Why are some parents so cold and unfriendly?
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Anonymous
| A lot of people these days are deeply, deeply unhappy inside of themselves. Then you come along, all chirpy and happy and radiating happiness and smiling, trying to make light conversation and looking interested in them for real as people. And they cannot stand it. You irritate them with your smile, the happy tone of your voice, your easy-going manner, because they cannot have those things. They don't now how to have those things, OP. You remind them of what they lack. Never, ever stop being happy and remember that it isn't you, it's them. |
Anonymous
There is literally nothing wrong with that. People cobble together a social life from the people they interact with. The parents from school are their "own friends." There is no "real life" other than the one you're living. |
Anonymous
I never take the metro unless I absolutely have to. It grosses me out. I like to be in my own little bubble -- my car. It doesn't have to be a limoosine, it just has to be mine. |
Anonymous
When you live somewhere with so many people packed into a relatively small area, you just get used to dealing with the inconvenience of other people all the time. You also realize how small and insignificant you are. You can be a law firm partner or a magazine editor and on a NYC street you're just one of thousands of people, and not the most important one even. You are just exposed to lots of people's lives all the time and you realize that little annoyances or frustrations don't actually matter that much. You also generally have to make do with a much smaller living space than you would anywhere else (like even if you are wealthy, your NYC living space will be more compact than the home someone at your income level would have in another US city) and people mostly realize this is fine and that there are worthwhile reasons to give up square footage. New Yorkers also have greater access to art, theater, music, and academic outlets than people in most other parts of the US. This often results in people just being more cosmopolitan regardless of their individual level of education or their background. Living in NY just brings out your humanity and enables you to see the humanity of so many other people. You can get this in any reasonably dense city, but in NYC you get more of it and you get it more often. I do think it tends to breed thoughtful, patient, open-minded people. |
Anonymous
Like what? They will literally never need you so stop fantasizing about revenge. They have nannies or enough money to hire a babysitter on the fly, their houses have alarms, they can drive themselves or if their car isn't working they can take uber, if they need an ingredient for a recipe they have it delivered, if their kid is sick they have ice cream delivered, if their kids are at an afterschool event and they can't get there in time they hire a driver or pay the neighbor's nanny to pick them up, etc. They will literally never need to borrow a cup of sugar from a neighbor. Just stop. |
Anonymous
| A lot of people have undiagnosed autism. I was really offended by this kind of behavior from one of the other parents on a team my kid was on, and then realized they have an extremely autistic child as well. I think in this case it is hereditary. Or maybe they are both exposed to the same environmental factor that causes it. In any event, I see a lot of adults who seem to have autism. |
Anonymous
Not in dc. |
Anonymous
I don't necessarily think responding briefly to someone is rude. Sometimes we just aren't in the mood for a full conversation for whatever reason. I don't think that's what most of the PPs here are referring to, though. It's the people who don't respond at all or actively ignore you when you say hello that are rude. And sure, people have a "right" to act like that, but that doesn't make it ok. |
Anonymous
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Snobby, think they're superior
Only looking for friends that benefit them socially--transactional with relationships Not looking to connect with anyone--don't care or don't want to make the effort; not interested in others at school or in most situations Self-absorbed Shy or have social anxiety Unhappy, depressed or insecure |
Anonymous
lol, ok RFK. |
Anonymous
I’m a New Yorker… there are lots of people here like anywhere. Some are nice, some are stuck up twats, some are classy and some are trashy. A 60s/70s couple who went out of their way to see the eclipse is probably of the more down to earth type. |
Anonymous
Maybe sometimes. When I'm not the bright, chirpy ray of sunshine in the scenario, and I have to interact with such an individual, and I'm tired, it's a temporary annoyance because those individuals take energy to deal with. Much better a chipper person who can read the room. |
Anonymous
I agree. People in NYC love to talk. |
Anonymous
NP here. Haven’t read all the responses, but you know that people like the PP above are living in some ugly McMansion in suburbia and terrified of taking the Metro because they don’t know how to exist in a city. But instead of realizing this about themselves, they are trying to make the argument that only the poors take the Metro to make themselves feel better. People from all walks of life take the Metro. It’s often much more convenient than driving. Just because you’re too scared to use it doesn’t mean others are. |
Anonymous
This is so funny because snobby and stuck up doesn’t necessarily equal well off. I live in a town house neighborhood and no one here is wealthy like that, but there are plenty of unfriendly moms hanging around. |