Use of curse words among and by young adults

[Anonymous]

I'm 53 and I curse a lot. Always have. I use the F word a lot. But I'm black, and I am a pro at code-switching. I do not speak the same way in mixed company, when at work, or in public. My kids are 19 and 24. They occasionally curse but not too much, especially my 24 yo. The 19 yo curses more, but mostly when he's talking to his friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grown-up children in the 21-25 age range use f-words all the time. These words represent excitement, frustration, and many other emotions. I see the same usage rising even among older generations among my colleagues in informal conversation.

I do not care much about it, but my husband flips out whenever our kids use curse words.

Do you see this pattern among your kids of that age and their friends? How do you handle it?

I would flip out too, specially if they are using them when we're having regular conversations. I'm not their little buddy!

Interesting how you protect them by saying "these words represent" LOL. GTFO.

I am not protecting anyone - I merely pointed out what it represents for the people who use these words. I have heard things like "f*ing brilliant", "f*ing moron", "f*ing delicious"... etc. I do not use curse words at home or work. My husband does not curse. My young adult children and their friends do. My colleagues (age group 22-65+) (in high-tech industry) curse every once in a while (not as frequently as my kids or their friends)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use foul language in public or around any kids. I have noticed the word pissed is used constantly. TV and music are the main pushers of this vulgar world.

Bad parenting contributes to this.

Plus the MAGAs. Vulgarity is much more common now.

I do not believe it is bad parenting or MAGA mentality. I consider myself to be a decent parent and I (or any of my family members) would not support any MAGA ideas...

[Anonymous]

If I drop something, and exclaim: "oh shit!" instead of "oh shoot!" what exactly is the difference? The sentiment is the same in the context. I sincerely don't understand why some people are really bothered by swear/curse words. They're just words.

Or of I say "what the hell" vs what the f u c k" - what exactly is the offensive difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My PhD 60 year old husband has started cursing more and more. It used to just be when he talked to his Dad. Same thing with the word aint. I know he is an adult but it drives me nuts. I have an English teacher mom and neither is acceptable. I just hope he is not doing it at work too.

With regards to cursing at work, it’s par for the course in some industries. I work in a construction office in NJ. You’d be clutching your pearls within 30 seconds if you heard the language that some of my coworkers use!

It is very prevalent in many industries (High-tech, investment, and banking) - I work in high-tech and have heard many times. I have friends in the investment and banking sectors and they say they hear it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH sounds like an old fuddy duddy. He's upset that 21-25s swear? L-O-F**king-L He has a rough life ahead to see that his kids are real full grown adults!

I did not ask you to judge my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I drop something, and exclaim: "oh shit!" instead of "oh shoot!" what exactly is the difference? The sentiment is the same in the context. I sincerely don't understand why some people are really bothered by swear/curse words. They're just words.

Or of I say "what the hell" vs what the f u c k" - what exactly is the offensive difference?

OP here - I guess it takes a bit of getting used to. I used to feel awkward when anyone said WTF vs WTH 10 years back... now I feel it is all the same. I do not take offense if the f-word is used as an adjective/adverb/noun - but find it disrespectful to use it as a verb.

Now that you mentioned, I use "Oh shit" once in a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use foul language in public or around any kids. I have noticed the word pissed is used constantly. TV and music are the main pushers of this vulgar world.

Bad parenting contributes to this.

Plus the MAGAs. Vulgarity is much more common now.

Plus the Pukegressives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use foul language in public or around any kids. I have noticed the word pissed is used constantly. TV and music are the main pushers of this vulgar world.

Bad parenting contributes to this.

Plus the MAGAs. Vulgarity is much more common now.

Plus the Pukegressives.

Please keep politics out of every conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use foul language in public or around any kids. I have noticed the word pissed is used constantly. TV and music are the main pushers of this vulgar world.

Bad parenting contributes to this.

Plus the MAGAs. Vulgarity is much more common now.

Plus the Pukegressives.

Please keep politics out of every conversation.

You mean like the poster I responded to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I drop something, and exclaim: "oh shit!" instead of "oh shoot!" what exactly is the difference? The sentiment is the same in the context. I sincerely don't understand why some people are really bothered by swear/curse words. They're just words.

Or of I say "what the hell" vs what the f u c k" - what exactly is the offensive difference?

OP here - I guess it takes a bit of getting used to. I used to feel awkward when anyone said WTF vs WTH 10 years back... now I feel it is all the same. I do not take offense if the f-word is used as an adjective/adverb/noun - but find it disrespectful to use it as a verb.

Now that you mentioned, I use "Oh shit" once in a while.

Well yeah, context matters. The offensiveness is not the "swear" word itself, but how the word is used. You can make any ordinary word seem vulgar depending on the context.

[Anonymous]

I’m 45 and an attorney. I have been using curse words since I was 8 years old. I vividly remember the first time I cursed in front of my mom and she slapped me. Guess what? I still swear. A lot. And guess what else? My kids swear and know when it’s ok and when it’s not.

It’s not the fall of society.

[Anonymous]

My teens and young adults don't swear around us and know better than to swear in public.

This topic comes up regularly on DCUM and always garners posts by weird people who think swearing is fine, but really it isn't. Not at any age.

[Anonymous]

I’m floored by the fourth graders use of bad words. It’s appalling. They use swear words with regularity. They teach other kids them to repeat it. And so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m floored by the fourth graders use of bad words. It’s appalling. They use swear words with regularity. They teach other kids them to repeat it. And so on.

+1 yes, it seems they really use it at age 9