I think this is the real issue. If he strongly prefers one child, and you don't want a second badly enough to be happy with either gender, that's your answer. But I will say that neither of my kids was the sex I hoped for - wanted a girl for the first and got a boy, and then since I had a boy I hoped for another boy, and got a girl - and I do not care. At all. Because at the end of the day what I really wanted was two children, no matter the sex. If you don't feel that way, then especially since your husband doesn't want a second at all, it may be time to stop and enjoy the child you have. |
Decide if you want another kid. Because gender really will not matter. You will love the kid regardless of their gender.
But, if you don’t want another kid, don’t have one. |
I think that if, after all of that, you're not excited about your last remaining embryo, then you probably don't want another baby at all. Don't do it. |
Infertility trauma is real, so go easy on yourself. If you do want a kid, the gender disappointment will pass like it does for everyone. You might want to explore why you’re undecided, as it seems you have some really complicated feelings that are no doubt colored by some fear and doubt. Try to remember that no matter what you do, you have a wonderful future ahead of you! |
Since gender is just a social construct designed by woke people raise it opposite gender. You could probably make millions documenting the journey. Think of it as a cool science experiment. Imagine the college essay, you’d be a sure thing for HYP. |
This is a great point. |
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