Dating a Busy Man?

[Anonymous]

Well certainly don't date him exclusively if this is not the life you want. And if marriage is your goal, this is not the marriage you want.

[Anonymous]

"A son he spends time with"... As in a custody arrangement where he has his son a percentage of the time, or he sees his son on occasion when he can? I have found that custody arrangements need to be in sync for a relationship to work.

[Anonymous]

I am divorced man with 2 kids. I am 47. I am currently single. The last lady I dated broke up with me for this reason. She cried so hard she thought I was a catch for her, but she realized that she would have to share the spotlight with my kids. I don't blame her. She is 36 and I think a single man around her age or maybe younger will have more time to spend with her.

I don't know how it is for divorced women with kids but for divorced men I think it is more challenging because women need to spend more time with their partners than vice versa. Of course I could be wrong.

[Anonymous]

How old is his son, OP?

[Anonymous]

I’m a divorced woman (39) and just went through this with a never married no kids man. He wanted more of my time and I just don’t have it to give. I cared very much for him, but my kids actually and physically need my presence. I hope he finds someone else who doesn’t have children to connect with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks this is exactly what I am thinking. The odd part is I didnt want the relationship in the first place, he DID! I just wanted to be FWB.

He wants control over you and your time.

[Anonymous]

Dump him. How dare he focus on his son and not you!

[Anonymous]

I think a lot depends on your age ? And your own busy life or are you just waiting by the phone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man who wants you makes the time.

This.

Someone who works too much is usually all talk and no action. He may or may not be an effective father; hopefully he puts his phone and computers down during his custody time

[Anonymous]

He’s playing you. You are a secondary or third for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man who wants you makes the time.

This.

Someone who works too much is usually all talk and no action. He may or may not be an effective father; hopefully he puts his phone and computers down during his custody time

What’s the connection between working too much and all talk no action?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man who wants you makes the time.

This.

Someone who works too much is usually all talk and no action. He may or may not be an effective father; hopefully he puts his phone and computers down during his custody time

What’s the connection between working too much and all talk no action?

Only phone calls is all talk no action, no?

Talking about how busy one is and never getting together is as well.

Saying you want to do X, y and z together and yet never actually doing them is too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man who wants you makes the time.

This.

Someone who works too much is usually all talk and no action. He may or may not be an effective father; hopefully he puts his phone and computers down during his custody time

What’s the connection between working too much and all talk no action?

Only phone calls is all talk no action, no?

Talking about how busy one is and never getting together is as well.

Saying you want to do X, y and z together and yet never actually doing them is too.

That last one is really stealth sometimes and takes a long time to find out about someone. There are people who just enjoy talking as if something will happen but don’t do it. My current guy has this tendency. Said he wanted to buy me jewelry, but hasn’t. Said he wants to go on vacation together but backed out of the one I planned for summer. Says he wants to live together in a year but is it true? I think I have to test him on planning another vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am divorced man with 2 kids. I am 47. I am currently single. The last lady I dated broke up with me for this reason. She cried so hard she thought I was a catch for her, but she realized that she would have to share the spotlight with my kids. I don't blame her. She is 36 and I think a single man around her age or maybe younger will have more time to spend with her.

I don't know how it is for divorced women with kids but for divorced men I think it is more challenging because women need to spend more time with their partners than vice versa. Of course I could be wrong.

I am a divorced woman age 46 with two kids. I don't have time to spend a lot of time with someone. I typically date early 30s men (never married no kids...I am attractive enough they don't care about my age). I usually see someone about a year to 18 months before I end it. They are less demanding. I don't want to get married again. They work around my schedule. My ex is a few years older than me and has stopped dating. All of the women want too much time. I am not like that but most women probably are.

I could not deal with another person's custody schedule. I have so little time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man who wants you makes the time.

This.

Someone who works too much is usually all talk and no action. He may or may not be an effective father; hopefully he puts his phone and computers down during his custody time

What’s the connection between working too much and all talk no action?

Only phone calls is all talk no action, no?

Talking about how busy one is and never getting together is as well.

Saying you want to do X, y and z together and yet never actually doing them is too.

That last one is really stealth sometimes and takes a long time to find out about someone. There are people who just enjoy talking as if something will happen but don’t do it. My current guy has this tendency. Said he wanted to buy me jewelry, but hasn’t. Said he wants to go on vacation together but backed out of the one I planned for summer. Says he wants to live together in a year but is it true? I think I have to test him on planning another vacation.

It’s called future faking.