My friend found a high school freshman to do this twice a week. Could you find two friends to split it and maybe scoot home a little early fridays? |
You wouldn’t be ASKING that if someone else’s child. You would put the request out and the person that wanted to do It would say reply. The other 9 out of 10 they didn’t wanna do it just would not respond. |
But not every 12-14 yr old has after-school activities or five hours of homework. Some kids have only one or two hours of homework each day and their family needs money. When I was 12 and 13 I came home from middle school, dropped my stuff, and walked to the elementary school to pick up a girl who was scared to walk home herself. I'd walk her home, then hang with her for an hour until her mom got home. At 14 she went to middle school and I was in HS working from 4-7pm as a cashier, then at 9pm would go to a neighbor's house and walk her dog each evening. I always showed up on time. I lived in an upper-middle class neighborhood. Nobody knew our financial situation and that we were essentially house-poor and why my brother and I worked so much. |
You’ll have better luck offering $25/hr but you’ll still have a hard time finding someone available every day. |
Ok, thank you. I might try and be flexible. Perhaps I can either find 2 people to cover the 5 days or find one person for 3 days a week and manage on my own the other 2 days… |
That was 20-30 years ago? Times have changed, especially for young girls. |
I paid one of my neighbor's nannies for this afterschool care in their home. It's a win-win because I'm paying the full hourly rate saving my neighbor money and our kids get a playmate. |
And a lose for the nanny. Unless you pay extra. |
Having looked for something like this myself once, I don’t think you’re going to find someone to do this REGULARLY. you may find a MS or HS or college age person, or an underemployed neighbor…… for a while. Or for two days a week, except when they go on vacation. Or have finals. You know? It’s a hard one to staff but I feel you about absolutely needing it! Aftercare would solve it, but my kids never wanted to go to that so I struggled along until they got old enough I didn’t worry so much. Good luck and report back if/when you find something! |
I posted on a few mom's groups and found a HS and a middle schooler. Even 1-2x a week was tough with schedules. I found that the mom's really wanted the kids to babysit more then the kids wanted (though both were great with my kid). My DD loved the extra attention and I did it more so she could have someone to play with since she is an only child. I wouldn't rely on it for total care though. I currently have a HS babysitter now that does 3 days a week for 1 hour in her home and she is fairly regular but does cancel due to illness and events that come up. |
Other children also have homework to do when they get home. They are also tired. I would never allow a child to get home from school and then immediately go to your house to amuse a 5 year old for two hours. OP needs to take care of her own child . |
Does the nanny no longer need to take care of your neighbor's children when your child is there? You and your neighbor are cheating the nanny and she is a fool for accepting such a decision. You should be paying the same extra hourly rate as your neighbor. |
FYI you can internally aim for this, and you can even ultimately hire in this age range…but you can’t legally specify that 16-18 is your criteria bc that’s age descrimination. |
LOL. I’m sure the nanny absolutely hates that her charge has some other kid to play candyland with instead of her… |
+1 Plus that 4-year old doesn’t want to do these things every day with a random 14-year old. He wants his mom or siblings ti play with him. Obviously this will be an unpopular opinion but you need to reevaluate treating your four-year-old as though he’s a bother who needs to be entertained. You said you have other kids and all of you will be home. Do you think having an outsider come into the home will make him less interested in spending time with the other people in your home? When you are all right there—he’s still going to want to be with mom and siblings, even if you hire a minder for him. |