Dhoti and Half Saree Ceremony question

[Anonymous]

Dhoti ceremony is a coming of age ceremony for boys and they get to wear a dhoti for the first time.

Equivalent to Janeu (thread) ceremony for Hindu boys.
https://arungovil.in/importance-of-wearing-janeu-in-hinduism.html

[Anonymous]

South Asian here and have never heard of this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are not Indian but are invited to this ceremony for a girl my DD friends with and her brother.

The invitation says “no gifts please.” Should we really not bring anything? Or maybe gift cards?

No need to bring gifts. If you want you can give a cash gift or check for $21, $51 or $101 in an envelope or card for each kid.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in the Philly suburbs and had a ceremony after I got my period 30 years ago. It was family only though, not something to which you’d invite friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in the Philly suburbs and had a ceremony after I got my period 30 years ago. It was family only though, not something to which you’d invite friends and family.

+1 I heard of this and was thankful that my family didn't do it. (No offense) My mom was given a half sari by her mom when her period began and they had a moment together, but there was no ceremony. Is having an event a family tradition?

[Anonymous]

* I've heard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in the Philly suburbs and had a ceremony after I got my period 30 years ago. It was family only though, not something to which you’d invite friends and family.

+1 I heard of this and was thankful that my family didn't do it. (No offense) My mom was given a half sari by her mom when her period began and they had a moment together, but there was no ceremony. Is having an event a family tradition?

In some South Indian communities it’s still a huge event. The entire village is invited and it’s almost like a wedding. My grandmother wanted to have one for all her granddaughters but thankfully all her children shut down the idea.