How do you navigate a dinner party where the food is inedible?

[Anonymous]

If I just don’t like it I’d eat it anywya.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

So why does she presume to serve vegan food to non-vegans? Why can’t they both cook a couple of things so everyone is happy? You’re just making excuses for your lazy and sexist son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

So he can learn to cook good vegan food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

So why does she presume to serve vegan food to non-vegans? Why can’t they both cook a couple of things so everyone is happy? You’re just making excuses for your lazy and sexist son.

Yes, he could surely make something for he and his mom to share. DIL is under no obligation to do so since presumably she is against the use of any animal products in cooking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

So why does she presume to serve vegan food to non-vegans? Why can’t they both cook a couple of things so everyone is happy? You’re just making excuses for your lazy and sexist son.

How is that presuming? I am quite happy to eat vegetarian or vegan food if that is what is being served. The issue here is not that the food is vegan, it is that it is inedible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

Different poster here: But you complained about DIL’s cooking. What is getting in the way of your son actually doing some cooking for guests, like you, when they visit? This isn’t that complicated.

[Anonymous]

I don’t care about vegans, I just want to hear what OP considers inedible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

Oh, so why can’t he just cook some of the “lot of vegan food you like”? You can send him the recipes, he can cook when you come over, problem solved! See how easy that was, if you son gets off his lazy duff and cook something for his mother, who claims to like “a lot of vegan food”?

[Anonymous]

When I cook for people, I do it with love. I do it to show appreciation for those who I invite.

Often, it's delicious. Sometimes, it's not.

OP, you need to think about your connections with people and ask yourself if you are acting with graciousness and appreciation for their friendships or not.

[Anonymous]

Take a couple of small bites then excuse yourself to go to the rest room. Spend several minutes on there. When you come back and everyone asks if you’re alright, say “it’s just something I ate earlier, an iffy piece of sushi,” sip some water, then say the food looks so delicious but you’re still not feeling well, could they wrap it for you for later?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take a couple of small bites then excuse yourself to go to the rest room. Spend several minutes on there. When you come back and everyone asks if you’re alright, say “it’s just something I ate earlier, an iffy piece of sushi,” sip some water, then say the food looks so delicious but you’re still not feeling well, could they wrap it for you for later?

No way. This is drawing far too much attention to yourself. Eat a portion of everything, move the food around, call it a night.

[Anonymous]

Pick around what you can. I'm sure there's something. A salad, bread. Might not be your favorite but not offensive. Thank them, and the have a bite when you get home. You're an adult. You won't starve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like dinner at my son's house. DIL is a vegan and most of what she comes up with is inedible. Well, she likes it.

There is a lot of vegan food I like, by the way, but the stuff she makes is just disgusting. I take a bite or two and then start planning what I'll eat when I get home.

I’m so sorry to hear that your son lost all of his limbs in a tragic boating accident. How awful that he cannot cook for himself, his family, or his guests. Just dreadful.

He does cook for himself, he's not a vegan. He doesn't presume to serve non-vegan food to her though, that would be insensitive. No one treats her badly just because she's a lousy vegan cook. You ok with that?

Oh, so why can’t he just cook some of the “lot of vegan food you like”? You can send him the recipes, he can cook when you come over, problem solved! See how easy that was, if you son gets off his lazy duff and cook something for his mother, who claims to like “a lot of vegan food”?

Exactly this. HIS mom is coming over, HE should be cooking. He can make something vegan for her, and something for himself and you. Or he could make something vegan, since you claim to like vegan food. The fact that she cooks for you at all is nice. Maybe you should offer to bring food over or take them out to a restaurant for a change. Why is she doing the heavy lifting for HIS guest?

[Anonymous]

You DILs are all pretty funny! I'm sure the whole problem is my son, right? Not that his wife can't manage to cook a decent vegan meal.

Sometimes he does cook food that I like but that wasn't the topic of this post. It was how do you manage when the dinner is inedible. When my son cooks, that wouldn't apply.

You all might want to calm down, just because my DIL is the lousy cook is not an attack on all DILs.