Are yoga pants ok?

[Anonymous]

Look like this in yoga pants and you can wear there anywhere. No man will complain - none

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is upset because I wore yoga pants around him. We went to a bookstore and to grab a cup of coffee. He says yoga pants are for doing yoga, and that if he puts in real clothes to see me I should do the same.

He is testing your boundaries. Abusive men often do this for a considerable period of time before beginning abuse. It conditions you to ignore your own boundaries. I positions him as entitled to expect you to change what is for most people an entirely personal choice. If makes your relationship transactional - if you love/are interested in me, you will do things the way I like and avoid things that might make me unhappy, irritated or angry.

It's better to end relationships with people like this when they violate boundaries. You are an adult women who can dress herself and probably doesn't need fashion advice from men. You're better off finding a guy who trusts you to dress yourself and likes your choices even when they are not what he expected.

Yup.

Sounds like many men on here are also abusers based on their behavior and posts here.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of these last comments are really disgusting. Just because someone has fat rolls or cellulite doesnt mean they cant wear whatever they want. News alert - a fat person wearing yoga pants or jeans is still fat. You will still see them, you will still notice how fat they are, and if youre one of the people above fat shaming, you'll still judge and degrade them.
Let people wear what they want, and stop ogling people in public if it makes you so uncomfortable!

Anyways OP. Your bf sounds like a red piller/incel. Some of that verbiage is straight up from their playbook. I would not date someone who tried to police my clothing.

A person can wear what they want. But, people around them have a right to their opinion and thought. It works both ways. If you're fat and want to wear tight clothes. Fine. But, it's also fine for people who see you to judge you and think it's gross.

It goes both ways.

I'd rather someone be comfortable and confident than throw shade. YMMV, and if it makes you feel better to degrade and make fun of someone else, that's your own issue.

And your issue is you want everyone to see you through the eyes of your mother and think you are beautiful just as you are. We aren’t mom and you’re not beautiful.

I'm not talking about myself, I'm talking about all women.

Sorry you are such a hateful negative person. I try to treat people with love and kindness instead of disdain and poison. It really costs nothing to be a nice person. It costs nothing to move your eyes away from someone you find so disgusting. Good luck.

NP, I don’t go around telling people they’re ugly, still I can’t help but judge a fat lady in yoga pants. Believe me, I’m not alone. It’s gross to let yourself go that far that you’re obese and it’s even grosser that you wear yoga pants to show it off. And everyone’s supposed to support you for some reason. Personally, I think people like that a huge narcissists are who think the world revolves around them. They have no interest in other people’s comfort or feelings. They are not nice people.

There's a lot to unpack in your post. You seem to think you're powerless and that judging isn't something you can control. You CAN control it. You should reflect on this ugly aspect of your character and work on it.

You are responsible for your own feelings. Your discomfort and emotional response to 'a fat lady in yoga pants' is a YOU issue. No one other than you is responsible for your feelings and reactions. This is another area you need to work on.

Being disgusted by out of shape people helps some people stay motivated to maintain a good figure/weight/bmi/healthy habits, lest they become a blob in yoga pants.

It's a shame that the motivation for those people is external and not internal. It's a shame their motivation is based in fear and insecurity and not because of the health benefits to themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:What man doesn’t enjoy seeing his girlfriend/wife in yoga pants?

My husband would love it if I wore them more often! 😄

Same!!!! Seriously Op, please get a new boyfriend or you will be deeply sorry in 10 plus years once married with kids…

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Anonymous wrote:What man doesn’t enjoy seeing his girlfriend/wife in yoga pants?

My husband would love it if I wore them more often! 😄

Guessing OP is a fatty and this is her boyfriends way of telling her that kindly.

Omg this! I am sure op thinks she is hot though!

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Anonymous wrote:Many people do not look “good” in yoga pants. This is due to the pants’ tight-fitting and “form-hugging” nature.

If you think this might be you, do not choose to wear the yoga pant. Make another choice.

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See statements Lululemon’s former CEO on the matter. He spoke about the limitations of the yoga pant.

Oh, but OP and the yoga pant brigade do not think this might be them. They are fit! They don't care if we see camel toe and butt crack outlined, because they don't dress for the rest of us!

But, it's fine for them to get angry at men (or women) who look at them while they wear these skin tight clothes showing off all their private parts..

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Look like this in yoga pants and you can wear there anywhere. No man will complain - none

A classy man would complain. Those outfits are wholly inappropriate for the bookstore. Also, the lady in the blue’s behind is much too big to keep uncovered like that.

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Anonymous wrote:

Look like this in yoga pants and you can wear there anywhere. No man will complain - none

Several men on here would still complain. It's "lazy", they "look like slobs", or "other men will look".

Seriously what is with the snowflake dudes on this board?

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Look like this in yoga pants and you can wear there anywhere. No man will complain - none

Some will not find these legs attractive. Short and too thick.

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Anonymous wrote:

Look like this in yoga pants and you can wear there anywhere. No man will complain - none

A classy man would complain. Those outfits are wholly inappropriate for the bookstore. Also, the lady in the blue’s behind is much too big to keep uncovered like that.

No one's bum is uncovered, all these women are wearing pants.

Are you gay? Nothing wrong with it. Maybe you just dont like looking at women in tight clothing?

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is upset because I wore yoga pants around him. We went to a bookstore and to grab a cup of coffee. He says yoga pants are for doing yoga, and that if he puts in real clothes to see me I should do the same.

He is testing your boundaries. Abusive men often do this for a considerable period of time before beginning abuse. It conditions you to ignore your own boundaries. I positions him as entitled to expect you to change what is for most people an entirely personal choice. If makes your relationship transactional - if you love/are interested in me, you will do things the way I like and avoid things that might make me unhappy, irritated or angry.

It's better to end relationships with people like this when they violate boundaries. You are an adult women who can dress herself and probably doesn't need fashion advice from men. You're better off finding a guy who trusts you to dress yourself and likes your choices even when they are not what he expected.

Yup.

Sounds like many men on here are also abusers based on their behavior and posts here.

💯 agree. I am finding myself in the divorce process because I have catered to DHs needs and preferences since we dated and ignored all red flags. Now I work full time, raise the dc with no help, do all the housework, pay all the bills and do all the cooking.

He didn’t like my short hair, I grew it out. He Liked thicker eyebrows- I stopped getting them waxed-he wanted to name our kid his preferred name, we did. 20 years of this and I realize I lost myself completely and am just now working to get back to me.

Wear your yoga pants and find a partner that likes the dolled up look and the messy bun yoga pants look- who likes you for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of these last comments are really disgusting. Just because someone has fat rolls or cellulite doesnt mean they cant wear whatever they want. News alert - a fat person wearing yoga pants or jeans is still fat. You will still see them, you will still notice how fat they are, and if youre one of the people above fat shaming, you'll still judge and degrade them.
Let people wear what they want, and stop ogling people in public if it makes you so uncomfortable!

Anyways OP. Your bf sounds like a red piller/incel. Some of that verbiage is straight up from their playbook. I would not date someone who tried to police my clothing.

A person can wear what they want. But, people around them have a right to their opinion and thought. It works both ways. If you're fat and want to wear tight clothes. Fine. But, it's also fine for people who see you to judge you and think it's gross.

It goes both ways.

I'd rather someone be comfortable and confident than throw shade. YMMV, and if it makes you feel better to degrade and make fun of someone else, that's your own issue.

And your issue is you want everyone to see you through the eyes of your mother and think you are beautiful just as you are. We aren’t mom and you’re not beautiful.

I'm not talking about myself, I'm talking about all women.

Sorry you are such a hateful negative person. I try to treat people with love and kindness instead of disdain and poison. It really costs nothing to be a nice person. It costs nothing to move your eyes away from someone you find so disgusting. Good luck.

NP, I don’t go around telling people they’re ugly, still I can’t help but judge a fat lady in yoga pants. Believe me, I’m not alone. It’s gross to let yourself go that far that you’re obese and it’s even grosser that you wear yoga pants to show it off. And everyone’s supposed to support you for some reason. Personally, I think people like that a huge narcissists are who think the world revolves around them. They have no interest in other people’s comfort or feelings. They are not nice people.

There's a lot to unpack in your post. You seem to think you're powerless and that judging isn't something you can control. You CAN control it. You should reflect on this ugly aspect of your character and work on it.

You are responsible for your own feelings. Your discomfort and emotional response to 'a fat lady in yoga pants' is a YOU issue. No one other than you is responsible for your feelings and reactions. This is another area you need to work on.

Being disgusted by out of shape people helps some people stay motivated to maintain a good figure/weight/bmi/healthy habits, lest they become a blob in yoga pants.

It's a shame that the motivation for those people is external and not internal. It's a shame their motivation is based in fear and insecurity and not because of the health benefits to themselves.

The more you write the more unbearable you sound. Now, you’re judging other people’s motivations? What right do you have to determine what should or shouldn’t motivate people? Good god you are awful! You are quite possibly the most judgmental, sanctimonious person I have ever encountered and yet there you are preaching at other people to work on themselves. Pot meet kettle!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Some of these last comments are really disgusting. Just because someone has fat rolls or cellulite doesnt mean they cant wear whatever they want. News alert - a fat person wearing yoga pants or jeans is still fat. You will still see them, you will still notice how fat they are, and if youre one of the people above fat shaming, you'll still judge and degrade them.
Let people wear what they want, and stop ogling people in public if it makes you so uncomfortable!

Anyways OP. Your bf sounds like a red piller/incel. Some of that verbiage is straight up from their playbook. I would not date someone who tried to police my clothing.

A person can wear what they want. But, people around them have a right to their opinion and thought. It works both ways. If you're fat and want to wear tight clothes. Fine. But, it's also fine for people who see you to judge you and think it's gross.

It goes both ways.

I'd rather someone be comfortable and confident than throw shade. YMMV, and if it makes you feel better to degrade and make fun of someone else, that's your own issue.

And your issue is you want everyone to see you through the eyes of your mother and think you are beautiful just as you are. We aren’t mom and you’re not beautiful.

I'm not talking about myself, I'm talking about all women.

Sorry you are such a hateful negative person. I try to treat people with love and kindness instead of disdain and poison. It really costs nothing to be a nice person. It costs nothing to move your eyes away from someone you find so disgusting. Good luck.

NP, I don’t go around telling people they’re ugly, still I can’t help but judge a fat lady in yoga pants. Believe me, I’m not alone. It’s gross to let yourself go that far that you’re obese and it’s even grosser that you wear yoga pants to show it off. And everyone’s supposed to support you for some reason. Personally, I think people like that a huge narcissists are who think the world revolves around them. They have no interest in other people’s comfort or feelings. They are not nice people.

There's a lot to unpack in your post. You seem to think you're powerless and that judging isn't something you can control. You CAN control it. You should reflect on this ugly aspect of your character and work on it.

You are responsible for your own feelings. Your discomfort and emotional response to 'a fat lady in yoga pants' is a YOU issue. No one other than you is responsible for your feelings and reactions. This is another area you need to work on.

No, the issue is you. How dare you tell other people how they are supposed to think and feel and perceive the world around them?Get over yourself and your fat ass.

LOL! Your faux outrage! You should be used to people calling out your biases and discrimination. There's increasing awareness that obesity isn't a character flaw that people like you think it is. Obese people shouldn't hide themselves away any more than people with disabilities should. Of course, I suppose you are uncomfortable with people with disabiliites being in public and would prefer the days when they were kept out of public. Again, that's a YOU issue. No one is responsible for your feelings and reactions but you.

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Look like this in yoga pants and you can wear there anywhere. No man will complain - none

A classy man would complain. Those outfits are wholly inappropriate for the bookstore. Also, the lady in the blue’s behind is much too big to keep uncovered like that.

No one's bum is uncovered, all these women are wearing pants.

Are you gay? Nothing wrong with it. Maybe you just dont like looking at women in tight clothing?

I’m not a man. She needs to wear real pants and/or a dress or a loose fitting shirt to disguise how incredibly huge her behind is. I would if that were my behind.

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is upset because I wore yoga pants around him. We went to a bookstore and to grab a cup of coffee. He says yoga pants are for doing yoga, and that if he puts in real clothes to see me I should do the same.

He is testing your boundaries. Abusive men often do this for a considerable period of time before beginning abuse. It conditions you to ignore your own boundaries. I positions him as entitled to expect you to change what is for most people an entirely personal choice. If makes your relationship transactional - if you love/are interested in me, you will do things the way I like and avoid things that might make me unhappy, irritated or angry.

It's better to end relationships with people like this when they violate boundaries. You are an adult women who can dress herself and probably doesn't need fashion advice from men. You're better off finding a guy who trusts you to dress yourself and likes your choices even when they are not what he expected.

Yup.

Sounds like many men on here are also abusers based on their behavior and posts here.

💯 agree. I am finding myself in the divorce process because I have catered to DHs needs and preferences since we dated and ignored all red flags. Now I work full time, raise the dc with no help, do all the housework, pay all the bills and do all the cooking.

He didn’t like my short hair, I grew it out. He Liked thicker eyebrows- I stopped getting them waxed-he wanted to name our kid his preferred name, we did. 20 years of this and I realize I lost myself completely and am just now working to get back to me.

Wear your yoga pants and find a partner that likes the dolled up look and the messy bun yoga pants look- who likes you for you.

Totally. You sound like a bad ass. Good luck finding yourself again after 20 years of being beaten down! You got this!