Airbnb sex between host and guests

[Anonymous]

Don't shit where you eat!
Wouldn't that be against Airbnb policy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing that you say would be out of line for a host.

I have stayed in dozens of Airbnbs and no one has brought me flowers. That is def weird. I would be very uncomfortable if someone did.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just ask him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single female host who rents a spare bedroom. No guests ever made attempts during their visits and I would’ve been extremely uncomfortable if they did. The closest call I had was one VERY handsome, fit guest who was sitting shirtless in my living room when I came home one evening. I barely looked at him and stayed in my room the rest of the night. He’d texted me earlier that day to invite me out for wine which and I declined.

Uhm a very handsome shirtless man shows up at my doorstep and invites me out for wine? And I am single? You missed out and opportunities don’t come by like that everyday. Women go to extreme lengths to find dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single female host who rents a spare bedroom. No guests ever made attempts during their visits and I would’ve been extremely uncomfortable if they did. The closest call I had was one VERY handsome, fit guest who was sitting shirtless in my living room when I came home one evening. I barely looked at him and stayed in my room the rest of the night. He’d texted me earlier that day to invite me out for wine which and I declined.

You missed out on a fun night.

Right? I would have totally gone for it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single female host who rents a spare bedroom. No guests ever made attempts during their visits and I would’ve been extremely uncomfortable if they did. The closest call I had was one VERY handsome, fit guest who was sitting shirtless in my living room when I came home one evening. I barely looked at him and stayed in my room the rest of the night. He’d texted me earlier that day to invite me out for wine which and I declined.

You missed out on a fun night.

PP here. My friends said the same thing! The guy was really beautiful but I had zero interest in sleeping with him. I’ve had two other male guests reach out after they left. One sent money months after the fact (??), the other messaged me out of the blue to ask me out which I would’ve considered if I was single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single female host who rents a spare bedroom. No guests ever made attempts during their visits and I would’ve been extremely uncomfortable if they did. The closest call I had was one VERY handsome, fit guest who was sitting shirtless in my living room when I came home one evening. I barely looked at him and stayed in my room the rest of the night. He’d texted me earlier that day to invite me out for wine which and I declined.

You missed out on a fun night.

PP here. My friends said the same thing! The guy was really beautiful but I had zero interest in sleeping with him. I’ve had two other male guests reach out after they left. One sent money months after the fact (??), the other messaged me out of the blue to ask me out which I would’ve considered if I was single.

Well you must be have been tempted because you said it was a close call. So I can’t call that zero interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ummmm... I'm not going to pay to stay somewhere AND put out. either/or. not both!

This

[Anonymous]

I've had hosts leave wine and flowers and even have a cute sign to greet me by name on arrival, but the items were there when we arrived. I never had a personal visit from a host and would not like that if I was traveling solo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If his attentiveness went overboard it would be reflected in his reviews. If he is hitting on his guests he’s not going to have a 100% success rate and someone would complain and shut him down. If he does have a 100% hit rate I’d like to meet your friend!

Not necessarily. I might feel like misinterpreted a kind gesture if I reported a host who did this and would worry about being tagged a troublesome guest for future stays elsewhere, so I would not personally report it even if it worried me.

Likewise, assuming a host is fishing, I wouldn’t report it if I took him up on the offer obviously. And in fact might highly review the stay if I was riding on a high of feeling that I’d met a great guy who is good looking and owns a nice home, with perhaps potential to turn into something more.

It might only be months later that a guest might feel played and then it is not worth the trouble to report or change a review.

[Anonymous]

Feels like a good risk in terms of subtle flirting which a host can claim as friendliness misinterpreted if a guest defers and enjoy if the guest gives a green light. And a good looking host or guest gets a pass from most people as flattering attention and wouldn’t be creepy even if it is clearly hitting you up for more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single female host who rents a spare bedroom. No guests ever made attempts during their visits and I would’ve been extremely uncomfortable if they did. The closest call I had was one VERY handsome, fit guest who was sitting shirtless in my living room when I came home one evening. I barely looked at him and stayed in my room the rest of the night. He’d texted me earlier that day to invite me out for wine which and I declined.

You’ll regret it when you are old!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like prostitution.

[Anonymous]

I (a single female) think it is creepy to have a stranger staying in your home.

I literally could not sleep.

[Anonymous]

Airbnb sex between hosts and guests is more common that the company would care to acknowledge. There have been articles and reddit threads written on the topic.

It is a classic sex with a stranger fantasy with no strings attached, as the guest goes on their way and the host never has to see them again unless they want to. When you open up your living space to someone it can lend itself to an instant bond or attraction, and I think that some hosts and guests are willing to innocently test the boundaries while maintaining plausible deniability (e.g., casually brush hands or lean in close to them and if the other person does not pull away, take then next step to see where things go). I read an article on the subject where they host said that if the woman does not pull away he takes it to a hug and makeout, and that sex ALWAYS followed).