If you are over 45 and feel you are aging well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many folks here don't drink. I do drink. I'm 55 and have beautiful skin. I drink 4 cups of coffee a day. I am thin and work out every day, but so much of this is genetics.

+1. My mom is 74 and she's yet to color her hair. It's the same dark black it's always been. Looking young just runs in the family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 49 and whenever I meet new people and age comes up, I usually get 10-12 years younger.

Genetics help, I am Greek, but my younger sister is addicted to Botox and it has definitely aged her/made her look weird.

I eat an animal based whole food diet and cook at home. I would rather fast than eat out. I have never been a drinker and pretty much stopped a few years ago. I drink reverse osmosis water at home and coffee, raw milk and maybe a sparkling mineral water from time to time.

My cycles are regular and due to clean eating and enough good fat to support my adrenals and hormones, I am on zero medications.

Workouts are heavy weights, walking, sprinting and gardening. I do something everyday. Also part of a recreational pickleball league with my husband but we have also played cornhole and kickball recreationally. Both for physical health and the connection to community that these clubs provide.

I make my own tallow face and body cream with added castor oil and essential oils (sparingly). I wear hats outdoors and make sure my eyes get morning light. I avoid sunglasses unless I am driving or on the water and need to avoid glare for safety. I don’t wear sunscreen, I am just smart about shade and coverage.

I volunteer throughout the year in various local and state parks. I sing in a choir.

I make good money in a position that is low key. This has taken me years to find after many high stress positions. My husband is the main breadwinner and I manage the household so it’s a great trade off. We have been together for 30 years and have great sex - that love is probably the best fountain of youth. We have four kids, two in college and two teens at home. Best people in our lives.

We hike and camp as a family and don’t care about what the Joneses do.

All of this and moving away from the toxicity of the DC area has contributed to our overall youthful looks compared to our high school and college friends and family who live toxic lives chasing the dollar.

Why do you avoid sunglasses? I thought they help with crowsfeet

Yeah, it is a really weird post, and tbh I don't really trust it. People that don't wear sunscreen generally have poor judgment and woo woo lifestyles.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think it's a lifetime of clean living. You know how people say things catch up with you? Well, there's not much to catch up with me. I've never been drunk, never tanned, smoked, been a partier. I've always worn sunscreen and/or hats, mostly only drank water, flossed, moisturized, etc. I am 47 and last night someone said to me "we're about the same age - I just turned 38" and it was surprising to hear.

But your life doesn't sound fun! So there's the trade-off!
Serious question - does this make it worth it? You and the other lady who only drinks a "sip" of champagne or "shares a mixed drink with her husband"? Sounds so uptight and boring. I try to moderate my bad habits and eat well, exercise every day, and wear sunscreen, but a life without some fun sounds awful.

Serious question - you have gotten to middle-age and cannot imagine a fun, well-lived life without alcohol, smoking, tanning, and "partying?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 49 and whenever I meet new people and age comes up, I usually get 10-12 years younger.

Genetics help, I am Greek, but my younger sister is addicted to Botox and it has definitely aged her/made her look weird.

I eat an animal based whole food diet and cook at home. I would rather fast than eat out. I have never been a drinker and pretty much stopped a few years ago. I drink reverse osmosis water at home and coffee, raw milk and maybe a sparkling mineral water from time to time.

My cycles are regular and due to clean eating and enough good fat to support my adrenals and hormones, I am on zero medications.

Workouts are heavy weights, walking, sprinting and gardening. I do something everyday. Also part of a recreational pickleball league with my husband but we have also played cornhole and kickball recreationally. Both for physical health and the connection to community that these clubs provide.

I make my own tallow face and body cream with added castor oil and essential oils (sparingly). I wear hats outdoors and make sure my eyes get morning light. I avoid sunglasses unless I am driving or on the water and need to avoid glare for safety. I don’t wear sunscreen, I am just smart about shade and coverage.

I volunteer throughout the year in various local and state parks. I sing in a choir.

I make good money in a position that is low key. This has taken me years to find after many high stress positions. My husband is the main breadwinner and I manage the household so it’s a great trade off. We have been together for 30 years and have great sex - that love is probably the best fountain of youth. We have four kids, two in college and two teens at home. Best people in our lives.

We hike and camp as a family and don’t care about what the Joneses do.

All of this and moving away from the toxicity of the DC area has contributed to our overall youthful looks compared to our high school and college friends and family who live toxic lives chasing the dollar.

Why do you avoid sunglasses? I thought they help with crowsfeet

Yeah, it is a really weird post, and tbh I don't really trust it. People that don't wear sunscreen generally have poor judgment and woo woo lifestyles.

That was a weird one. So were so others. People need to post a picture with their write up.

[Anonymous]

Can we do this thread for 55+?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we do this thread for 55+?

Yes please! I would love that as this is when stuff really starts to fall apart...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s all fun and games until menopause.

Truth! The title of this thread should read over 55, not 45. It is a striking difference in ten years.

Yes, I agree. Everyone’s window is different but a lot can change in just a few years.

Np, and at 46, it terrifies me that things will get worse. I have seen such dramatic changes since 44. What more can change? Honest question?

[Anonymous]

So much can be done with hair to make you look younger. Also, wrinkles are easy to get rid of. Harder to address sagging.

And agree with how uptight some people are. I would rather look a bit more ragged then lead such an austere lifestyle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s all fun and games until menopause.

Truth! The title of this thread should read over 55, not 45. It is a striking difference in ten years.

Yes, I agree. Everyone’s window is different but a lot can change in just a few years.

Np, and at 46, it terrifies me that things will get worse. I have seen such dramatic changes since 44. What more can change? Honest question?

Maybe you are in your window of change, and it won't get worse.

[Anonymous]

Everything can change. But what you can control or accept: non-attachment.

[Anonymous]

My mom is 80, people think she’s 60-65. She is slim, has never colored her hair which is now a silvery dark blonde. No botox or any cosmetic surgery, she used to wear no makeup and her only skincare routine for years was the Clinique 3-step system. She has used some of their anti-aging line for maybe the last 20 years. She wears sunscreen (but never did before maybe 50) and hats. And light makeup but never foundation when going out.
She walks 5-10 miles a day, does stretches and has done years of Pilates though she doesn’t really do it anymore because she got bored with it. She’s training for a 40-mile bike ride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s all fun and games until menopause.

Truth! The title of this thread should read over 55, not 45. It is a striking difference in ten years.

Yes, I agree. Everyone’s window is different but a lot can change in just a few years.

Np, and at 46, it terrifies me that things will get worse. I have seen such dramatic changes since 44. What more can change? Honest question?

Usually a big health issue causes a dramatic change. Think menopause (not just peri), first bout of cancer, first stroke, first heart issues. Falls. Serious illnesses like pneumonia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is 80, people think she’s 60-65. She is slim, has never colored her hair which is now a silvery dark blonde. No botox or any cosmetic surgery, she used to wear no makeup and her only skincare routine for years was the Clinique 3-step system. She has used some of their anti-aging line for maybe the last 20 years. She wears sunscreen (but never did before maybe 50) and hats. And light makeup but never foundation when going out.
She walks 5-10 miles a day, does stretches and has done years of Pilates though she doesn’t really do it anymore because she got bored with it. She’s training for a 40-mile bike ride.

Oh, and she drinks 1-2 drinks a night, drinks tons of water, eats dessert and was a smoker when she was young but quit around age 32.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think it's a lifetime of clean living. You know how people say things catch up with you? Well, there's not much to catch up with me. I've never been drunk, never tanned, smoked, been a partier. I've always worn sunscreen and/or hats, mostly only drank water, flossed, moisturized, etc. I am 47 and last night someone said to me "we're about the same age - I just turned 38" and it was surprising to hear.

But your life doesn't sound fun! So there's the trade-off!
Serious question - does this make it worth it? You and the other lady who only drinks a "sip" of champagne or "shares a mixed drink with her husband"? Sounds so uptight and boring. I try to moderate my bad habits and eat well, exercise every day, and wear sunscreen, but a life without some fun sounds awful.

Serious question - you have gotten to middle-age and cannot imagine a fun, well-lived life without alcohol, smoking, tanning, and "partying?"

Sorry, should have clarified, but anyone with long lists of things they can't have takes an approach I don't want! The answer here is moderation, not some sort of lenten lifestyle. Now that I'm thinking about it, think I prefer to focus on the things I do: exercise daily, sleep at least 7-8 hours, drink tons of water, have a drink when I feel like it, get fresh air as much as possible, eat good, fresh foods, spend time with family - particularly doing active things that also use my brain!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can we do this thread for 55+?

Yes please! I would love that as this is when stuff really starts to fall apart...

Yes! I’m 55 and I think I looked young for my age. The last few years, even with better habits, have made a big difference, not in a good way. Lines around the mouth and nasolabial lines getting worse by the day, ugh! Now I feel I look older than my age.