To the cranky old lady at the gym

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Anonymous wrote:Give your child up for adoption to someone who will put the baby's needs ahead of their own selfishness.

Yeah, because taking a rushed 5 minutes shower is such an indulgence...

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You folks are ridiculous. You really think it is such a big deal for some woman to have to hear a toddler cry for five minutes while she is taking her post-shower workout? It's not a library or a meditation garden! It is a locker room filled with lots of noises. I listen to the annoying hyena laughter and gossip of snobby ex cheerleader types while I take my shower and I manage to survive just fine. I can't believe you're all taking the side of a grown woman who, rightfully annoyed or not, DIRECTED A SHITTY COMMENT AT A ONE YEAR OLD.

Actually, you are the one who is being ridiculous. You're one of those people who looks for excuses to be offended. You leave your child sit there screaming and crying for you to hold him for 5 minutes. This woman said "Calm down kiddo, I bet your mom is almost done," which is an innocuous enough comment, but you have to spin it as condescending and shitty. I agree that you really need to have your meds adjusted because you really have no clue and no sense of proportion. You're too self-centered to admit that you were wrong and rude, but have to make this woman who did nothing wrong the villain when you are the culprit here. One of the extremely rare times that DCUM is pretty much in perfect accord and you can't understand why no one agrees with you.

I'm not the OP!

Okay, so why would you describe the comment "Calm down, kiddo, I bet your mom is almost done." as a shitty comment? We have only the unreasonable OP's assertion that this was condescending. Sounds perfectly normal to me, but OP went off the deep end because of it and actually reported it to the management? When she was the one who let her child sit there crying and screaming for five minutes while she took a shower (you know if my child is screaming, I shower in about 2 minutes, not 5). OP was out of touch with reality and I think you are mischaracterizing what was said to excuse the rude OP, unless you really are her and are just sock-puppeting your own thread.

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OP. I understand you went swimming but just dry off, put on some sweats and a tshirt and go home and shower there. I don't imagine your 1 year old was too comfortable sitting there in this new environment with all these strangers wandering about showering (noisy, etc)

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Hey, OP, how old do you think the "old lady" was? I can't wait to hear!

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Anonymous wrote:Hey, OP, how old do you think the "old lady" was? I can't wait to hear!

70 something.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey, OP, how old do you think the "old lady" was? I can't wait to hear!

70 something.

I'll bet.

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Unfortunately bathing at home won't work since it's a swimming class and I have to change anyway.Id rather have him cry the extra 5 minutes I shower instead of dragging him home and delaying his nap and lunch so I can have the luxury of a shower

What difference does it make whether it is a swimming class? It isn't going to harm you to quickly change and then wait to shower until you get home. Why can't you shower once he is down for his nap? This makes no sense.

Because if I shower he wakes up. The bathroom is in my bedroom. Like I said he always cries when I shower.

So what's the difference? He cries either way, at least both of you (and everyone else at the gym) will be more comfortable if you shower at home.

Like I said and you missed - I don't want to delay his nap and lunch. We function better in a schedule. Without it the tantrums are much worse.

How much did you delay his lunch and nap by taking the time to complain to management?
And tantrums? He is only one. You have not seen a tantrum yet.
Your boy is incredible. Not many one year olds would stay where you put them and wait for you to shower. Some would try to kill themselves accidentally instead, and you could never have your shower in the first place.

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Unfortunately bathing at home won't work since it's a swimming class and I have to change anyway.Id rather have him cry the extra 5 minutes I shower instead of dragging him home and delaying his nap and lunch so I can have the luxury of a shower

What difference does it make whether it is a swimming class? It isn't going to harm you to quickly change and then wait to shower until you get home. Why can't you shower once he is down for his nap? This makes no sense.

Because if I shower he wakes up. The bathroom is in my bedroom. Like I said he always cries when I shower.

So what's the difference? He cries either way, at least both of you (and everyone else at the gym) will be more comfortable if you shower at home.

Like I said and you missed - I don't want to delay his nap and lunch. We function better in a schedule. Without it the tantrums are much worse.

How much did you delay his lunch and nap by taking the time to complain to management?
And tantrums? He is only one. You have not seen a tantrum yet.
Your boy is incredible. Not many one year olds would stay where you put them and wait for you to shower. Some would try to kill themselves accidentally instead, and you could never have your shower in the first place.

This only comes to show you all how great of a job I've done with my son as opposed to being the horrible mother you're trying to make me feel like.

He was well fed, he had my phone to play with and I was right there at arms reach. He was fine he just wanted things his way but I needed the shower.

I delayed his lunch 2 minutes since the manager talked to me as I walked out to my car and strapped my child into the seat.

And I'm not sure why you're saying I've not seeing tantrums yet. A child throwing themselves on the floor because I said no is not a tantrum??.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi chipotle lady....how are you? You've been gone awhile.

+1. Welcome back. Care to get more creative next time?

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10 pages and I don't understand why you were shamed at having an "old lady" try to calm down your child. The feelings of shame are inside you. You argue so vociferously that it's okay to have him there screaming while you shower, but then you feel deeply shamed at the interaction with outsiders -- now, Sigmund Freud might say that you don't feel entirely comfortable with your actions in the first place, hmmmm.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you shower at home, weirdo?

omg!

cracked me the fuck up this morning!

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You folks are ridiculous. You really think it is such a big deal for some woman to have to hear a toddler cry for five minutes while she is taking her post-shower workout? It's not a library or a meditation garden! It is a locker room filled with lots of noises. I listen to the annoying hyena laughter and gossip of snobby ex cheerleader types while I take my shower and I manage to survive just fine. I can't believe you're all taking the side of a grown woman who, rightfully annoyed or not, DIRECTED A SHITTY COMMENT AT A ONE YEAR OLD.

Actually, you are the one who is being ridiculous. You're one of those people who looks for excuses to be offended. You leave your child sit there screaming and crying for you to hold him for 5 minutes. This woman said "Calm down kiddo, I bet your mom is almost done," which is an innocuous enough comment, but you have to spin it as condescending and shitty. I agree that you really need to have your meds adjusted because you really have no clue and no sense of proportion. You're too self-centered to admit that you were wrong and rude, but have to make this woman who did nothing wrong the villain when you are the culprit here. One of the extremely rare times that DCUM is pretty much in perfect accord and you can't understand why no one agrees with you.

Hey, you just proved yourself wrong. I'm the OP and I didn't post this comment you quoted.

What was the lady trying to do if I was trying to calm the baby and it didn't work? She thought her sweet face and singy songy voice would shut him up?????

If you're not a troll, and I'm thinking the people crying troll are making some good points, then it's interesting that the "cranky old lady" has now transformed into a "sweet face and singy songy voice." I'm guessing that the woman was slightly older than you and probably the kind of woman you're especially jealous of - more attractive, has a better sense of style, a better personality, more friends, etc. - and then had the audacity to try to comfort your unhappy child. Any acknowledgement that there's something wrong with what you're doing or who you are, and that triggers a rage response. Luckily, this time, you could direct your rage against the "cranky old woman." Who's going to be your target next time?

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7:39, have you ever heard of sarcasm?

You're quite the armchair psychoanalyst, by the way.

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Wait-- a one year-old was left unrestrained and unsupervised with a choking hazard in his hands? Really?

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Anonymous wrote:I was the mom trying to shower in the next stall while my son screamed his head off sitting on the bench right outside my stall. My apologies if he ruined your "showering at the gym experience".

Popping your head out and yelling "Calm down kiddo, I bet your mom is almost done" in a condescending tone didn't help as you saw since he became hysteric after your attempt to shame me. He's ONE he doesn't understand!!!!

Yes, I called the manager, told him that people like you are the reason why people like me are flakes at the gym. It was my first day after being out for 3 months due to my sons surgery and recovery and we're having a hard time readjusting.

Thanks for ruining my day!

Funny since I just read this article last night...

http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/09/15/dear-parents-you-need-to-control-your-kids-sincerely-non-parents/

You poor thing. I bet you had no idea of the backlash you would experience by posting your original comment. I do think you were actually in the wrong here. Why would you even shower at the gym? that is gross but whatever. and the old cranky lady has just as much right to a calming shower experience as you have to your son screaming while YOU shower. You/We don't live in a world by ourselves - there are people of all shapes and sizes and temperaments around us - get used to it.

Unfortunately you looked really silly for complaining to the gym manager as you are the one who looks crazy here