussion among lawyers, I would refuse to release the temp order until trial, so it was extended "to the next court date". Multiple times. I was always given a copy to carry indicating its "new" expiration date in case I needed to call the police to report a violation. After I received the temporary order, the custody court dates and protective order court dates were always on the same dates, same file, because both were issued by the family court (again, not in VA, I do not know the process in VA). I kept it in place until all of our custody disputes were resolved, and by then we'd had a year of "good behavior" (no threatening, harassing, violent behavior) so I would not have gotten a "permanent" order anyway (permanent orders last usually 1-2 years). Now - in my situation, my ex was NEVER abusive towards our shared child. So the Temp order was ONLY in regards to my ex's behavior TOWARD ME. It did not limit visitation. I can see if a protective order limited visitation that judges would be hesitant to extend longer than necessary. |
OP, why are you afraid of a subpoena? If you have helpful testimony to provide, why wouldn’t you provide it? If you really want to help her, that’s one way to do it. Credible witnesses who support her claims are invaluable. Whatever you and the other neighbors can talk about based on your first-hand observations is extremely important. Do what’s right, even if it’s hard. |
+1. Other abusive husbands are keen to go to outside places and gaslight in public . Someone close to me has a husband that will rage in the garage, yard, etc . To make it seem she is the problem. This in spite of him having a long court record . So be careful with that tactic, OP! Fairfax police are not reliable in civil matters, and you need to use them sparingly, if at all. Their tendency is to do what is best for them at the time only- they tend to not care about facts. Second year law school I was a victim witness advocate in Fairfax family court(juv/domestic). It was free to victims of dv. It is worth calling family court to see if they still have these. I would also say your neighbor needs a lawyer, asap. Abusers play DIRTY. |
+1 Agree PP here. |
It’s California, and in this case the judge can grant a temporary restraining order and it did indeed go on for months. It even states this is a possibility on California’s website about this. To the pp that thinks this is “classic” domestic violence. This is a case where the woman is the one who has been violent to the point where my cousin had to go to the hospital and is using everyone’s assumption that the woman is a victim against him. |
Be careful OP. PP who worked in courts here. Sometimes a restraining order can set a narcissistic abuser over the edge. Remember, they have control issues, as it is. Does this guy have a gun? You dob’t want him coming after you or your family. Just be wise. |