Embarrassed about thoughts I had about my husbands friend and my husband.

[Anonymous]

I had a fantasy pop into my head about my husband’s friend and the three of us. I’d had three glasses of wine at a barbecue, and we were playing a silly adults only card game with a lot of innuendo.

I woke up this morning and feel embarrassed and ashamed. The fantasy is always better than the reality, I love my husband and we have a very active intimate life.

Just wondering if anyone else had experienced the same … or had other fantasies that never came to fruition.

[Anonymous]

It’s normal to fantasize about others. Nothing to be ashamed of.

[Anonymous]

This is more fun if you tell us what your fantasy was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is more fun if you tell us what your fantasy was.

Op here. It’s just 1,2,3.

[Anonymous]

If you're embarrassed, you need to have more fantasies, OP. I promise you your husband isn't worried about his!

[Anonymous]

Baby.

It would be abnormal NOT to have such fantasies.

Everyone has them. You're late to the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Baby.

It would be abnormal NOT to have such fantasies.

Everyone has them. You're late to the party.

Haha thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Baby.

It would be abnormal NOT to have such fantasies.

Everyone has them. You're late to the party.

The issue is that she is essentially reliving the fantasy and seeking validation for it by posting about it to internet strangers rather than discussing it with her husband or her own therapist in private.

Women who seek validation for these kinds of fantasies also tend to try to make them a reality. There is no doubt she was heavily flirting with the friend perhaps under her husband's nose and outside his awareness.. If she told her husband he would immediately shut it down and perhaps end the friendship or at least ask her to go to therapy Jer concealing it from her husband is not white cheating but it is emotional deception. He has a right to know that the son called fantasy involves a real person in her social circle that she can access to and escalate whenever she decides to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Baby.

It would be abnormal NOT to have such fantasies.

Everyone has them. You're late to the party.

The issue is that she is essentially reliving the fantasy and seeking validation for it by posting about it to internet strangers rather than discussing it with her husband or her own therapist in private.

Women who seek validation for these kinds of fantasies also tend to try to make them a reality. There is no doubt she was heavily flirting with the friend perhaps under her husband's nose and outside his awareness.. If she told her husband he would immediately shut it down and perhaps end the friendship or at least ask her to go to therapy Jer concealing it from her husband is not white cheating but it is emotional deception. He has a right to know that the son called fantasy involves a real person in her social circle that she can access to and escalate whenever she decides to.

You sound no fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a fantasy pop into my head about my husband’s friend and the three of us. I’d had three glasses of wine at a barbecue, and we were playing a silly adults only card game with a lot of innuendo.

I woke up this morning and feel embarrassed and ashamed. The fantasy is always better than the reality, I love my husband and we have a very active intimate life.

Just wondering if anyone else had experienced the same … or had other fantasies that never came to fruition.

If you’re playing that sort of card game in mixed company and your husband hasn’t expressed disapproval of your fantasy, he might be into it. Dip your toe in!

[Anonymous]

This is normal. Enjoy it. Have you always felt shame around your fantasies?

[Anonymous]

OP do you take care of business yourself? Most women do, and they aren't always thinking of their partners.

[Anonymous]

Jesus. You had a fantasy about getting eiffel towered by two adult men. You're acting like you're a pedophile or something.

Calm down and go rub one out or something.

[Anonymous]

Have you discussed with your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. You had a fantasy about getting eiffel towered by two adult men. You're acting like you're a pedophile or something.

Calm down and go rub one out or something.

She wants to eff the friend.

And she will, if the friend is game.

She's just looking for validation here.