family member got evicted

[Anonymous]

Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Sure and I still won’t feel badly for the deadbeats. Get a job and find a cheaper place to live.

[Anonymous]

My rent just went up over 10%. If that happens again next year, I got to move or downsize to a studio.
Did they try different options before getting evicted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Sure and I still won’t feel badly for the deadbeats. Get a job and find a cheaper place to live.

The dead ears may have kids?

[Anonymous]

You're being attacked, OP, because you didn't describe the situation well, and seemed to make it all about you. When you post on DCUM, you have to really choose your words carefully.

We still know nothing about the circumstances of the eviction. If this is for someone who is mentally or physically ill, has struggled, cannot find a job, and has kids, then we'll all feel sorry for them. If it's someone who appears less deserving, it's still sad, because where on earth are they going next?

You're not giving us much to help you. Get out of your head and focus on practical solutions. No, it's not really traumatizing for you. It's traumatizing for them. There is a world of difference, which you'd know if you had ever been evicted! You can choose to support them, or maybe you'd rather not (if they're irresponsible, despite feeling sorry for them).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Why not? If it's a private landlord, who is renting out a house or townhouse or condo that they personally own, having to evict someone means they have lost a lot of rent. Yet they still have to pay their mortgage/taxes or they could loose the property. Not to mention, someone who they evict likely was NOT taking good care of the property, so they will have extra maintenance required

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're being attacked, OP, because you didn't describe the situation well, and seemed to make it all about you. When you post on DCUM, you have to really choose your words carefully.

We still know nothing about the circumstances of the eviction. If this is for someone who is mentally or physically ill, has struggled, cannot find a job, and has kids, then we'll all feel sorry for them. If it's someone who appears less deserving, it's still sad, because where on earth are they going next?

You're not giving us much to help you. Get out of your head and focus on practical solutions. No, it's not really traumatizing for you. It's traumatizing for them. There is a world of difference, which you'd know if you had ever been evicted! You can choose to support them, or maybe you'd rather not (if they're irresponsible, despite feeling sorry for them).

I don't owe you anything. I've been supporting them and I still feel devastated. If I were to provide the ledger on how much I have supported them, then I'm sure some would say I am being savior syndrome. Oh well. I am moving on. I'll let you all show your true colors and decide who is deserving and who is not. It doesn't matter what the circumstances were. A family lost their home. THat in it of itself is devastating. SOrry you can't see that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Why not? If it's a private landlord, who is renting out a house or townhouse or condo that they personally own, having to evict someone means they have lost a lot of rent. Yet they still have to pay their mortgage/taxes or they could loose the property. Not to mention, someone who they evict likely was NOT taking good care of the property, so they will have extra maintenance required

Then don't be a private landlord. We all know rents are jacked up anyway so it's not like they are losing. Maybe the landlord needs to live within their means. See how that works?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being attacked, OP, because you didn't describe the situation well, and seemed to make it all about you. When you post on DCUM, you have to really choose your words carefully.

We still know nothing about the circumstances of the eviction. If this is for someone who is mentally or physically ill, has struggled, cannot find a job, and has kids, then we'll all feel sorry for them. If it's someone who appears less deserving, it's still sad, because where on earth are they going next?

You're not giving us much to help you. Get out of your head and focus on practical solutions. No, it's not really traumatizing for you. It's traumatizing for them. There is a world of difference, which you'd know if you had ever been evicted! You can choose to support them, or maybe you'd rather not (if they're irresponsible, despite feeling sorry for them).

I don't owe you anything. I've been supporting them and I still feel devastated. If I were to provide the ledger on how much I have supported them, then I'm sure some would say I am being savior syndrome. Oh well. I am moving on. I'll let you all show your true colors and decide who is deserving and who is not. It doesn't matter what the circumstances were. A family lost their home. THat in it of itself is devastating. SOrry you can't see that

You are immature and confuse tough love and hard questions with hate. On DCUM, people want to know. It's no use posting if you're not going to give salient details, otherwise people can't help you.

But if you're looking for empty words, here:

"So sorry, OP. Hope it gets better."

For most people posting about grave matters, such words aren't helpful or heartwarming. They need something more precise. But if that's all you wanted out of us, sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Why not? If it's a private landlord, who is renting out a house or townhouse or condo that they personally own, having to evict someone means they have lost a lot of rent. Yet they still have to pay their mortgage/taxes or they could loose the property. Not to mention, someone who they evict likely was NOT taking good care of the property, so they will have extra maintenance required

Then don't be a private landlord. We all know rents are jacked up anyway so it's not like they are losing. Maybe the landlord needs to live within their means. See how that works?

Not PP you responded to, but you are an idiot. Regardless if the landlord is private or corporate, when entering into a contract or lease, you are legally obligated to pay. It’s not about a private landlord’s bank account whether to pay rent each month.

To OP, I am sorry for what you and your family are going through. I can understand your emotion and sadness about the situation. Home is where we have safety and security, it must be so upsetting to not have that. Peace to you all.

[Anonymous]

Honestly you can't help some people. Maybe this will be the wakeup call they need to get their life sorted out. Life has obligations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Sure and I still won’t feel badly for the deadbeats. Get a job and find a cheaper place to live.

People lose jobs and sometimes can't find another. My aunt had to take her Social Security at 62 because she lost her job after 9/11 as did a lot of people. It took her three years before she found a new permanent job. Age discrimination is real and impossible to prove. Most people aren't deadbeats but are simply caught in circumstances they can't control.

Don't be so cocky and judgemental because it could happen to you or someone you love.

[Anonymous]

Times are very tough for people. Inflation is very hard in the poor and middle class. This is not something to be ashamed or or embarrassed about or feel alone. these are extraordinary times when people facing 30% higher food bills suddenly and so have to choose between rent and food. The best we can do is be a bulwark for our family and friends to help them get through.

My parents were foreclosed on in the eighties mostly due to medical bills. My dads siblings each came up with thousands for a modest down payment and one sibling co-signed a mortgage so we had a place to live. It is families that come through in these times. My siblings and I ended up in in good careers with college scholarships. We know how important family is. Thanks to you they will likely be ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Actually you could pay the rent and the landlord not pay the mortgage and you will never know until the day the sheriff shows up at your door.

You can’t be evicted if the landlord owes money on the property. At least not in DC or MD. Check your local law library.

It’s extremely difficult to evict a tenant for nonpayment of rent in these jurisdictions as well. It takes months.

Don’t feel bad, OP. Your relatives have known this has been coming for months and have ample time to address the lease breach. They chose not to. That is not your problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

The only person I know who this could happen to deserves it. She’s been living beyond her means since she became an adult and she has a masters degree. I wouldn’t shed a tear.