Thanks for the advice! I don’t think he’ll feel used since I’ll be upfront with him. And yes, he’ll need to put his money where his mouth is if he makes any promises. |
See bold. We get it; you want to “enjoy being together” (Read: sex). And who would not want that?! One-last-fling, so to speak. But if you bring up the break up first thing, you deny yourself the sex you want. Don’t do that. Get the refundable ticket. Enjoy your “being together” with him. Once you’ve had enough then break up with him and fly home. When it comes to sex or no sex, men rarely feel “used.” He will be fine either way. |
Why the rush? Get your o and his too and figure it out. |
Interesting, originally the consensus seemed to be talk right away, but now it seems to be enjoy time together first. Confused now. |
I'd just break up over the phone. Going to visit with the idea you are likely to break up and fly home early seems unfair and unlikely to actually be a "nice weekend." If that happened to me I would feel super manipulated. If it is not working, it's not working. It doesn't seem like he is pulling out all stops to have the visit go well, does it? |
Are you a mid-20s guy? |
I’d cancel the trip and break up over the phone. This is too much drama. |
DP - This seems like a fairly big issue. Has this been discussed before? If you have never mentioned it before maybe being in person and talking it thru is better. If this is something you have already brought up more than once, I honestly think it would be better not to go unless you had the make or break conversation prior and they wanted to change and they wanted to move in that direction during your trip. Otherwise you are wasting your time trying to change someone who does not want to change. |
Break up and cancel the trip. |
That’s totally a throwaway statement. It’s completely meaningless without specifics of what you mean by stuff being “asked”. What you wrote there could be written by someone who is completely justified in their feelings. Or it also could be written by someone who is bat-s*** crazy. It’s all in the details. |
no |