Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did the process start? Did you or your spouse tell the other you wanted a divorce? Or did you serve/or were served papers? Did any of it come as a surprise to you even if you knew the marriage was not in a good place?
I found an apartment, signed a lease (a friend needed to act as guarantor), met with an attorney to get an idea of what we would need to sort out, then wrote out a proposition and told exDH I was going to divorce him, the kids and I were moving, here's what I suggest, take the weekend to think and let's talk again Monday. This was on a Friday. We talked again Monday night, we hashed out who got what and child and spousal support and visitation, and then Tuesday I typed it up neatly and sent it to the lawyer and asked them to create that as the base for the divorce.
He was surprised but also in a way I think not? He knew things were not going well and something needed to change.