Manager told others I filed a complaint

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I confided in my manager about something I witnessed and he told me to file an ethics complaint. I did, and then he told the manager of the people involved that I did this. I wish I’d never said anything, and am now getting pressure to withdraw the complaint. Is that possible? Wwyd?

WTF.

Document this $hit now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be honest you made a mess of this. I manage people. If a staff member came to me with an “ethics” concern I have to say report it if concerned.

Then pray you don’t. We had a women who was on marketing help host an after work party as some guy getting award at work. A big deal for guy. After over she stayed and so did he and he got handsy she went to supervisor. She got report it if u comfortable. She did. Guy was fired, he had two little kids R home. Then to make matters worse it got out it was her and back to his wife too.

She should have went straight to reporting it. Or not. But telling people then doing it was not good.

So you’re blaming the victim because a grown and married man decided to get handsy? The way you tell this story, it’s almost as if you believe he deserved to get handsy with the woman as his reward for winning the award. This is why things will never change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest you made a mess of this. I manage people. If a staff member came to me with an “ethics” concern I have to say report it if concerned.

Then pray you don’t. We had a women who was on marketing help host an after work party as some guy getting award at work. A big deal for guy. After over she stayed and so did he and he got handsy she went to supervisor. She got report it if u comfortable. She did. Guy was fired, he had two little kids R home. Then to make matters worse it got out it was her and back to his wife too.

She should have went straight to reporting it. Or not. But telling people then doing it was not good.

So you’re blaming the victim because a grown and married man decided to get handsy? The way you tell this story, it’s almost as if you believe he deserved to get handsy with the woman as his reward for winning the award. This is why things will never change.

I agree with the person who responded. What an ignorant idiot, blaming the woman who reported inappropriate behavior.

Also, your HR policies suck if supervisors don't have a mandate to report all sexual harassment. The supervisor should have reported the report.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest you made a mess of this. I manage people. If a staff member came to me with an “ethics” concern I have to say report it if concerned.

Then pray you don’t. We had a women who was on marketing help host an after work party as some guy getting award at work. A big deal for guy. After over she stayed and so did he and he got handsy she went to supervisor. She got report it if u comfortable. She did. Guy was fired, he had two little kids R home. Then to make matters worse it got out it was her and back to his wife too.

She should have went straight to reporting it. Or not. But telling people then doing it was not good.

So you’re blaming the victim because a grown and married man decided to get handsy? The way you tell this story, it’s almost as if you believe he deserved to get handsy with the woman as his reward for winning the award. This is why things will never change.

That was J1 guy, the paragon of feminism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be honest you made a mess of this. I manage people. If a staff member came to me with an “ethics” concern I have to say report it if concerned.

Then pray you don’t. We had a women who was on marketing help host an after work party as some guy getting award at work. A big deal for guy. After over she stayed and so did he and he got handsy she went to supervisor. She got report it if u comfortable. She did. Guy was fired, he had two little kids R home. Then to make matters worse it got out it was her and back to his wife too.

She should have went straight to reporting it. Or not. But telling people then doing it was not good.

So you’re blaming the victim because a grown and married man decided to get handsy? The way you tell this story, it’s almost as if you believe he deserved to get handsy with the woman as his reward for winning the award. This is why things will never change.

Well the women herself wished she never did it. But what I am saying she had two choices not do it. Or confidentially do it. Her choice of telling people and then doing it was stupid.

Even crazier the party ended two hours earlier. I was there. I left at 8 pm official end time. In fact the only two people there was this single girl and married guy and account was closed. My only question was this work related. And btw she did not work at my company. She was a vendor employee. She used on-line whistle blower to get him fired.