Neighbors want to hang out. I don't, but want to be on friendly terms.

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You don't need to be best friends with your neighbors. They are just there. You don't even need to acknowledge them if you don't want to.

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Anonymous wrote:for gods sakes, just go to a social event every once in a while. your time is not so precious that you can't do two or three one hour social events with your neighbors every year

Actually, my time is that precious. I am not wasting time I could spend with my kids. I work a lot. My time is for me and my family. That is it. I don’t do neighbor events.

Your kids are part of the neighborhood, are they not?

No. They go to a private school. We don’t to neighborhood stuff. I grew up in a rural area. I hate the suburbs. No kids their age anyway. We have our own friends.

So…you picked a house in a location you hate where it seems you spent zero effort to see if there were kids of similar age (a pretty common thing to do…or you look for couples that seem like they also are ready to start a family)…did you also make sure it feeds into a bad school district and is located next to a garbage dump?

No, FCPS sucks. We pulled our kids out. I am also divorced and there are two houses in very nice neighborhoods. We are not interested in judgy and annoying neighbors. We also have very serious and time-consuming extracurriculars EVERY DAY. There is zero time for nonsense. When we moved to the first neighborhood when kids were 1 and 4, there were ZERO kids in the neighborhood. Most people had kids launched already.

I feel bad for your kids. Not re neighbors but this attitude with all caps and calling free unstructured time / kid socializing as "nonsense"

What part of “my kids have their own friends” do you not understand? And also that “there are no kids in the neighborhood that are their age”? Get over your ridiculous assumptions about other people!

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People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

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Anonymous wrote:You don't need to be best friends with your neighbors. They are just there. You don't even need to acknowledge them if you don't want to.

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Anonymous wrote:People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

Not wanting to hang out with your neighbors is not antisocial at all. People choose to spend their time with people they want to spend their time with and many people would not spend their time with neighbors when they could spend it with other people. You live in a bubble.

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Anonymous wrote:People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

Not wanting to hang out with your neighbors is not antisocial at all. People choose to spend their time with people they want to spend their time with and many people would not spend their time with neighbors when they could spend it with other people. You live in a bubble.

Like I said, very committed to being antisocial. It’s admirable dedication. If you weren’t so dedicated to it, you’d probably accidentally socialize without wasting any time at all. But with this level of dedication you can ensure absolutely 0 interactions and really that’s an impressive record.

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Anonymous wrote:for gods sakes, just go to a social event every once in a while. your time is not so precious that you can't do two or three one hour social events with your neighbors every year

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Anonymous wrote:People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

Not wanting to hang out with your neighbors is not antisocial at all. People choose to spend their time with people they want to spend their time with and many people would not spend their time with neighbors when they could spend it with other people. You live in a bubble.

The post above you says you don’t even need to acknowledge your neighbors. Anti social.

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Anonymous wrote:People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

Not wanting to hang out with your neighbors is not antisocial at all. People choose to spend their time with people they want to spend their time with and many people would not spend their time with neighbors when they could spend it with other people. You live in a bubble.

The post above you says you don’t even need to acknowledge your neighbors. Anti social.

Not PP. I have many friends including friends who are neighbors, but I would not be friends with you, because you’re too argumentative and respond disrespectfully when people tell who you they are and what they like.

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Anonymous wrote:People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

Not wanting to hang out with your neighbors is not antisocial at all. People choose to spend their time with people they want to spend their time with and many people would not spend their time with neighbors when they could spend it with other people. You live in a bubble.

The post above you says you don’t even need to acknowledge your neighbors. Anti social.

I didn’t write that post that says I don’t need to acknowledge them.

It’s not antisocial when you wanna spend time with other people instead of neighbors and by the way in my neighborhood, my neighbors are 25 years older than me who are retired with launched children with kids that are only five years younger than my kids age. No one wants to hang out with people were 25 years older and a completely different life stage. Eyeroll.

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Anonymous wrote:People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

Not wanting to hang out with your neighbors is not antisocial at all. People choose to spend their time with people they want to spend their time with and many people would not spend their time with neighbors when they could spend it with other people. You live in a bubble.

The post above you says you don’t even need to acknowledge your neighbors. Anti social.

Not PP. I have many friends including friends who are neighbors, but I would not be friends with you, because you’re too argumentative and respond disrespectfully when people tell who you they are and what they like.

You seem to be under the misimpression that one person disagrees with you. I am not the one you appear to be fighting with. No one here is defending the line above on not acknowledging a neighbor? It is antisocial. That you think I am argumentative or disrespectful for pointing that out tell ls me all I need to know about your social skills.

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Anonymous wrote:People are really committed to being anti-social. Congrats on having a hobby, I guess

Not wanting to hang out with your neighbors is not antisocial at all. People choose to spend their time with people they want to spend their time with and many people would not spend their time with neighbors when they could spend it with other people. You live in a bubble.

The post above you says you don’t even need to acknowledge your neighbors. Anti social.

I didn’t write that post that says I don’t need to acknowledge them.

It’s not antisocial when you wanna spend time with other people instead of neighbors and by the way in my neighborhood, my neighbors are 25 years older than me who are retired with launched children with kids that are only five years younger than my kids age. No one wants to hang out with people were 25 years older and a completely different life stage. Eyeroll.

To not *acknowledge* your neighbor is indeed antisocial.

As for who wants to hang out with whom, I live on actually diverse street. People who think like you are boring and small-minded as well.

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Anonymous wrote:for gods sakes, just go to a social event every once in a while. your time is not so precious that you can't do two or three one hour social events with your neighbors every year

Actually, my time is that precious. I am not wasting time I could spend with my kids. I work a lot. My time is for me and my family. That is it. I don’t do neighbor events.

Your kids are part of the neighborhood, are they not?

No. They go to a private school. We don’t to neighborhood stuff. I grew up in a rural area. I hate the suburbs. No kids their age anyway. We have our own friends.

So…you picked a house in a location you hate where it seems you spent zero effort to see if there were kids of similar age (a pretty common thing to do…or you look for couples that seem like they also are ready to start a family)…did you also make sure it feeds into a bad school district and is located next to a garbage dump?

No, FCPS sucks. We pulled our kids out. I am also divorced and there are two houses in very nice neighborhoods. We are not interested in judgy and annoying neighbors. We also have very serious and time-consuming extracurriculars EVERY DAY. There is zero time for nonsense. When we moved to the first neighborhood when kids were 1 and 4, there were ZERO kids in the neighborhood. Most people had kids launched already.

Who with kids 1 and 4 moves to an area with no kids…isn’t that like a basic thing you look for in a neighborhood?

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Anonymous wrote:There seems to be an exceedingly high number of introverts on this site in general because I’ve never encountered such a high percentage of introverts in the real world.

But also in typical DC fashion, everyone is simply “too busy” to possibly have time to get to know their neighbors because of their own jobs, nuclear families, etc. as if no one else juggles a job and family and activities. Funny how many obligations these introverts seem to have.

So many truly antisocial people but then there will be thread upon thread of how people have no network to help them with anything.

Nah, you know a LOT of introverts who are burnt the eff out from having to force "social" behaviors with extroverts so they don't think we're being "anti-social".

Some people recharge by being around other people (extroverts). Some people recharge by being left the hell alone or only seeing a select handful of people they're comfortable with (introverts). Lot of people on this thread need to deal with that, and stop bullying people into parties they don't want to attend just to please your massive egos.

Are introverts all such losers? The amount of crying about being “burnt the eff out” and now being “bullied” into showing up to annual block party is fairly hysterical.

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Anonymous wrote:My neighbors want to have the kind of street where we all have dinner together or throw a block party. I do not. The issue is partly their personalities, and partly that when I'm at home I just like to be quiet.

But, I do want to have the kind of neighbor relationship where we can grab packages for each other, water the garden, etc. I have taken care of everybody's cats when they vacation. I have several people's spare keys for emergencies. I want to be a good neighbor! I'm friendly! I just don't want to go out to dinner or play cards.

I have tried saying I'm unavailable, I have tried going once for form's sake, I have tried saying "oh that's not my thing." The summer invitations and offers to schedule around my availability are becoming stressful and I'm avoiding the front yard so I don't have to defend my calendar. What do I do?

So, this character defect of yours, OP: Were you born this way? Or did this nasty personality develop over time?