Boyfriend wants to use location sharing: Red Flag?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is the kind of thing I’d be willing to do with a husband but not a boyfriend.

I've been married for 23 years and neither dh nor I keeps tabs on the other this way.

I agree. I do this with my kids, but not with DH.

[Anonymous]

I don’t do this with my husband (married 18 years), but we do have an air tag in our elementary age kid bag

[Anonymous]

We do this. It’s helpful but we have nothing to hide.

[Anonymous]

Gross. Huge red flag for me. I’ve been married 20 years and never used this feature.

[Anonymous]

Probably wouldn’t do this with a boyfriend.

My husband and I do, but not really purposely. We have family sharing turned on and it tracks all the devices on the account on find my iPhone. My husband’s Tesla also shows location etc in app (on my phone as I drive it also) so we can see where the person is in if they are in that car too.
My parents phones also share their location with me. This is a safety thing as they are older with health issues.

[Anonymous]

My whole family uses find my friends with each other, I love knowing where we all are, we used it on our live in babysitter who used our phone as well. Helpful when she got in a car accident with our car and I had to drive to her.

[Anonymous]

Oh, hell to the no! But maybe that's just me.

[Anonymous]

DH and I do this but I’d never do it with a BF. I like to have it so if he’s late I can see where he is without having to call him because he hates talking while driving.

[Anonymous]

My husband and teen and I do it. it's handy for us (when to put the pasta on, where to pick them up, etc...) but I can see how it's not for everyone. For me, if you live with someone, I think it makes sense but that doesn't mean you have to feel the same.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do this and I don't think anyone in my family would agree to it.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I have it and it’s incredibly useful. Like when I want to know when he is coming home from work I can check without bothering him. We are very boring people. I can see how I wouldn’t have wanted someone I was dating to see all my movements unless it was a long term very serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it weird that my bf wants me to share my location? He offered to do it for me, too. I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it.

I guess it depends, if you two have known each other for couple of years, are loyal and want a future together, it would make complete sense to have each other's back.No?

[Anonymous]

He wants an excuse to go through your phone. This the offer to do it for you.

As others have said I definitely wouldn't do it for a boyfriend and probably tell a husband no too.

Even if you aren't totally against it I'd tell him no, his reaction to you know will tell you valuable information about him and why he wants to know.

[Anonymous]

We only share location during long solo drives. For safety.

[Anonymous]

(OP): Thanks for the feedback. He's controlling in other ways too and weird about how I spend my time/with whom. It makes me uneasy.