15 year old staying home overnight alone

[Anonymous]

You are pretty much inviting them to have tons of sex all over the house should you allow this op.

That’s what will happen

[Anonymous]

Get someone else to stay at your house with your DD.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ask one of the grandparents to stay with her …. Instead of her going to them?

My mom has mobility difficulties and our house isn't fully accessible. And because she's a fall risk, it's better that she not be alone overnight.

Then how would she even have dinner with the grandparents?

One of my parents can drive her. My mom can drive, even if she can't go up and down the stairs in my house. My dad can get to her quickly in case of emergency.

My gut says no, but when my daughter asks what I'm worried about, I can't think of anything that is a realistic fear (the house is not going to spontaneously burst into flames).

Come on, OP. You know why:
-Because while she is responsible, she hasn’t had the experience really take in the importance of things like checking for the doors being locked, stove off, etc.
-Because it’s really difficult to say no to friends, even if you’re a responsible kid. Someone will find out and stop by.
-Because that’s a long time (over 50 hours) to go being alone for anyone.
-Because you’d worry, and that’s not how you want to spend your mental energy while you are away

[Anonymous]

No

Hell no

[Anonymous]

OP—it’s not up to you to convince your kid that your decision for her to stay with grandparents or a friend is good enough for her. It’s really fine to just say, “I’m not comfortable with it, and that’s my final decision.”

[Anonymous]

No. It has nothing to do with how responsible your kid is either. Once word gets out on SM that no adults are home, and it will, your house will be overrun with teens, and there won't be a thing your teen can do about it.

[Anonymous]

No. I stayed alone when I was that age. And I was scared / regretted telling my mom I would be fine. I wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are pretty much inviting them to have tons of sex all over the house should you allow this op.

That’s what will happen

NP. At 15?? My 15 yo is a freshman. I really do not think her friends are having sex yet, so I doubt that what you describe is the norm.

That being said, young teens, even mature ones, might not be prepared for unexpected circumstances that they have to reason through (anything outside the norm).

[Anonymous]

The friends thing is silly. You know your kid and whether she would have people over inappropriately or not. The more concerning thing for me would just be an emergency or that age might get scared. We left our very responsible 15 year old overnight once. It was fine. Personally, as long as she knows what to do in an emergency and there are people nearby who can get to her quickly or be responsive if something goes wrong, I think it’s fine. You know your child. My child is 16 now but doesn’t have a license yet. I’d feel more comfortable when they can drive if they need to get something, although then I’ll worry about them driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are pretty much inviting them to have tons of sex all over the house should you allow this op.

That’s what will happen

NP. At 15?? My 15 yo is a freshman. I really do not think her friends are having sex yet, so I doubt that what you describe is the norm.

That being said, young teens, even mature ones, might not be prepared for unexpected circumstances that they have to reason through (anything outside the norm).

Her friends tell you this?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are pretty much inviting them to have tons of sex all over the house should you allow this op.

That’s what will happen

NP. At 15?? My 15 yo is a freshman. I really do not think her friends are having sex yet, so I doubt that what you describe is the norm.

That being said, young teens, even mature ones, might not be prepared for unexpected circumstances that they have to reason through (anything outside the norm).

Her friends tell you this?!

No, but they seem pretty innocent at this age still. Most haven’t had a boyfriend yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I stayed alone when I was that age. And I was scared / regretted telling my mom I would be fine. I wasn’t.

This is the only thing I’d be concerned about with my 15 yo. I’d actually be OK with him staying alone if a friend stayed over. He has really nice friends. But we probably won’t do this until 17. Honestly, we never go anywhere so it’s hard to imagine the circumstances!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are pretty much inviting them to have tons of sex all over the house should you allow this op.

That’s what will happen

This is why I wouldn’t let my 16 year old stay home alone. Why make it easy for her to have sex with her boyfriend? I am not naive. I know they can find a time and place to do this if they want to, but my job is not to make it easy.

[Anonymous]

I would do one night but not a long weekend.

[Anonymous]

I am going to say it's fine. Your daughter has the advantage of a cell phone and 911. People want to lower the voting age to 16, but won't trust their children home alone.