Dress neutral to avoid attention

[Anonymous]

PE and recess.

Most active kids want full range of motion for those highlights of their day

My 13 year old daughter has always LOVED long dresses and skirts, but at school she prefers leggings and pants, and skorts in the summer, because at her school most kids don't change for PE. In elementary school, she wore the same to enjoy recess. Skorts, as in shorter skirts with built-in shorts. No long dresses or long skirts at school, because of stairs.

At home and on weekends, it's FULL ON COTTAGE CORE and REN FAIRE!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 year old nieces has been wearing leggings & t shirt. I don't see anything wrong with it, but MIL complains to me that she has been asking them to dress the girl in dresses or get her longer t- shirt to cover her butts. She does not understand why SIL dresses herself pretty(sexy side)with makeup, and why they dress their only girl like a tomboy. BIL gave her reasons is that he does not want to dress her to get any unnecessary boy's attention. I don't know what niece thinks.

Since my daughter was preschooler, she knows what she wants to wear. She has a ton of dresses, skirts, leggings, tutu, hair accessories and nail stickers. I just make sure that she wears boyshorts under whatever skirt or dresses she wears because I don't want her to show underwear with the way she plays. She loves to wear pretty to get everyone"s attention from peers to adults. I just let her be. I normally wear sporty or casual, unlike my daughter. She still likes to wear dresses and skirts at age 7, and I notice that normally other girls often wear leggings and shirts to school/play.

DH thinks it is fine for her to dress whatever she wants as long as she is happy/appropriate to her age & there is a boyshorts underneath, and we don't think other kids care much what she wears. What's your thought on this for parents that have a daughter?

Is this immigrant troll

It must be. Weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. MIL says that BIL (her son) does not want and does not like his daughter to dress feminine. She does not understand why he marries SIL who is feminine in personality and dress feminine for herself. That is double standard when it comes to wife/daughter or over protection of daughter? MIL wants her granddaughter to dress pretty, and she does not understand what they are thinking. That is why she complains to me to figure out why.

Since niece was little like toddler age , he kind of blocking both side of granddaughters getting her dresses, skirts, girl accessories, pink/purple color because he does not like her to wear them. He tells everyone that she likes legos and puzzles. And, I don't know if it is truth or not. The other side of grandparents (SIL's parents) that I met twice complained to me before that they want to dress their daughter in pretty clothing.

Why do you care? I highly doubt your MIL is going on to you about how her son’s wife dresses and what their child is wearing. It sounds like you are a busy body or stirring gossip, or just making things up

[Anonymous]

Here’s an idea. Why don’t you or MIL ask the child what clothes she likes? Given that your family is apparently all up in each other’s business, I don’t see why you don’t prioritize her opinion the most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 year old nieces has been wearing leggings & t shirt. I don't see anything wrong with it, but MIL complains to me that she has been asking them to dress the girl in dresses or get her longer t- shirt to cover her butts. She does not understand why SIL dresses herself pretty(sexy side)with makeup, and why they dress their only girl like a tomboy. BIL gave her reasons is that he does not want to dress her to get any unnecessary boy's attention. I don't know what niece thinks.

Since my daughter was preschooler, she knows what she wants to wear. She has a ton of dresses, skirts, leggings, tutu, hair accessories and nail stickers. I just make sure that she wears boyshorts under whatever skirt or dresses she wears because I don't want her to show underwear with the way she plays. She loves to wear pretty to get everyone"s attention from peers to adults. I just let her be. I normally wear sporty or casual, unlike my daughter. She still likes to wear dresses and skirts at age 7, and I notice that normally other girls often wear leggings and shirts to school/play.

DH thinks it is fine for her to dress whatever she wants as long as she is happy/appropriate to her age & there is a boyshorts underneath, and we don't think other kids care much what she wears. What's your thought on this for parents that have a daughter?

Your MIL sounds a bit nuts - on the one hand she thinks a tshirt and leggings are exposing too much of an 8 year old's body, but on the other hand she's bothered that your SIL isn't dressing the 8 year old prettier/sexier? She needs to sit down somewhere.

Your husband is the only person in this post who makes any sense. Listen to him.

This.

I actually think it could be the little girl just doesn't like dresses and the family is sick of Mil nagging so BIL made up this excuse that makes him sound more macho and controlling as otherwise Mil will say she can't believe they let a child decide.

Don't give them any thought.

[Anonymous]

OP's repeated stressing of 'she wears dresses, but she DOES HAVE BOYSHORTS UNDERNEATH' is weird.

[Anonymous]

Weird weird weird

[Anonymous]

I cannot imagine how this is any of your business.

Never mind your MIL’s. Your BIL and SIL would be smart to ignore her and refuse to engage.

I have two daughters and both started to dress in full athleisure at about 8. It’s much more comfortable and versatile for recess/PE/layers to deal with cold/warm changes. The only rules we have involve keeping your butt, stomach, and bra straps covered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 year old nieces has been wearing leggings & t shirt. I don't see anything wrong with it, but MIL complains to me that she has been asking them to dress the girl in dresses or get her longer t- shirt to cover her butts. She does not understand why SIL dresses herself pretty(sexy side)with makeup, and why they dress their only girl like a tomboy. BIL gave her reasons is that he does not want to dress her to get any unnecessary boy's attention. I don't know what niece thinks.

Since my daughter was preschooler, she knows what she wants to wear. She has a ton of dresses, skirts, leggings, tutu, hair accessories and nail stickers. I just make sure that she wears boyshorts under whatever skirt or dresses she wears because I don't want her to show underwear with the way she plays. She loves to wear pretty to get everyone"s attention from peers to adults. I just let her be. I normally wear sporty or casual, unlike my daughter. She still likes to wear dresses and skirts at age 7, and I notice that normally other girls often wear leggings and shirts to school/play.

DH thinks it is fine for her to dress whatever she wants as long as she is happy/appropriate to her age & there is a boyshorts underneath, and we don't think other kids care much what she wears. What's your thought on this for parents that have a daughter?

Is this immigrant troll

For some reason my brain read this with an Eastern European accent. So weird.