Does word get around if your kids are trying out for other clubs?

[Anonymous]

I’m my experience with kids in both big and small clubs….smaller clubs get really weird and jealous, and may bench your kid if they know you’re looking elsewhere. Bigger clubs don’t seem to care because they know that the best players at the highest level are always looking for opportunities. That’s how they found them in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Be honest with the coach about why you’re looking around. Higher level, more playing time, wary of the new coach the team will have next year, closer to home, whatever your reasons are they are valid to you.

What is gained by volunteering this information to the current coach?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

We were trying to escape an abusive coach and kid tried out elsewhere. The prospective coach told the old coach, and we all got screamed at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned with my first kid that several people do this, some people narc on other families (not sure why they use that info as currency but I believe they think if they narc it will some how give an advantage to their family, not sure), and there is zero loyalty in club sports. Zero. And I am not talking exclusively about soccer.

Typical rat behavior. Backfires a lot. People with talented kids don’t rat. They don’t need to try to squash others to make top teams.

Snitches get stitches. Lol

I agree but we learned the hard way with #1 so we are much more deliberate with our other kids. Try out for the other teams. Your loyalty is to your kid, never to the club. They won’t hesitate, even in the middle of the year, to bench your kid for some new kid that just arrived on the scene and they think is better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

We were trying to escape an abusive coach and kid tried out elsewhere. The prospective coach told the old coach, and we all got screamed at.

so what did you do? Please don’t say you wrote another check and continued to allow your kid to receive abuse from the screamer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

We were trying to escape an abusive coach and kid tried out elsewhere. The prospective coach told the old coach, and we all got screamed at.

please tell us u screamed back. That would be motivation to drive my kid to any team to play against the old team

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

We were trying to escape an abusive coach and kid tried out elsewhere. The prospective coach told the old coach, and we all got screamed at.

Sounds like valor vibes

[Anonymous]

I know there my be a whole scene, but it seems like it happens every year, at every club. It’s not that surprising when kids try out at other kids; in most cases, they know it’s coming. Could he due to bullying, lack of playing time, poor coaching, closer to home, moving up to a higher division, cost. The drama that ensues is just a silly show. It’s youth sports. As long as the club can continue to field a competitive team and get paid, they likely don’t care as much as some people imagine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

We were trying to escape an abusive coach and kid tried out elsewhere. The prospective coach told the old coach, and we all got screamed at.

Bad old coach and bad prospective coach. Hope you found a better place for your kid than these 2 turds.

[Anonymous]

If you try out for another club, you should absolutely expect that it will get back to your current coach. Coaches talk, and parents rat each other out all the time. At the lower levels and age groups, trying out for multiple clubs is very common and coaches usually don’t care. It’s also generally accepted for a player to try to move from the “A” team of a local club to an ECNL/MLS Next/GA team. In this scenario, it’s usually best to be honest with the current coach who would hopefully be happy for your kid. Once you’re at the ECNL/MLS Next/GA level, trying out for another club is a big deal. A lot of teams pretty much guarantee returning players a spot, but all bets are off once you go to another tryout.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you try out for another club, you should absolutely expect that it will get back to your current coach. Coaches talk, and parents rat each other out all the time. At the lower levels and age groups, trying out for multiple clubs is very common and coaches usually don’t care. It’s also generally accepted for a player to try to move from the “A” team of a local club to an ECNL/MLS Next/GA team. In this scenario, it’s usually best to be honest with the current coach who would hopefully be happy for your kid. Once you’re at the ECNL/MLS Next/GA level, trying out for another club is a big deal. A lot of teams pretty much guarantee returning players a spot, but all bets are off once you go to another tryout.

Yeah. That’s the problem —guaranteeing returning players a spot. It should always be merit based. That’s why kids have to leave and tryout other places. They won’t move up in their own club.

[Anonymous]

Why would prospective coach tell old coach? That seems against their interest if they want the player.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our DD already received her offer and we accepted with deposit only. She's 90% staying with this club, but she's still trying out for three other clubs in the area.

1) It's good practice.
2) Always nice to see where you stand in other clubs.
3. Might find yourself more comfortable with another team/coach.

In the end, it doesn't hurt. However, I wouldn't flaunt that information around. I'd keep it quiet.

If you have already committed by making a deposit, how can you accept a better offer?

The deposit holds your spot. The next payment isn't due until summer. If you choose to leave the club you just lose the deposit. Well worth it if you find a better team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You don’t owe your coach or club anything. You are signing 1 year renewable agreements for your kids (& family). As another poster wrote, if another skilled player came along, they wouldn’t hesitate to drop your kid’s time or roster slot.

Find the best team, coach, and environment for your player. That may mean tryouts at several clubs.

100% correct. On my DD team she is a top three player. Since late last fall the coach has been looking to replace the bottom 3-4 players. There's zero loyalty to kids. Coach even came to me asking if I knew players who would be interested in joining. Even gave me a list of player names they didn't want anymore or were 100% not returning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our DD already received her offer and we accepted with deposit only. She's 90% staying with this club, but she's still trying out for three other clubs in the area.

1) It's good practice.
2) Always nice to see where you stand in other clubs.
3. Might find yourself more comfortable with another team/coach.

In the end, it doesn't hurt. However, I wouldn't flaunt that information around. I'd keep it quiet.

If you have already committed by making a deposit, how can you accept a better offer?

The deposit holds your spot. The next payment isn't due until summer. If you choose to leave the club you just lose the deposit. Well worth it if you find a better team.

But I’ve seen where a club/coach is vindictive and won’t release a player card.