Ladies, how did you meet your rich husband?

[Anonymous]

Please let this be like that last thread where everybody posted movie plots and and song lyrics (I see you, SATC poster); 10/10 thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

[Anonymous]

He was my teacher and I was a high school student. He picked me up at the bus stop on a rainy day. His car was warm and dry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

He was the second person I met online. I screen heavily up front.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

Being high NW lowers a woman’s dating prospects.

You do sound like a materialistic, big spender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

He was the second person I met online. I screen heavily up front.

How do you screen upfront? Like, ask how much he's making, which places he usually goes to, housing situation? Do you even ask these questions upfront? Usually you find out these things after a month or two of dating, and that's a lot of time to screen everyone. Men would think I am a gold digger if I ask these questions at the stage of texting

[Anonymous]

I was a mail order bride

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

Being high NW lowers a woman’s dating prospects.

You do sound like a materialistic, big spender.

I spend a very small share of my income (around 200K/year), it's just half a million income.

[Anonymous]

He was my babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

Being high NW lowers a woman’s dating prospects.

You do sound like a materialistic, big spender.

You are probably a man: I do not mind contributing more into shared expenses. Booking better travel together and paying 2/3rds if he's making less, getting better theater tickets. But I just can't scale back on basic lifestyle habits like resume cheap grocery shopping vs ordering online, wearing Walmart clothes vs fashion brands, going to Cheesecake Factory vs Sfoglina, taking out cheap food etc. A man should be at a minimum able to pull off dating expenses (e.g. drinks, sometimes nice restaurants and venues that allow me to dress nicely and feel like a woman). I don't mind pulling off everything else when we get serious.

[Anonymous]

I was working as a cleaner in a swanky New York City hotel and had tried on a guest's designer gown. A handsome scion of a political dynasty instantly fell in love with me, mistaking me for a rich woman. Luckily he overcame his distaste at dating a working class single mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

He was the second person I met online. I screen heavily up front.

How do you screen upfront? Like, ask how much he's making, which places he usually goes to, housing situation? Do you even ask these questions upfront? Usually you find out these things after a month or two of dating, and that's a lot of time to screen everyone. Men would think I am a gold digger if I ask these questions at the stage of texting

I am not screening for income per se. I screen for education, job, intelligence, similar cultural references. I grew up UMC and don’t date anyone who isn’t similar. It causes class issues if I do, on both sides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

He was the second person I met online. I screen heavily up front.

How do you screen upfront? Like, ask how much he's making, which places he usually goes to, housing situation? Do you even ask these questions upfront? Usually you find out these things after a month or two of dating, and that's a lot of time to screen everyone. Men would think I am a gold digger if I ask these questions at the stage of texting

I am not screening for income per se. I screen for education, job, intelligence, similar cultural references. I grew up UMC and don’t date anyone who isn’t similar. It causes class issues if I do, on both sides.

Adding that my DH is not perfect or loaded. He had a house worth about $1M and makes about $300K.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

Being high NW lowers a woman’s dating prospects.

You do sound like a materialistic, big spender.

You can be a big spender when you earn a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online. But I was already top 10% NW for my age and I earn in the top 5% for women.

I am at 1% NW and 3% income for my age as a woman. Having hard times finding a match by the lifestyle: no interest in going back to cheap sushi places with my date where I wouldn't even invite my friends. How long did it take you online to find a "financial and lifestyle" match?

Being high NW lowers a woman’s dating prospects.

You do sound like a materialistic, big spender.

You can be a big spender when you earn a lot.

Yes women do tend to be prone to lifestyle creep.