Families would rather have daughters than sons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of you people talking down boys or girls with stereotypical negative traits need to spend some time on a Special Needs parents forum to gain some perspective and count your blessings over your neurotypical kids, sheesh.

Please do not tell people to count their blessings that their child is not like mine, whether because that’s because your child is a girl or because they are neurotypical. My kids are also blessings, and are not props to make you feel better about your life.

Am the one with the original comment. And I have a kid with SN. What I meant is that when I see all this complaining over gender, it seems so shallow and frivolous given all my child and our family deal with in setting my child up for life. And same with all the SN families I know.

I agree with what you are saying. I often think that reading the college and private school forumsPeople with " normal" kids have no idea how fortunate they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/416809/sexism-girl-preference-sex-ratios-discrimination-ivf

Interesting piece. Have seen this pop up now and then.

Speaking to younger families/couples anecdotally I find this to be true also.

Thoughts?

Not clicking on the link, but isn't this about older moms who waited too long to have kids naturally and are using fertility treatments?

If you are an older first time mom who is going to be in your mid to late 60s with a teenager, and are conceiving in a way that the lab can pick the baby's gender, it makes sense that more of the moms will pick a daughter to increase the possibility that her only offspring will be more likely to take care of her in her old age. The older moms also likely perceive little girls as being less physically taxing for an older mom than little boys, making a duaghter more desirable than a son.

So you are just guessing here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/416809/sexism-girl-preference-sex-ratios-discrimination-ivf

Interesting piece. Have seen this pop up now and then.

Speaking to younger families/couples anecdotally I find this to be true also.

Thoughts?

Not clicking on the link, but isn't this about older moms who waited too long to have kids naturally and are using fertility treatments?

If you are an older first time mom who is going to be in your mid to late 60s with a teenager, and are conceiving in a way that the lab can pick the baby's gender, it makes sense that more of the moms will pick a daughter to increase the possibility that her only offspring will be more likely to take care of her in her old age. The older moms also likely perceive little girls as being less physically taxing for an older mom than little boys, making a duaghter more desirable than a son.

So you are just guessing here.

???

Those are all reasons that moms everywhere give when stating they express wanting daughters over sons. It's not like any of those things are a big surprise.

The reasons women give for preferring girls are:

1) Girls easier to manage than boys when they are younger because girls behave and communicate better when young.

2) Girls are more likely to be around and keep a relationship with mom after they grow up, and more likely to take care of their parents than boys

3) Little boys are so wild and rambunctious and I don't have the time or energy to deal with that.

4) Dressing little girls is so much more fun than dressing little boys

5) Girls will favor their parents over their in laws after marriage and having babies, while many daughter in laws actively block their husbands families from their dailu lives, so if you have girls you are far more likely to get to have relationships with your grandkids and more likely to get your kids/grandkids for holidays than you are with sons (This stereotype is true in nearly every family I know, even if the husband's parents are great people and the wife's parents are shrews.)

6) Girls have more opportunities than boys. They can be girly girls and still be strong, or successful in traditionally "guy" roles/jobs/sports, with more freedom against stereotypes and the ability to choose their path.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/416809/sexism-girl-preference-sex-ratios-discrimination-ivf

Interesting piece. Have seen this pop up now and then.

Speaking to younger families/couples anecdotally I find this to be true also.

Thoughts?

Not clicking on the link, but isn't this about older moms who waited too long to have kids naturally and are using fertility treatments?

If you are an older first time mom who is going to be in your mid to late 60s with a teenager, and are conceiving in a way that the lab can pick the baby's gender, it makes sense that more of the moms will pick a daughter to increase the possibility that her only offspring will be more likely to take care of her in her old age. The older moms also likely perceive little girls as being less physically taxing for an older mom than little boys, making a duaghter more desirable than a son.

So you are just guessing here.

???

Those are all reasons tgat moms everywhere give when stating they express wanting daughters over sons. It's not like any of those things are a big surprise.

The reasons women give for preferring girls are:

1) Girls easier to manage than boys when they are younger because girls behave and communicate better when young.

2) Girls are more likely to be around and keep a relationship with mom after they grow up, and more likely to take care of their parents than boys

3) Little boys are so wild and rambunctious and I don't have the time or energy to deal with that.

4) Dreading little girls is so much more fun than dressing little boys

5) girls will favor their parents over their in laws after marriage and having babies, while many daughter in laws actively block their husbands families from their dailu lives, so if you have girls you are far more likely to get to have relationships with your grandkids and more likely to get your kids/grandkids for holidays than you are with sons (This stereotype is true in nearly every family I know, even if the husband's parents are great people and the wife's parents are shrews.)

6) Girls have more opportunities than boys. They can be girly girls and still be strong, or successful in traditionally "guy" roles/jobs/sports, with more freedom against stereotypes and the ability to choose their path.

The PP is guessing about older moms in particular.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/416809/sexism-girl-preference-sex-ratios-discrimination-ivf

Interesting piece. Have seen this pop up now and then.

Speaking to younger families/couples anecdotally I find this to be true also.

Thoughts?

Not clicking on the link, but isn't this about older moms who waited too long to have kids naturally and are using fertility treatments?

If you are an older first time mom who is going to be in your mid to late 60s with a teenager, and are conceiving in a way that the lab can pick the baby's gender, it makes sense that more of the moms will pick a daughter to increase the possibility that her only offspring will be more likely to take care of her in her old age. The older moms also likely perceive little girls as being less physically taxing for an older mom than little boys, making a duaghter more desirable than a son.

So you are just guessing here.

???

Those are all reasons tgat moms everywhere give when stating they express wanting daughters over sons. It's not like any of those things are a big surprise.

The reasons women give for preferring girls are:

1) Girls easier to manage than boys when they are younger because girls behave and communicate better when young.

2) Girls are more likely to be around and keep a relationship with mom after they grow up, and more likely to take care of their parents than boys

3) Little boys are so wild and rambunctious and I don't have the time or energy to deal with that.

4) Dreading little girls is so much more fun than dressing little boys

5) girls will favor their parents over their in laws after marriage and having babies, while many daughter in laws actively block their husbands families from their dailu lives, so if you have girls you are far more likely to get to have relationships with your grandkids and more likely to get your kids/grandkids for holidays than you are with sons (This stereotype is true in nearly every family I know, even if the husband's parents are great people and the wife's parents are shrews.)

6) Girls have more opportunities than boys. They can be girly girls and still be strong, or successful in traditionally "guy" roles/jobs/sports, with more freedom against stereotypes and the ability to choose their path.

The PP is guessing about older moms in particular.

Isn't the article about moms who use artificial conception to create their babies, ie older moms?

Those women are going to be disproportionately older moms, closer to menopause, who are only goung to get one or two shots max at having a baby.

Those are the ones requesting baby girls.

Of course those older moms struggling with fertility are thinking about their potential daughters as being more likely to care for them in old age, and being physically easier to raise due to behavior of younf girls vs young boys.

Why else would these moms select baby girls fetuses instead of just wanting a healthy baby of any gender?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

True. Everyone needs to watch “Adolescence” on Netflix. It’s truly eye opening about what boys have turned into in 2026. Glad we don’t have one!

I couldn’t even finish it, I was so creeped out. I told my DH, maybe we can hope one or both of our girls is gay?! The 2-mom families I know seem so happy.

[Anonymous]

Ya'll do realize that Adolescence is pure fiction and is not real life for 99.9% of young boys.

Your reaction to it and actually beloeving that is what boys and young men are like is akin to watching fatal attraction then hoping you will never encounter middle aged women, because middle age women are sadistic psychos who take pleasure in bouling pet rabbits to death.

[Anonymous]

All the young women I work with in a professional setting are annoyingly immature and ill-prepared for what life is about to throw at them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the young women I work with in a professional setting are annoyingly immature and ill-prepared for what life is about to throw at them.

Thank social media influencers for dumbing-down and stunting a generation of young women.

[Anonymous]

I wanted all sons.

Of course, I wanted a healthy child and we kind have loved any gender—-but my preference was boys.

I have 2 boys and my sister has 3 boys. She always wanted a daughter. I never did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I’ve seen is that people are really dead set on having at least “one of each.” People will stop at 2 kids if they have a boy and a girl, but the couples I usually see going for 3+ are trying for a boy after 2 girls or a girl after 2 boys. And I feel like most of the time they just end up with 3-4 girls or boys anyway!

I'm currently pregnant with my second boy and I get "are you going to try again for a girl" from random people (not people I'm close to at all) all the time. It's honestly a bit weird.

I have 2 boys and it’s a rarity in my social circles. 2 girl families are also quite rare.

Really? Almost all my sons’ friends were 2 boy families too. We know a lot of 2 girl families too.

Mine are 18 and 20 now.

[Anonymous]

People think that women prefer their own parents or block the in laws but I think what happens is the men don’t keep their parents close and women aren’t willing to pick up all that slack or paper over it.

I think my mother in law thinks I “block” her but actually she has a very messy relationship with her son and I just don’t get in the middle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ya'll do realize that Adolescence is pure fiction and is not real life for 99.9% of young boys.

Your reaction to it and actually beloeving that is what boys and young men are like is akin to watching fatal attraction then hoping you will never encounter middle aged women, because middle age women are sadistic psychos who take pleasure in bouling pet rabbits to death.

Your statement is utter nonsense. The series Adolescence is now included in the standard schools curricula in the U.K., as it is realistically reflective of many boys’ experiences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People think that women prefer their own parents or block the in laws but I think what happens is the men don’t keep their parents close and women aren’t willing to pick up all that slack or paper over it.

I think my mother in law thinks I “block” her but actually she has a very messy relationship with her son and I just don’t get in the middle.

Be honest.

Most women I have met actively block their in laws.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ya'll do realize that Adolescence is pure fiction and is not real life for 99.9% of young boys.

Your reaction to it and actually beloeving that is what boys and young men are like is akin to watching fatal attraction then hoping you will never encounter middle aged women, because middle age women are sadistic psychos who take pleasure in bouling pet rabbits to death.

Your statement is utter nonsense. The series Adolescence is now included in the standard schools curricula in the U.K., as it is realistically reflective of many boys’ experiences.

Oh my gosh.

How ridiculous.

No, it is NOT representative of young men.

The UK is ridiculous for putting that in their curriculum.