Would you move your 15-year-old across the country for a new dream job?

[Anonymous]

Most kids who have moved as teens adapt more quickly to the move into college. It encourages independence in a very practical way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most kids who have moved as teens adapt more quickly to the move into college. It encourages independence in a very practical way.

Those who don’t move as teens will adapt to college regardless.

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely move if I were you, and if your kid is anything like I was, because I would have loved the adventure.

You know your own teenager, though, so do what's right for you both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would absolutely move if I were you, and if your kid is anything like I was, because I would have loved the adventure.

You know your own teenager, though, so do what's right for you both.

The kid is not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most kids who have moved as teens adapt more quickly to the move into college. It encourages independence in a very practical way.

Those who don’t move as teens will adapt to college regardless.

not as fast though, usually.

Is there one poster on this thread who is very afraid of change?? It really sounds like it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most kids who have moved as teens adapt more quickly to the move into college. It encourages independence in a very practical way.

Those who don’t move as teens will adapt to college regardless.

not as fast though, usually.

Is there one poster on this thread who is very afraid of change?? It really sounds like it

I think so.
With a raise like that I’d probably give my kid a car or some cash to soften the blow

[Anonymous]

It depends on the situation. My husband moved mid high school and said it was the best thing that ever happened to him. He moved from and extremely rural area to a big city. He said it completely changed his life and opened opportunities.

He also says he would not move our kids even though we have had the opportunity for work. We live in an area where they have a lot and moving them as teens would be so disruptive at this point.

Is your kid struggling with your current home environment and this would give him more? It doesn’t sound like it. I wouldn’t do it to a teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most kids who have moved as teens adapt more quickly to the move into college. It encourages independence in a very practical way.

Those who don’t move as teens will adapt to college regardless.

not as fast though, usually.

Is there one poster on this thread who is very afraid of change?? It really sounds like it

So what if it’s not as fast. And you don’t know that either.

[Anonymous]

If my kid was happy and doing well, no I wouldn't move. It's not about being afraid of change, if things are going well why mess with it?? Yes, it could work out, but what if it doesn't

[Anonymous]

Do the move. Ignore the one parent repeatedly saying “horrible advice”

Happy mom means happy family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my kid was happy and doing well, no I wouldn't move. It's not about being afraid of change, if things are going well why mess with it?? Yes, it could work out, but what if it doesn't

Because it is a once in a lifetime dream job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my parents did this to me when I was 16, so I moved the summer before Junior year. I did OK, but the adjustment was really intense.

I went from a working class upstate NY small town to an UMC giant public school in a big southern city. That city had a ton of transplants, so that helped -- I wasn't anywhere close to the only new person. The level of schoolwork was much more rigorous (though my upstate NY school actually sent more kids to Ivies), so that was a wake-up call.

I had some casual friendships at that school but never really grew to love any of those kids, but we did move to a state with a good university system and I went to the state flagship (UNC) and actually loved it made some of my closest life friends there. So that part, perhaps, worked out.

I have to say, I wonder all the time what my life would have been like if we had stayed in NY. before the move, I was a straight A honors student, all-state violinist, ran track and field. After the move I was so depressed, none of those things remained true. I'm glad to have gotten out of that small town, but the move was really destabilizing and just sad. I ended up doing OK, but I wonder all the time what life would have been like if we had stayed there.

Were u on the Ivy track at your old school?

Like at 16 were you on track to other former 16 year old who ended up going Ivy?

Definitely possible. In addition to staight A etc, I was a national merit scholar finalist. My brother did go to an Ivy. So, If i had been an NMFS and also kept up my grades and my all-state violining, who knows?

[Anonymous]

Definitely not. My parents did this to me after 9th grade and it was so hard for me. It took me forever to make friends, and it was really traumatizing. And I wasn't a delicate flower--I had survived some hard things in my early childhood.

For my little sister, my parents purposely waited until she had graduated before they moved for job purposes. Lesson learned.

[Anonymous]

Is the dream job in a cool location?

[Anonymous]

Only if I wanted my family to live there long term. What if the dream job doesn’t work out or isn’t so dreamy?