If your teen is sexually active...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

Not PP but your kid isn’t deceiving you when they are having sex. They are horny teens. Not a big deal. Most teens don’t go home and tell their mom what base they got on after a party or a date.

Get real OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

Because we know that you and PPs are the naive ones here. Been there and done that, both in my own life and witnessed it with my own kids. With whom I am very close. It makes me think back to the time my brother bragged his kids weren’t even allowed to date and I knew for a fact my oldest niece had had sex (because she told me and asked for advice). Parents, they’re not always going to tell you and that is okay.

In answer to your question, OP: make sure there are condoms around, BC for girls involved, and don’t worry about the when and where. They’ll find a way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

Not PP but your kid isn’t deceiving you when they are having sex. They are horny teens. Not a big deal. Most teens don’t go home and tell their mom what base they got on after a party or a date.

Get real OP

Exactly. Does she think her kid is going to be like Mom I have a great story. Just lost my virginity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

Not PP but your kid isn’t deceiving you when they are having sex. They are horny teens. Not a big deal. Most teens don’t go home and tell their mom what base they got on after a party or a date.

Get real OP

Exactly. Does she think her kid is going to be like Mom I have a great story. Just lost my virginity

You can't even imagine a parent-child relationship that is genuinely open and honest? I mean, I guess I get it. I could never have talked to my parents about this stuff. And my kids wouldn't talk to their dad about it, because he's judgmental and controlling-- not in an abusive way, just in a "father knows best" way.

So you're really telling us about yourself. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

i dated a guy for a year in the later part of high school and we didn't have sex. I just wasn't ready. Im sure people thought we did.

There are all kinds of teens in the world. All with different degrees of risk taking and caution. Different levels of sex drives. Etc etc.

You never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i dated a guy for a year in the later part of high school and we didn't have sex. I just wasn't ready. Im sure people thought we did.

There are all kinds of teens in the world. All with different degrees of risk taking and caution. Different levels of sex drives. Etc etc.

You never know.

My mom accused me of being sexually active long before I actually was. She was utterly, unshakably convinced that because I had boyfriends, I was having sex. It was one of many ways in which she created distance between us.

I bet my mom would fit right in here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Honest question. What was going through your head when you typed and posted this? Was it "my kid deceives me and so OP is likewise deceived"? Was it "OP forgot to ask "is my kid having sex" so I will just answer the question I thought she should have asked"?

I am seriously dying to know what is behind these dumb pointless responses!

Not PP but your kid isn’t deceiving you when they are having sex. They are horny teens. Not a big deal. Most teens don’t go home and tell their mom what base they got on after a party or a date.

Get real OP

Exactly. Does she think her kid is going to be like Mom I have a great story. Just lost my virginity

You can't even imagine a parent-child relationship that is genuinely open and honest? I mean, I guess I get it. I could never have talked to my parents about this stuff. And my kids wouldn't talk to their dad about it, because he's judgmental and controlling-- not in an abusive way, just in a "father knows best" way.

So you're really telling us about yourself. I'm sorry.

OP, you are delusional.

[Anonymous]

In his room on third floor, which is above our bedroom. Yes, I have heard the bed squeak and it totally freaked me out. Now I make a point to come down to the kitchen or basement when they go upstairs.

I think at her house too. Her parent's have a big basement.

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure mine have done it in our basement. I try to go down, keep door open, call down, get food etc… His house also has a finished basement.

But I did the same at my parents house and I’m not stupid. They’ve been together 8 months and my daughter was honest about wanting to go on BCP a few months ago and I told her I was proud of her honesty. And of course did the whole you gotta be sure, it changes things, if you decide always use condoms anyway etc…

[Anonymous]

Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.

This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.

Not necessarily. If they are 17, highly likely. But if they are 13-16 it is definitely possible they have been dating a year and not had sex

[Anonymous]

You are incredibly naive OP. They are definitely having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My house and her house when parents aren't around, or discreetly if they are I guess. They're about to graduate from high school, have been together for 9 months, and I'm not going to shame them for it. As long as they're not making it super obvious, it's fine by me.

Yeah, I'm so not into shaming here. I'm pretty sex positive, and both kids are total straight-edge cautious types. It's not the fact that someday my kid will have sex that bothers me. I just can't figure out how (or if), practically, to leave them some space. We're very close, so if I'm away from the house, chances are good the kid has tagged along with me. If they're home, I'm probably home.

Why not ask your child how or if they need some space?