ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Did she take the matters too?

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Ugh mattress.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL DH’s aunt from hell is exactly like this and 100x worse. We stopped hosting because of her as did my SIL. Hosting Thanksgiving for that side means cooking and buying a massive amount of food but that’s not enough, you have to make more than twice as much as needed. It gets up to 30-40 people so the poor hosts are struggling with 2 turkeys, 20 lbs of potatoes, 10 lbs f sweet potatoes, making a gallon of gravy, several Costco pies, etc etc. it’s awful.

She was angry the last time because there simply wasn’t room in our house to set up a full leftover packing table. She brought cheap restaurant take out containers and labeled them to return to Erma’s house ( ensuring a visit in her mind). She and her husband load up multiple for themselves and scurry it out to her car. She literally yells across the room that those turkey carcasses are HERS!

The best one is that she also takes whatever she and her husband want from the refrigerator and she tries to take cookware. I didn’t say anything as she was squeezing with piggish delight in finding cheese and other stuff she likes in our fridge. I did say enough when I caught her grabbing my good stockpot and Dutch oven. She had the nerve to say ooooh you can just come over and get it in a few weeks. I had to tell her no, it isn’t leaving my house.

Sounds like my aunt. Except she wouldn’t limit herself to the refrigerator, she would go to my closet and pack up clothes of mine for her kid and then random books and toys from my room too. It was traumatic to go over to her house and find my cousin wearing my clothes that I’d been looking for. My mom wouldn’t limit herself India I wasn’t being generous enough.

As an adult, we are always the ones bringing tons of food to friends’ homes or make enough for people to take home if we have them over. I think we are generous — but I don’t give my siblings anything.

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My mom used to always turn leftover mashed potatoes into latkes the next day. It's a personal favorite of mine.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. I thought my family was dysfunctional but I can’t even imagine fighting over leftovers. You all sound low class.

It's some wanna be rich thing to be fretting about your own family being "low class". They are cut from the same cloth even if OP is putting on airs about being classy when she wants to hoard leftovers for herself. None of this is classy.

No, you lack class just like the people described in these posts. Op isn't hoarding leftovers. She has guests to feed the next day. That isn't hoarding leftovers idiot. That such an obvious deceitful take on what op is describing. It's clear you're a parasite and these posts are making you realize what a leach we all think you are.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. I thought my family was dysfunctional but I can’t even imagine fighting over leftovers. You all sound low class.

It's some wanna be rich thing to be fretting about your own family being "low class". They are cut from the same cloth even if OP is putting on airs about being classy when she wants to hoard leftovers for herself. None of this is classy.

No, you lack class just like the people described in these posts. Op isn't hoarding leftovers. She has guests to feed the next day. That isn't hoarding leftovers idiot. That such an obvious deceitful take on what op is describing. It's clear you're a parasite and these posts are making you realize what a leach we all think you are.

Nope. Being so militant about left over food is beyond weird.

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?

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I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.

I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.

Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?

These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?

Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?

OP said they have plenty of money.

Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.

Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???

How big was that box? Just make more potatoes. It’s the cheapest thing.

What’s cheaper than that is using the mashed potatoes you already made instead of storing them for a week plus and making new ones.

It's not cheaper, it would cost the same, just be half the work to make them once vs twice. I don't think these people care about fresh potatoes since they want to eat mashed potatoes for days.

So buying a second round of groceries to make a 2nd batch of potatoes costs the same cost as not buying more potatoes and just eating the ones that's already prepared instead of storing them? Are you ok?

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I cook huge quantities for TG and ask our guests to bring their own tupperware, freezer packs etc. Then all of us divvy up the food for everyone. The last thing that my family wants is to eat TG leftovers for more than one meal the next day.

OP, try doubling up the TG meal quantities. It is wonderful that people want to eat the leftovers. You can send them back home with a taste of the holidays. Food for me is the universal language of love.

As a guest, I’d be uncomfortable showing up with Tupperware and freezer packs. I’d probably just say I forgot to bring them and thank you for the offer.

We go to very good friends' most years for thanksgivings, and bring 3-4 dishes, including the main dish (usually a tenderloin or a rib roast, no one likes turkey). We happily bring containers for leftovers, and bring home some (not all) of whatever is left, whether we made it or not.

It never occurred to me that I should be uncomfortable about this. Of course, none of us are uptight snots, either.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the disturbed one here. She WENT and took BACK the leftovers her in-laws took out of their tupperware containers to reserve????? Talk about hostile!!!!!!!!!

She was perfectly within her rights. If someone takes $50 from me and puts it in their purse, I’m going in to take what’s mine.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know if this is regional or what but I used to be a guest and was never offered leftovers. Massachusetts.

I never heard of this before DCUM.

I was also born in MA, and in general nobody was sent home with leftovers, but if a kid REALLY liked something they were often given a ziplock of a couple extra. You liked this new pumpkin cookie I made? Here are two for the ride home. You decided this year that you actually love carrot cake? Here's an extra slice for tomorrow.

That's typical. We did plates of leftovers for guys that came for an early shift T Day so they could make sandwiches or have some pie later. Families with young children or small household might want some leftovers for T day light 2nd meal or the next day to eat at their local residence. Never heard of houseguests stocking containers in the host fridge when they are driving home on Friday or Saturday.

Some guests did double T day. Early meal one place then go elsewhere for dinner /evening. They don't cart around leftovers.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I cook huge quantities for TG and ask our guests to bring their own tupperware, freezer packs etc. Then all of us divvy up the food for everyone. The last thing that my family wants is to eat TG leftovers for more than one meal the next day.

OP, try doubling up the TG meal quantities. It is wonderful that people want to eat the leftovers. You can send them back home with a taste of the holidays. Food for me is the universal language of love.

Do not, OP.

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Looks like lots of people here will grow up to be IL's who expect leftovers going home with them!

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For the one (probably greedy boomer) who says just double up it’s easy, it’s clear you aren’t the host. Thanksgiving for a crowd of poorly behaved animals is already a ton of work. Cooking an extra turkey, doubling or really tripling the potatoes, stuffing, gravy, cranberry, pies etc etc so the “guests” aka invaders can be fed leftovers the next day and take back heaping portions is a ton more work.

I honestly think it’s an aspect of boomers who are inherently selfish and greedy losing their filters and making sure they get theirs and no one else does.

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Anonymous wrote:For the one (probably greedy boomer) who says just double up it’s easy, it’s clear you aren’t the host. Thanksgiving for a crowd of poorly behaved animals is already a ton of work. Cooking an extra turkey, doubling or really tripling the potatoes, stuffing, gravy, cranberry, pies etc etc so the “guests” aka invaders can be fed leftovers the next day and take back heaping portions is a ton more work.

I honestly think it’s an aspect of boomers who are inherently selfish and greedy losing their filters and making sure they get theirs and no one else does.

We went out to dinner and my father ate his 8 year old grandsons meal while he was in the bathroom because "it looked like he was done, and I paid for it."
He also inherited thousands of antique gold coins from his own father and sold every last one for cash. He did not save a single solitary coin for his grandkids.

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Anonymous wrote:For the one (probably greedy boomer) who says just double up it’s easy, it’s clear you aren’t the host. Thanksgiving for a crowd of poorly behaved animals is already a ton of work. Cooking an extra turkey, doubling or really tripling the potatoes, stuffing, gravy, cranberry, pies etc etc so the “guests” aka invaders can be fed leftovers the next day and take back heaping portions is a ton more work.

I honestly think it’s an aspect of boomers who are inherently selfish and greedy losing their filters and making sure they get theirs and no one else does.

I am 40 and I am team “just provide more food.” I think it is the martyr generation who thinks of hosting as such a burden. If you already don’t want people “invading” your house and you are already fed up, then everything will seem like a problem and imposition.

There is no need to buy two turkeys and no need to double everything. But there are many ways to give the ILs a doggie bag pretty easily.