The hardest thing is still thinking about and the abuse ex they put us through. Wish they never existed. All else is easy.
We do have money and lots of family help. |
Agree. The emotional aspect takes so many years... But it is better than having them around. |
OP here, the question is directed towards single moms. Not your opinion of what families you think are better.
Also I'm not trying to talk her out of it, just giving her a well rounded idea of what they're getting into, and also curious if other moms' experiences. It's one thing to have a close uncle to model masculine behavior, it's another to have an actual dad in the house everyday. Of course no one is perfect but that is one aspect that I wish I had for my child. |
I think you are an idiot and have no idea what you are talking about. There are a ton of people who were brought up by single mothers they are as successful or more so than mothers who stay in horrible marriages |
It's a different experience, double the adult attention. I feel like every child deserves 2 parents. But that's just me... |
Always being the bad guy and hoping they don't hate you when older because of it. |
It is beyond stupid and extraordinarily selfish. Widowed and divorced women are not single moms because they still have an ex or family. Also, do not think that children of single women do not suffer socially. |
Right. Why didn’t I leave that kid in the cocaine den instead of adopting them and raising them in a joyful, tension-free, rich single mom home where they had nannies, world-wife travel, and the best education for 18 years. The nerve of me! |
*world-wide, lol. |
I would think the child care part would be really hard. When they're little and get sick you're going to burn a ton of leave on sick days and not have a partner to trade off with. And it's not just the vacation time it's straight up keeping up with your work. Then elementary school which seems to be closed one day every other week for random holidays the working world doesn't recognize.
Not getting a break would suck too. You're always going to be on, you can never relax and let the other parent watch the kid. Or if you feel sick you can't switch off and have coverage. But you said she has money meaning rich and doesn't have to work or just has a good job? Also, maybe some of this goes away with family support...maybe...I guess if you have a family member that doesn't work and is available somewhat on demand for sick days. |
Money, time, and relationships |
Bless you. Lady Bountiful! |
Plus 1- but 10 years |
My cousin wanted to do this and she was a nut job. Relied 100% on my Aunt for free childcare. It felt abusive. |
So, now we are defining single mom to not include widows? Are single moms with families included? |