Test results came back positive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would chat with an attorney and then have a chat with DH. If that doesn’t work or go over than it doesn’t matter why or how you got the STD, be done with DH. He doesn’t deserve you.

This!!!!!!

Don’t listen to the unhealthy women saying to stay with him.

This is not a business decision. He has made his bed, and you will no longer lie in it.

Of course it is for many Americans.. You must be independently wealthy

No, I am just an independent adult who always had a plan for taking care of myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What I thought was a run of the mill yeast infection turned out positive for an std. I've been monogamous and married for 10 yrs, together for 12. We have been quite detached and I've been unhappy but this has really taken me by surprise. We share a child who is 5. What would you do? My DH is generally dismissive and in denial on most things so I imagine he'll gaslit me and deny it when I broach the topic. It's a nightmare to think of co parenting and sharing my time with my child. Can I ask him to move out? Should I call a divorce lawyer before even bringing it up? There is no chance of reconciliation as far as im concerned.

And to preempt what I know at least one person will say, yes I know and am aware I need to now get a full panel std test. Believe me, I know.

Have you gotten tested for TV (Trich) when you’ve had “yeast infections” previously? Maybe your “yeast infections” have always been TV and your husband had nothing to do with it. Even if he’s infected he might well have zero symptoms.

o


A sexually transmitted infection caused by a parasite.
Trichomoniasis is among the most common sexually transmitted infections. Risk factors include multiple sexual partners and not using condoms during sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I thought was a run of the mill yeast infection turned out positive for an std. I've been monogamous and married for 10 yrs, together for 12. We have been quite detached and I've been unhappy but this has really taken me by surprise. We share a child who is 5. What would you do? My DH is generally dismissive and in denial on most things so I imagine he'll gaslit me and deny it when I broach the topic. It's a nightmare to think of co parenting and sharing my time with my child. Can I ask him to move out? Should I call a divorce lawyer before even bringing it up? There is no chance of reconciliation as far as im concerned.

And to preempt what I know at least one person will say, yes I know and am aware I need to now get a full panel std test. Believe me, I know.

Have you gotten tested for TV (Trich) when you’ve had “yeast infections” previously? Maybe your “yeast infections” have always been TV and your husband had nothing to do with it. Even if he’s infected he might well have zero symptoms.

o


A sexually transmitted infection caused by a parasite.
Trichomoniasis is among the most common sexually transmitted infections. Risk factors include multiple sexual partners and not using condoms during sex.

HOW IT SPREADS
By having unprotected vaginal, anal, or oral sex

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Is it possible to spread through public toilets or pools?

lol, when I was a teenager, my friend got pubic crabs from her boyfriend. He told her he got them at the beach. lol, she believed him until us girls educated her.

You can get crabs from a couch.

The beach? Crabs from the beach. Poor thing.

Yes and the couch gal, too. Crabs from sitting on a couch? Really. Denial is a hell of a drug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The news backs this reality up. There are too many absent fathers in children's lives and women are sinking into poverty and kids growing up with more and more problems. Just do a Google search on absent fathers. Its a hot topic. There is no immediate abuse that not having sex wouldn't solve and OPs child is very young. She should be strategic and use her husband to provide the best amount of money and help she can get out of him for her daughter's sake and her own.

Cheating on a spouse is a form of abuse.

Why should she model a dysfunctional relationship for her child, and share her home with someone she hates?

Why do you think women should have such low self esteem (and options) that they have to subject themselves and their children to this existence.

HE broke up the family, not her.The damage is done...don't make her feel like it is her responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I've posted this about 100 times on this site but you can get it from a towel and I do know a couple that thought each other cheated because they had this STI.

What was crazy is the doctor was like, yea somebody cheated.

Then the dad cried at his son's pediatrician appointment, and he told the pediatrician what was going on and the pediatrician is like dude do you throw a towel on the floor and reuse it, that's the problem... and if you use the towel to wipe then have s@x again.

Nobody cheated.

Did not happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly raising a child in this area is so expensive and time consuming and the amount of men available that you'd want around you with a 5 year old are so small. Some woman was just killed meeting up with someone on OLD this week. I would just stay married and not sleep with him anymore. Raise your daughter and just have a platonic relationship. There doesn't seem to be a reason to divorce other than this idea that you could remarry and it's just not worth it with a kid that young. When they are driving age maybe.

Worst advice EVER

Have you been divorced? With young kids?

I left. I would do it again. But man it sucked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The news backs this reality up. There are too many absent fathers in children's lives and women are sinking into poverty and kids growing up with more and more problems. Just do a Google search on absent fathers. Its a hot topic. There is no immediate abuse that not having sex wouldn't solve and OPs child is very young. She should be strategic and use her husband to provide the best amount of money and help she can get out of him for her daughter's sake and her own.

Cheating on a spouse is a form of abuse.

Why should she model a dysfunctional relationship for her child, and share her home with someone she hates?

Why do you think women should have such low self esteem (and options) that they have to subject themselves and their children to this existence.

HE broke up the family, not her.The damage is done...don't make her feel like it is her responsibility.

No one is blaming her, but the reality is that a child that young needs a lot of care and money during childhood and the dad isn't going to get better just because she divorces. Things don't magically change in her world for the better just because of divorce. The reality is this guy is probably already checked out of the marriage. They already don't get along. It's very likely he will not be a fantastic dad on his own, she will have less time with her child, and less money to use on her behalf for her and her child. I'm not giving the dad a pass. I'm holding him accountable and saying he likely used her in the relationship for his benefit and she can do the same in a different way back using him for his money and work,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The news backs this reality up. There are too many absent fathers in children's lives and women are sinking into poverty and kids growing up with more and more problems. Just do a Google search on absent fathers. Its a hot topic. There is no immediate abuse that not having sex wouldn't solve and OPs child is very young. She should be strategic and use her husband to provide the best amount of money and help she can get out of him for her daughter's sake and her own.

Cheating on a spouse is a form of abuse.

Why should she model a dysfunctional relationship for her child, and share her home with someone she hates?

Why do you think women should have such low self esteem (and options) that they have to subject themselves and their children to this existence.

HE broke up the family, not her.The damage is done...don't make her feel like it is her responsibility.

I think this because there are just not a lot of good men out there. Might as well use them for something worthwhile. Unless she's beautiful and wealthy she's going to have a hard time finding a guy to care for her and her 5 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I've posted this about 100 times on this site but you can get it from a towel and I do know a couple that thought each other cheated because they had this STI.

What was crazy is the doctor was like, yea somebody cheated.

Then the dad cried at his son's pediatrician appointment, and he told the pediatrician what was going on and the pediatrician is like dude do you throw a towel on the floor and reuse it, that's the problem... and if you use the towel to wipe then have s@x again.

Nobody cheated.

Wait how would a towel transit an STI if there wasn’t an STI somewhere to begin with? Are you saying the floor was spreading an infectious disease?

[Anonymous]

I think it's safe to say he cheated unless TV can remain dormant in your system for yrs and yrs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly raising a child in this area is so expensive and time consuming and the amount of men available that you'd want around you with a 5 year old are so small. Some woman was just killed meeting up with someone on OLD this week. I would just stay married and not sleep with him anymore. Raise your daughter and just have a platonic relationship. There doesn't seem to be a reason to divorce other than this idea that you could remarry and it's just not worth it with a kid that young. When they are driving age maybe.

Worst advice EVER

Have you been divorced? With young kids?

I left. I would do it again. But man it sucked.

Same here, and I would do it again! I raised my DD on my own while advancing my career. She is now 19, and respects me for standing up for myself and leaving a very unhealthy household. Sure, I am not in the same financial situation as some of my other friends, but I am so much happier these days. And, yes, he cheated on me with multiple women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I've posted this about 100 times on this site but you can get it from a towel and I do know a couple that thought each other cheated because they had this STI.

What was crazy is the doctor was like, yea somebody cheated.

Then the dad cried at his son's pediatrician appointment, and he told the pediatrician what was going on and the pediatrician is like dude do you throw a towel on the floor and reuse it, that's the problem... and if you use the towel to wipe then have s@x again.

Nobody cheated.

Did not happen.

HA. This is the old 'got in a hot tub' stupidity. You aren't getting STDs from towels. It is the longest shot out there.

What I see are a whole lot of guilty people or people in complete denial or a whole lot of people willing to believe the most absurd scenario.

I work in the field. Nobody is getting STIs from towels that dropped on the floor. Omg.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of false information on here.

Trich is an STD.
Sounds like OP has been with her husband long enough that if it predated the relationship she’d have had serious health consequences of trich (infertility, preterm labor)
So it’s probably unfortunately her husband having an affair

For more information on trich - see this: https://www.health.ny.gov/publications/3839/

more information showing you can get it from a towel.

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-can-you-get-trichomoniasis-if-no-one-cheats

trichomoniasis can be treated NON SEXUALLY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I thought was a run of the mill yeast infection turned out positive for an std. I've been monogamous and married for 10 yrs, together for 12. We have been quite detached and I've been unhappy but this has really taken me by surprise. We share a child who is 5. What would you do? My DH is generally dismissive and in denial on most things so I imagine he'll gaslit me and deny it when I broach the topic. It's a nightmare to think of co parenting and sharing my time with my child. Can I ask him to move out? Should I call a divorce lawyer before even bringing it up? There is no chance of reconciliation as far as im concerned.

And to preempt what I know at least one person will say, yes I know and am aware I need to now get a full panel std test. Believe me, I know.

Have you gotten tested for TV (Trich) when you’ve had “yeast infections” previously? Maybe your “yeast infections” have always been TV and your husband had nothing to do with it. Even if he’s infected he might well have zero symptoms.

o


A sexually transmitted infection caused by a parasite.
Trichomoniasis is among the most common sexually transmitted infections. Risk factors include multiple sexual partners and not using condoms during sex.

And dirty towels