Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It sucks and it’s hard and it’s endless. My kids are 13 and 16 now and honestly it’s so much easier. I thought I would never survive this long when my kids were little but I did.
Support groups help. NAMI was really helpful. Dan Shapiro’s Parent Child Journey was helpful- and the nice thing is that it’s pay what you can if the cost of all of this is too much.
You didn’t mention if you work outside the home, but if you do take a vacation day once a year, send the kids to school/daycare like usual, and take a break. If your husband can take the day too, a day to reconnect is hugely helpful.
If you don’t try to find some time for yourself- even if it’s just 1/2 hour to cry in your bedroom while the kids watch tv.
It also took me a really long time to figure out that everything didn’t need to be addressed all at once. I always felt pressured by the messages about early intervention. But sometimes it’s best to pick one or two goals to work on at a time.
The bolded. It's nearly impossible to address too many treatment goals at a time. Talk to your providers about 1 - I mean a single - thing that makes your days the hardest. Then work on that one thing. Maybe 1 thing per kid at a time. It's too hard to do more than that treatment wise. It's OK to say that you're not addressing ______ until ______ has gotten easier. This is as much for you as it is your kids - its really hard for kids to succeed when there are too many things changing at once.