DH has directed us to shovel off the deck - AITA

[Anonymous]

I dont understand the big deal. You and daughter can go shovel at least half the deck, no? Why does there need to be a scientific reason to shovel the deck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont understand the big deal. You and daughter can go shovel at least half the deck, no? Why does there need to be a scientific reason to shovel the deck?

Because it's not about the deck. Geez

[Anonymous]

OP—you still haven’t said what your response is. I’m beginning to think you are a bored troll.

[Anonymous]

sorry - my response to which part exactly? I asked him why, he said safety. I shoveled the deck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

This says a lot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

This says a lot.

Why? OP doesnt need a car as both her and kid are off today. Why would you waste extra time in the morning, on your way to your office job, to brush off a car that isnt being used until later in the week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

This says a lot.

Why? OP doesnt need a car as both her and kid are off today. Why would you waste extra time in the morning, on your way to your office job, to brush off a car that isnt being used until later in the week?

Brushing off a car before the snow turns to ice makes a lot more sense than brushing off a deck before the snow turns to ice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

Isn't he at work? So he HAD to clean off his car to go to work. You are AT HOME so you don't need your car cleaned. THAT SAYS A LOT. I'm betting he had to clear the driveway himself with zero help from you or your kid.

He had to wake up, get ready for work (you don't), shovel the driveway, clean of his car, then go to work.

You woke up. Probably still in your PJs. Don't need to leave the house at all.

Okay OP...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

This says a lot.

Why? OP doesnt need a car as both her and kid are off today. Why would you waste extra time in the morning, on your way to your office job, to brush off a car that isnt being used until later in the week?

What if they get ill and have to rush out to go to urgent care? I thought DH was concerned about safety, safety, safety! That was the reason they need to shovel the deck that no one is walking on.

[Anonymous]

Stop griping and do your part, OP. You're not a princess, are you? Get the shovel and get to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

Isn't he at work? So he HAD to clean off his car to go to work. You are AT HOME so you don't need your car cleaned. THAT SAYS A LOT. I'm betting he had to clear the driveway himself with zero help from you or your kid.

He had to wake up, get ready for work (you don't), shovel the driveway, clean of his car, then go to work.

You woke up. Probably still in your PJs. Don't need to leave the house at all.

Okay OP...

You're literally quoting the post where the OP said she was fine with him not cleaning her car because she did it herself and doesn't need to drive today.

[Anonymous]

OP again, I really don't mind cleaning off my car, doing laundry, doing dishes, etc. I would be happy if he would just leave me alone about this kind of trivia.

I would NEVER text him an assignment. I can't even imagine doing that unless it's to an assitant at work.

In an emergency I might say "would you mind picking up milk (for DD) on the way home?". I certainly don't complain about the way he does things and I don't make up random assignments for him.

Can you even imagine? "I'd like you to weed the cracks in the driveway today. It's going to rain all weekend and I'd like to kill them before they grow larger. Thx". Or whatever nonsense. It's absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop griping and do your part, OP. You're not a princess, are you? Get the shovel and get to work.

Did you see the part where I did it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

This says a lot.

Why? OP doesnt need a car as both her and kid are off today. Why would you waste extra time in the morning, on your way to your office job, to brush off a car that isnt being used until later in the week?

Brushing off a car before the snow turns to ice makes a lot more sense than brushing off a deck before the snow turns to ice.

Ha! Touche

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sorry - my response to which part exactly? I asked him why, he said safety. I shoveled the deck.

Oooof. First, this is the first update regarding this. Second, you blew it. Sorry, but you did. When you give in to this nonsense, you give tacit approval for him to continue with, as your your dd accurately noted, his “power plays.”

The deck didn’t need shoveling. You knew that, yet you did it.

Peace to you. I hope you all get the help you need. I feel bad for your daughter who is watching all this play out.