As someone living in the EU I'm quite curious what these EU countries are that have easier access to therapists. |
I wish this cohort would finally STFU about their mental state. Or at least, save all the unsolicited disclosures for people you know will genuinely care. Like your mother.
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Frankly, an au pair would have more difficulty putting up with your psychological issues. |
Yikes, they need not to apply to work with young kids! |
I am college professor in an intimate program so on the one hand I am used to this stuff and have gotten to know a lot of these young adults as more than their disclosures, but on the other hand, if I still had a young child I would not be comfortable with this as an au pair situation. |
As a successfully medicated adult, I don’t disclose my diagnosis to my employer, ask for accommodations, or schedule appointments during my work time. Perhaps there is more disclosure because these women will be living with their employer, but not all jobs can accommodate all people. The whole point of having an au pair is because you need reliable childcare and your schedule doesn’t align with traditional childcare options. Having a provider who is not stable is not an option for most families. I can’t drop everything at work because my au pair has a mental breakdown. |
OP here -in addition to the medical disclosures, I have noticed (this is new too!) there is a trend of more essays about dynamics with family - about not talking to a parent, or bad relationships with a parent- why disclose this as a first impression????? where it is supposed to be about why you want to be an au pair.... honestly I'm having a hard time figuring out about inviting a non-potential drama person into home! |
Yikes. Who would want a young woman in their home for a year if she can’t even get along with her own family? And has such bad judgment that she thinks she should share this unsolicited information? |
We just left the Au pair program because of just this - so many girls coming into this program for the wrong reasons and have no interest in kids whatsoever. Our last had so much family drama at home it affected our dynamic. Terrible. Mental issues clearly undisclosed…until after the fact. |
The pandemic is taking a toll |