Ok this is a new one…adult DSD wants to buy a gun

[Anonymous]

So.. she'll leave the gun in her car then?

[Anonymous]

We have a firearm in our apartment (locked up, ammo stored separately). I wouldn't let an adult child living with me own a firearm that they plan to carry around with them.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not with an 8yo in the house. She can carry pepper spray if she’s worried about her safety. If she wants to own a gun she can get her own apartment.

+1. Pepper spray on her keychain while she lives in your home.

[Anonymous]

No gun in your house.

Is it her car?

What does her dad say?

[Anonymous]

DSD?

[Anonymous]

Get her some self-defense training that includes practice where you really get to hit (a padded, protected) someone. They're usually taught by cops, and include lots of straight talk about what is, and isn't, effective protection. (Pepper spray, for instance, isn't helpful -- if the bad guy is close enough for you to use it, he' already too close.)

I'm a big fan of RAD courses, but there are others.
http://www.rad-systems.com/index.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...she will never be able to achieve a level of agility with a weapon that it could actually help her, and in no way would I feel comfortable with her level of responsibility to properly store a gun in our home...

There's a lot of presumption there for someone you've already described as "launched, works full time and is respectful of house rules...” So is she dedicated to the things she does and responsible in how she carries them out, or not? I know several young women that are responsible gun owners and very skilled with them. They carry, and you wouldn't even know it. You might be surprised at how many responsible gun owners you already know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DSD age 22 lives with me and 8 yo sibling in NOVA. She’s “launched” and works FT, will shift to PT to attend grad school, is in a great job with room to grow. Has her own social life, I’d respectful of house rules, and helps out. Today she said she wants to open carry a handgun for protection “while she still can”. DSD is attractive and gets a lot of male stares and I guess she’s afraid of stalkers etc in parking lots. Personally I think this is the dumbest thing in the world, that she will never be able to achieve a level of agility with a weapon that it could actually help her, and in no way would I feel comfortable with her level of responsibility to properly store a gun in our home with an 8 yo child present. I would not even want to ride in a car with her while she has a gun. Like, I’m laughing and cringing simultaneously as I think about this. So, I just said “I don’t know the laws here but I think they aren’t very strict”. I guess if she mentions it again I’ll tell her she can’t have it in the house or the car, and just see if this is a fleeting thing that she never follows up on?

Why open carry? I just think that's really weird. Unless you are living in a place literally crawling with criminals and need it to warn people to stay away it seems super excessive. I get wanting to own one for protection. It is your home though and if you are really opposed then you should say so. You said she is respectful of house rules so make it a house rule.

If she proceeds, she should take gun safety training and so should you and your 8 yr old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your house, your rules. So she has to move out if she wants a gun and the gun isn't welcome in your house when she visits.

+1 We have a gun but it's in a biometric safe and we own our house. I wouldn't let a 22 year old bring a gun into my house. Her brain isn't developed yet, and you have an 8 year old to think of.

[Anonymous]

DSD = Divorced Step-Daughter??

She is divorced at 22?

[Anonymous]

Open carry is asinine. She doesn’t sound like she understand much about the realities of firearms ownership and use. If she wants to own a firearm she should first be fully self supporting. Then she should take some decent beginner training. Merely owning a firearm no more makes a person a marksman or competent in self defense then merely owning a guitar would make them a musician. Carrying a gun with the intent to scare people (which is what her desire to open carry suggests) might work until she runs into somebody who isn’t scared. Then things are inclined to go South very quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DSD age 22 lives with me and 8 yo sibling in NOVA. She’s “launched” and works FT, will shift to PT to attend grad school, is in a great job with room to grow. Has her own social life, I’d respectful of house rules, and helps out. Today she said she wants to open carry a handgun for protection “while she still can”. DSD is attractive and gets a lot of male stares and I guess she’s afraid of stalkers etc in parking lots. Personally I think this is the dumbest thing in the world, that she will never be able to achieve a level of agility with a weapon that it could actually help her, and in no way would I feel comfortable with her level of responsibility to properly store a gun in our home with an 8 yo child present. I would not even want to ride in a car with her while she has a gun. Like, I’m laughing and cringing simultaneously as I think about this. So, I just said “I don’t know the laws here but I think they aren’t very strict”. I guess if she mentions it again I’ll tell her she can’t have it in the house or the car, and just see if this is a fleeting thing that she never follows up on?

Troll.

[Anonymous]

When seconds count, you can be sure the cops are minutes away. Or worse, they get there in plenty of time but are cut from the same cloth as the cops in Uvalde.

We need more people who are self-reliant with respect to personal security. The second amendment goes a long way toward increasing the pucker factor for criminals.

It is your house though, so you can set the rules and she should comply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When seconds count, you can be sure the cops are minutes away. Or worse, they get there in plenty of time but are cut from the same cloth as the cops in Uvalde.

We need more people who are self-reliant with respect to personal security. The second amendment goes a long way toward increasing the pucker factor for criminals.

It is your house though, so you can set the rules and she should comply.

There’s a lot of research showing that people who train less than 15 hours a month are far more of a danger to themselves than to anyone else

You should read the steps that Israel requires everyone (including, e.g., former Army snipers) to go through to maintain their gun permits.

Open or concealed carry with prison for letting unauthorized people access your weapons and a 150 hour annual training requirement? Sure. Otherwise no.