
Nothing like instilling fear into your child to make them fearful of all situations, and once they reach adulthood they cannot function in normal society because all situations may be considered dangerous. |
Nobody has ever been hurt or abused by a woman. |
You're overreaching, overreacting, and misunderstanding. Surely there is a breastfeeding thread or SAHM v. WM debate you could enter if you are spoiling for a fight. |
What? How does "if you're ever lost, find a mommy to help you" instill fear of all situations and men? You're reaching. None of us are telling our children men are evil or to constantly be afraid or not to look for policemen -- just TO look for a mommy. Statistically its the best choice -- we're not scaring our kids, thanks. |
Oh FFS. Of course there ARE women pedophiles but statistically a mommy is a safer choice than a uniformed security guard. What is so difficult to understand about this? |
Straw man. No one's arguing all women are safe or all men are unsafe. |
Society is and I am sick to death of it. And heaven forbid if a man tries to help a child. I've heard about men who have rescued children being charged with kidnapping or other unfounded charges. We have got to start treating men with respect. Yes, I know there are male pedos but the VAST majority of men are safe. |
No one's treating men with disrespect or attacking men who try to help. Perhaps you are too sensitive to this issue to see this thread and its sensible, statistically sound advice objectively. |
Do you have any links, or is this just urban legend? |
OP here. I actually hadn't read that book, but I guess it's just my experience of the simplest instruction I felt my son could absorb. And when he was 3 and we were in Disney, I was tucking the stroller in the corner, and in that flash of time my son was out of my eye and he just went straight to a lady with a stroller. I was there in 2 seconds, but it gave me such incredible relief that he could follow such a simple rule. Doesn't have to try to use his own immature judgment, just find a mommy.
Anyway, I do not consider myself anti-man. But the odds are that your child simply has a better chance of avoiding being preyed upon in any way with a woman (especially a mom). And frankly, women also usually more keyed into helping a lost child. Honestly, with my own DH, I wonder where is his sense of panic...one time a little boy did come up to him lost and asked where his mom was, and my DH said, "I don't know honey" and kind of started to walk away. I was coming forward at that time and was like, "What?! What?! Where is your mommy honey?!" and of course stayed with him until he found his mom. But I have to wonder, would my DH have just left him there? |
Once when I was 17 I was skiing at a local resort and found a little kid, around 4 years old, stuck in a snowbank crying his eyes out. I took off my own gear, pulled him out, calmed him down, strapped him back into his gear, put on my own gear back on, pulled him to an easier slope, before shepherding him to the bottom of the mountain. His mother was waiting at the bottom with a resort employee, hysterical. At first she accused me of trying to kidnap her little boy, she didn't believe me for a second, and only after her little boy confirmed it did she calm down. She still said I 'could have kidnapped him if I wanted to,' and that she wouldn't have been so worried if I hadn't taken so damn long.
Not only did I never get an apology, but the whole ordeal took almost an hour of one of my cherished ski time, which I saved my money for and only got to enjoy one week a year. If I weren't concerned for the wellbeing of their poor kids I'd tell all of their mothers to go screw themselves. No offense, but it scarred me for life. |
I recommend "Protecting the Gift" for everyone who cares enough to read this thread. My husband was sexually abused as a child by his teacher, so I guess I feel very passionately about this subject. I would have to do some research to find the exact statistics, but I seem to recall that nearly 99 percent of CHILD sexual abuse is done by men.
I am teaching my children what to do to prevent them from ever becoming victims. "Protecting the Gift" has been invaluable. I worry that other people's children will become victims, however, if their parents insist on telling them that it's okay to ask a strange man or a strange man in uniform for help. Statistically this is NOT okay. All I can say is that every parent should read the book - or do quite a lot of research that doesn't include a quick google search of British newspapers. It's so important because childhood sexual abuse will undo all the other wonderful things that you give your child: love, financial security, great schools, a caring family, etc. I'm off my soapbox now. Sorry, I feel so passionately about this subject that I feel that I have to pipe in. No one wants to think that their child could be a victim, but statistics sadly prove otherwise. |
OMG, you have NO idea why your actions may not have been helpful? See, this is the cluelessness some people speak about. When you see a lost child, you start looking for the ski patrol and immediately get him back to his mother. You don't shuttle the kid to an easier slope. Yes, thank you, next time go tell me to screw myself, but keep the hell away from my child if your decision making is so bad. |
Okay I was the pp who blasted you before. I take it back, now that I realize you are a troll. Good trolling, troll. |