Single mom judgment/rant

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Single mom here, received a very passive aggressive comment from a coworker about me going on a vacation with another friend for 1.5 weeks. My child was well taken care of, with help and support of grandparents, nanny, and my ex. And yes, while I'm divorced I do think I fit the description of single mom, as my ex sees our kid every other weekend and I mostly financially support my child.

Why is it that men or single dad's don't get the same treatment? Or when parents send their kids away to camp, another country with relatives for the summer? It's not fair.

As has been noted umpteen times. YOU ARE NOT A SINGLE MOM!

If you don’t have a partner and you have a child you are a single mom. Calm down.

Single is marital status but people like to pretend they have no help for sympathy.

OP discusses her nanny, her ex caring for the child, and her mother caring for the child. I don't think can accuse her of pretending she has no help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here, received a very passive aggressive comment from a coworker about me going on a vacation with another friend for 1.5 weeks. My child was well taken care of, with help and support of grandparents, nanny, and my ex. And yes, while I'm divorced I do think I fit the description of single mom, as my ex sees our kid every other weekend and I mostly financially support my child.

Why is it that men or single dad's don't get the same treatment? Or when parents send their kids away to camp, another country with relatives for the summer? It's not fair.

As has been noted umpteen times. YOU ARE NOT A SINGLE MOM!

If you don’t have a partner and you have a child you are a single mom. Calm down.

Single is marital status but people like to pretend they have no help for sympathy.

This. OP was married so her correct legal status is divorced - not single.

[Anonymous]

I read only a couple pages of responses and this thread is bonkers - full of pettiness and unkindness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read only a couple pages of responses and this thread is bonkers - full of pettiness and unkindness.

If you mean it is petty to be a DIVORCED woman who is claiming to be SINGLE and alone in raising her child(ren)?

The truth is the father is involved and is NOT absent, he financially supports child, OP can afford a nanny - then yes, OP is also unkind to be invalidating all the things others are doing in raising this child(ren)

Any time someone claims to be a SINGLE parent and isn't, it is a sure sign of parental alienation. Imagine the child growing up hearing their mother regularly lamenting being a "single parent" when their father is present in their lives (both physically and financially) and I can assure you it will have a negative psychological impact on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read only a couple pages of responses and this thread is bonkers - full of pettiness and unkindness.

If you mean it is petty to be a DIVORCED woman who is claiming to be SINGLE and alone in raising her child(ren)?

The truth is the father is involved and is NOT absent, he financially supports child, OP can afford a nanny - then yes, OP is also unkind to be invalidating all the things others are doing in raising this child(ren)

Any time someone claims to be a SINGLE parent and isn't, it is a sure sign of parental alienation. Imagine the child growing up hearing their mother regularly lamenting being a "single parent" when their father is present in their lives (both physically and financially) and I can assure you it will have a negative psychological impact on them.

Ok so I am not op. I never was married to my child’s father but we were together for about a decade. We separated when our child was in elementary school and I have full custody with dad having every other weekend. His choice. I absolutely consider myself a single mother but I would NEVER “lament” being a single mom in front of my kid. You do realize people may describe themselves as a single mom but still keep healthy boundaries with their children, right?